Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online


Whether your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is using Facebook, or other sites like Ashleymadison.com, it is possible to find out if he or she is cheating on you.

Catch him cheatingChat-rooms and social-networking websites like Facebook or Ashleymadison.com have made it easier than ever to make new friends, flirt, and even have full-blown love-affairs online. Throw in a low-cost web-cam and you can imagine the fun that he or she might be having behind your back when you aren't around. Is he or she suddenly acting differently? Being more secretive, especially around the computer? Is he or she online during all hours of the night? Is he or she accusing YOU of cheating (guilt avoidance & projecting)? Or, is something just not right in the relationship? If any of this sounds familiar to you, then you might have a cheater on your hands. Even if it's "online only" cheating, it could eventually lead to something more serious. Of course for most people even an online-only relationship behind your back is not acceptable.

Try a 'keylogger'* on your PC - The easiest way to catch him! (or her)

What most cheaters do not realize is that the computer they use to cheat on you with can very easily give them away. Today there are many software packages that you can secretly install onto your computer* to easily and silently track their every move, record every keystroke, take snapshots of the screen and even crack email passwords. These software programs* will run on Windows or Apple computers, are very easy to install and use, and are undetectable to anti-spyware programs or antivirus programs. These programs can be downloaded directly from the internet and installed in minutes. 

 

Most parental control/keylogger programs run on virtually all versions of Windows, can be installed 'discreetly' (nobody will know), and will record everything typed on the computer for your review at a later time.  These programs are usually not cheap - but they work quite well.

 

If he (or she) is cheating, it's easy to find out for sure

By using one of the many commercially available cheating spouse, chat monitor, or key-logging programs* you can find out for sure if your husband (or wife!) really is doing things behind your back. Stop wondering and find out for sure - no matter the outcome, you will be happier in the long-run.

  

* *This type of software is intended for use only on a computer owned by you.  Installing this type of software on a computer not owned by you, or without the consent of the owner of the computer is illegal in most states/countries.

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melvb76K
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Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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Whatever the issue you have do take care you are acting legally in the state you live or elsewhere in the world.. Lots of legal options online...
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I think my boyfriend is cheating he wont give me any passwords or look through his phone. What do I do. I just want to go in his email and see what hes really doin but I dont want him 2 know
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Run away as fast as you can! If he follows with his passwords then you have nothing to worry about.... Look up Narcissism and see if it describes him. Good Luck!
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
My boyfriend cheats on me

Hi

I have been cheated on numerous times. Every time it gets worse. I have suspected this a long time ago but whevever I ask (with proof), i get thrown every lie and every cover up possible. My boyfriend is from overseas and I am s mother of one. I have found e-mails, whattsapp, text messages, numbers that were erased, i basically had to become a spy. I sometimes feel as if I cannot do it anymore. when he went overseas (without me), and upon return, I checked the call logs, etc. Apparently, he had forgotten to log out of a website that he had created. It was an online web page seeking women of a certain category. I was appalled and he still denied everything. Now i have to deal with pictures of him that he took out of his private areas etc (God knows for whom??) of which he supposedly forgotten to delete off his phone at night. I also work night shifts which is a perfect opportunity for the cat to play when the mouse is away. i am in the medical field and I am a very strong woman. However, when it comes to matters of the heart, it feels as if one has dedicated their entire life to that person and what do you get in return???? Unfortunately social media, porn and other related sites are easily accessible which is a disadvantage to honest people.......
Thank you for your website... If only i had known earlier..

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: My boyfriend cheats on me
I am with you! it happens to me as well.... what about if we help each other to catch them?? like you add him and try to chat with him and I do the same with your boyfriend.. wouldn't be awesome we videochat with them and then join the conversation just to see their faces shocked?? LOL
Busted you (not verified)
Re: My boyfriend cheats on me
Let's do that!!!! That would be amazing and gratifying! I would kill to see his face! Priceless!!!! Let me know what you want to do and we can exchange information and figure it out! Smile
melvb76K
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Re: My boyfriend cheats on me
I think I told you lets do it but I dont know how to navigate thru this site very well and cant tell so holla back whenever and we can figure it out. i know its late but its the only time I can ever have quiet free time because dealin with kids all day
Wiser (not verified)
Re: My boyfriend cheats on me

You cannot change him. You can only change you.

You cannot expect a pathological liar to tell you the truth.
You cannot expect a serial cheater to be monogamous.
You cannot expect a sex addict to stop posting photos of his genitals on adult hook-up sites.

If you're tired of his behavior, get out of the relationship. What's the point of having a boyfriend like that? What you want is a man who is honest... or no man at all.

melvb76K
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Re: My boyfriend cheats on me
No man all is freakin awesome right now, I did leave and I totally wasnt trying to change him in anyway but for the better of himself. Aside from his deception and cheating I did care about him as the father of my baby girl and wanted him to be happy and tried to teach and show different ways of looking at things and how to handle conflict instead of being the one who creates it in hopes of not teaching my baby negative behaviors When I found out I think I might of had a tear almost come to surface but it went away I looked at all the things that factored into from his childhood and put my big girl pants on gave it the ol 2yr college try but I mostly did it for the nookie J/J but Really my advice to anyone who listens is Dont look to any man/woman to define your self worth and value as a person, know who you are and what you believe is right and wrong dont let anyone ever make you doubt yourself and feel less of a person. People that choose to be deceptive and sneaky continously obviously have no self worth and they dont value their self
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Read private browsing history?

Hi all would like to know how to see what he is looking at on his iphone.
I found an email from a lady just saying hi but it was from hookup website . When I check his history there isn't anything there
I think he uses private before typing websites.when I caught him out before he says he didn't look at it kids used his phone. I work all day he's home alone I got to bed early he's up late .
It's driving me crazy . How can I access if he puts it on private.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Read private browsing history?
open a window on his computer, Go to the settings, click advanced settings, under privacy, click content settings, under cookies click "all cookies and site data" This will be basically a list of every website he ever went to. even when browsing privately in incognito mode. hopefully he's not smart enough to erase it. if you find something, DO NOT tell him how you found it. otherwise you'll never be able to use it again. He'll just begin erasing it. btw, these are instructions for a mac, so not sure if it is similar everywhere else, but likely.
Jen Rider (not verified)
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Help please, I know he is I've just never had a boyfriend before
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

Hello everyone. BELIEVE me when I say I know ALL too well how painful it is to be cheated on. I am currently still going through it myself. Its a VERY long story and its been going on 9 years. I know "why haven't you left" well, not only has my husband been cheating on me, he has done a multitude of things to destroy not only my soul, but a way out with 3 kids.
There is good news in this though! Actually 2 great things about this! The first is, I am finally strong enough to leave and currently working on it. I WILL leave this POS. The second is I have now become a master PI and I am here to help!

I read many of the posts but not all. To those who are wanting to find information, this is what you should do:
1) His/Her Phone (NOTE* My experience with phones is on Android phones with SIM Cards, and Google Play. This MAY not work for some people.):
There are an array of apps that can hide anything they want to hide. Texts messages, pictures, phone logs, etc. Here are a few examples of those apps, (Vaulty, Hide it Pro, SMS and Call Blocker) There will be a password on these apps. But do not worry if you are unable to guess them. Just study the phone and download them onto your phone. Once you have them downloaded, create your own password. Take out their SD card and/or SIM card and insert them into your phone. Now this can be tricky if the person was smart enough to use a SIM card lock. Some do not even know that is an option but if there is one, try 123 and simple numeric numbers like that. You should also try birthdays and such. This does not always work but hey, you gotta try right!

"What if you cannot get into the phone to begin with because there is a passcode and then cannot see what apps are installed?"
2) Now we move on to the email(s)My knowledge is with Google Play on this one but you can still try if its another Play store that I am not aware of. Login to their email account. Once on the email page and after you hopefully scanned all the folders for evidence, you click the squares that are on the top right of the screen by the profile information. That is where the apps are at. Click on the PLAY icon and a new window or tab will pop up. The bottom left screen shows "MY RECENT ACTIVITY". Click that first and see what they have been doing lately. After you check that, go to the top left of the previous page and click APPS. A new window or tab opens up and that is where you can view all the apps installed on the phone. You will will see a little green check on the apps showing that it is installed. Furthermore, you should click on the apps that you feel are "fishy". They will show you the date it was installed and you can scroll all the way down for further information about the app in question and the makers of the app.
This is how you can download the same apps to your phone. *NOTE* If the app shows it was installed, it does not mean that it is still installed. It just shows you that they have installed it and on what date. ADDITIONALLY, you should type in the search bar while under the APPS page for words like "HIDE" "BLOCK" "MESSENGER" Any words you can think of that could pertain to cheating or hiding stuff. Then insert their SIM card and/or SD card to obtain access to those apps.

"What if I do not have their email password either?"
3) Download any Keylogger/Screen shot onto your computer. There are many that are free or have a free trial version. I personally do not like the free trial ones because after the trial is up, you cannot obtain those logs and sometimes even if you end up buying the program the logs are lost. Here is one I did a quick google search on http://download.cnet.com/Free-Keylogger-Pro/3000-2162_4-75886072.html PLEASE read the cons! You want to unclick all unnecessary things that are trying to download as well. Follow the instructions on hiding the logger. Make sure to not install a shortcut that they could see. After you downloaded and install the program, go to your downloads folder and either erase the logger there or rename it and/or change the picture to something that looks like it came with the computer. Give it some time and check it when the other person is not there. You will get more than just the email password if your I guess, "lucky".

4) Voicemails: If you are able to get into their phone and have no password to enter than you are lucky. If you cannot get on their phone but know the password, call them when you know they will not answer. Let the Voicemail pick up and when it starts talking, press **. It will prompt you to enter * again and then the phone number you want the voicemail from. Enter that persons number and then password. And your in!

5) Finding secret emails, usernames, anything really: A keylogger is best! But if you want more, I found that Intelius works pretty good. Spokeo is good sometimes. It all depends.

6) Go through the phone records! Check picture messaging, weird numbers, weird hours, Bank statements, the car, pockets, wallets, purses, you name it, you search it!
*NOTE* It is VERY IMPORTANT that you screen shot EVERYTHING when looking at the apps, SAVE EVERYTHING, name is something else, send it to your email, a friend or family member you trust, save it on a disc, print it out, and do whatever you must to keep that information because if they find out, they will destroy it!
Now with that being said, I saw a post that someone said something along the lines of "Why do you need physical evidence when you know in your heart and mind they are cheating. You will never get them to admit the truth." I understand that totally! Even though I understand what they are saying, I personally get vindication that I can show them I know what they are doing. I then pray they will confess, and it has lead me to him "bleeding the truth out", which means he tells me some but not all. Just a little background on my situation, my husband was recently arrested for solicitation of prostitution. He denies the whole thing of course but I could not let that go. I had to know the truth! Our car was towed and a certified letter came. He opened it and tore it up and threw it away. He tied the bag up and put it outside. He left later that day and I got it out. I called the tow to ask for a physical address of where my car was towed from. They did not have an exact only what I had which was cross streets. She offered me the number to the guy who towed the car. I called him up (mind you this was like 2 weeks later) but he remembered everything! He told me it was an actual undercover sting! He gave me the address of where it took place and where the car was picked up from because apparently, the cops did not want to blow their cover and arrested him 4 miles down the road. It then lead me to more information like his records. He has had two court dates reset so it is still ongoing. I submitted and open records report, which I might add some women/men should do as well because you NEVER know. This information is open to the public if the person was found guilty or differed adjudication. His case involves audio and possible video. There is no way he can deny that and to be able to see his face (he has no clue that I have done this or has no clue its public records) will bring me some joy to know that he now knows I am better than him! That is just one thing he has done. TRUST me when I say its been BAD!!!

So ladies and gentlemen, I hope I have helped somewhat in your fight to know the truth. Its exhausting I know and when your cooking, cleaning, driving, and doing normal everyday things and suddenly have a thought or are reminded of how hurt you are, you just start balling. My heart actually hurts. I never thought I could actually live because the pain is so bad that I can barely breathe. Hang in there guys and know your better than they are. Know you are worth loving and your feelings are very valid. I am trying to do the same.

Anonymous Visitor TM (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Well I work on it to I going back to get my BA in DIGITAL CINEMATOGRAPHY with Sails university I just can tell you all to do the same then this is the only way out to get stronger while he Sucks the love that you give to him out of you replace it with knowledge and use it against him to be a survivor that get in gear to fake it until you make it. I agree that you must get your things strait so you can leave and give your children the best you can be. I am very sorry that people do that mine he is sneaky luring lies all the time and hide things I see everything and I'm done with the knowledge that I found out about all his crap so I say move on is the only way out be smart not stupid like him.. Recently he divides on the phone bill with sprint that he controlled what I see and what not also he has several emails because I send him emails to the main and they did not arrive so what it tells you is that he lies again.. Love to you all
Wiser (not verified)
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I am SOOOOO with you, sister! Good job on the info above. I hope you don't mind if I share it!

My husband started cheating with prostitutes in 2001, but I didn't find out until 2010. Fortunately, his brother discovered it in 2002 (although he didn't tell me) and my DH left a nice internet trail.

Like you, I've been super sleuth as I prepare for my divorce. If you are dealing with a sex addict (and if your husband or boyfriend is going to these hookup websites, he probably is), it helps to be aware you probably are also dealing with personality disorders and mood disorders which make it likely he will BLAME YOU no matter what evidence you have. That's okay. Understand that he isn't likely to admit, he isn't likely to apologize, and he isn't likely to change.

It's YOUR CHOICE what you're going to do about that.

In general, if you decide to leave, he will do his damnedest to make your life miserable, because that's part of his disorder. All of it comes out of his own misery, which probably has roots in damage done to him way back in his miserable childhood. In some ways, I feel sorry for my miserable spouse, but I also hold him accountable for his behavior.

I have been trying to get a divorce for nearly 3 years. He won't cooperate. He won't negotiate, and when he lost his job due to his "internet activities," he blamed me for it.

The law doesn't do much to protect us from sexually addicted bottom-meany-roonies, but we can CHOOSE to take positive actions to improve our lives.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
If he has restored the factory settings can you still find stuff in the phone? It still has pictures and a video he downloaded on it.
Busted You (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Anonymous Visitor wrote:

If he has restored the factory settings can you still find stuff in the phone? It still has pictures and a video he downloaded on it.

I named myself (a different name of course lol) so you can tell it is me that is responding. I wrote the first post you replied to as well.
I am not sure I understand your question completely but I will try my best. Smile
When you say he restored the factory settings, do you mean he wiped the apps off of his phone but still has the pictures and videos? If that is the case then I would suggest going to his email and seeing the apps from there. Like I said before, you can tell if any app was installed by his google email account. Google saves it as installed even when they uninstall it from their phone.
Another suggestion would be to either email the pictures and videos to yourself or use a USB cord to connect his phone to the computer and upload the pictures and videos to the computer. If you cannot get onto his phone, take his SD card out and either put it in your phone or if you have a camera card, insert the SD card that way.
Does he have a google email you can get into? Does he have a SIM card or just an SD card?

Wiser (not verified)
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Busted You, I am totally on the same page with you! I do my PI work as well. I posted here about other ways to "sleuth" on computers and adult accounts. YOU GO, GIRL!!!
Busted You (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Thank you and same to you! I need to search for your posts then! I am currently trying to get an app that I can download to my husbands phone that will log his activities. Smile Having trouble though because of the way it has to be done. He has a lock on that phone ALWAYS and I cannot crack the latest code. He is wising up. :/ I want to see if I can insert his SD card and SIM card to my phone and download it that way. Then I would have to see if it would upload automatically so that he would not know anything. I have seen a few but all of them require direct download to the phone itself. In a perfect world I would have that code! Yesterday he left his phone with my son who then dropped the phone in the stroller as I was walking into the restroom at the store to change my other sons diaper. I quickly pressed buttons to keep it on and went through it. lol He erased some texts from the night before. He spent 3 hours on that phone faithfully texting and the people he "claimed" to be texting were not on there but other stuff was. So red flags there. Also some pictures he downloaded of women. Makes me sick and so angry! So I didn't mention it to him but he tried to say a joke about him being "big" or something like that later that day. I came back with "I seen bigger" and he got upset. lol Hey I had to get my jab in someway! lol But I don't see why that would make him mad if he is living a double life! Its ok for him but not me and I am just joking! Imagine if I would cheat on him! Even though some friends and my sister say I should cheat on him, I don't. I just don't have it in me. I'm still a married woman and I'm just not like that. I wish I could though!
Wiser (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

Start reading up on Narcissistic Personality Disorder. That is likely what you're dealing with. He's not going to change. He's not going to get better.

You cannot win with a narcissist. You just have to circle your horses, protect yourself and your kids, and go to court.

Busted You (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I swear I have thought that for so so long! Especially in college! The funniest thing about this is he just changed his major to psychology! I laughed and told him that I cannot wait for him to get into the personality disorders. That is if he even acknowledges his issues. But I am leaving him. We have an agreement at the moment until I get a car and then its over.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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If you suspect your partner is cheating don't just sit with your head in the sand!

Check them out look for the signs and put your mind at rest

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
My husband was cheating on Facebook
I found out that my husband was cheating online with a married woman in 2009. I found out that it started again the end of 2013. I confronted him the first time and he told me it was just "fantasy". The first time they met face to face he made it out to be a "family outing" he took me and our son with him to meet her (our son just turned 15). He spends all his time on facebook. He will stay up almost all night on there. He hardly spend anytime with our son muchless me. Of course it all boils down to being my fault. He has ALOT of pictures of women saved in his phone, he has told me that he saved them to send to me, but i have found out some of them he has sent to heron facebook im. I have found accounts that he has on pinterst that he said was stuff he had pinned ti sent to me because it said pinned "for her" and i found out that they were not for me(i didnt have a pintrest account) until i found his and then i went in and followed him and repinned some of it so he would know that i knew. I have also found a tumblr acct. I'm not good with the internet (I HAVE COME TO HATE IT!!!) I dont know where to go or how to find these different sites. I want to find out all his passwords so i can try to get into his accts. He has all kinds of security on the laptop and his phone. Can anyone help me please..... I have been so stressed out over all of this it has literally made me sick.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: My Boyfriend Keeps Cheating Online
Hi, when I first started dating my boyfriend of almost 11 months I caught him talking to so many other girls on his phone and using apps like KIK to talk to people. There were pictures being sent and received and I was heartbroken. But being me I kept forgiving him and for the last seven or eight months I haven't caught him doing anything. Granted he lost his phone and hasn't had one so that is probably why he hasn't. But two weeks ago he went to his moms house for a week and I stayed here. She gave him a phone to use and when I found out I was scared to death. But I tried to trust him and let it go. The other day when he was sleeping I put in his code and saw it all over again. He had been texting and messaging girls on KIK and a texting app. There were also more pictures of naked girls that had been sent to him and pictures that he took and sent. I said I forgive you but now he wont put the phone down and he changed his code and Im about to freak out. HELP!!!!
Janet (not verified)
Re: My Boyfriend Keeps Cheating Online
Here is the only thing that will help: BREAK UP WITH HIM NOW! I gave you help. Now whether or not you are smart enough to help yourself is up to you. It's not that complicated.
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if your boyfriend is cheating online

I literally do not have much to say compared to you..except, I have Crohns, and help my mother by paying bills and support her with the house..my father never was around, and my mother is disabled and needs surgery soon..honestly, I have had to be the strong one for 18 years now, I am 32 year old..I basically had to get 2 books about lie detection in order to see through the lies..firstly, there was a study saying our part of the brain that figures out if we should trust this person or not, is shut down when we fall in love. Maybe that correct, but I know for a fact people want to believe in others, and we want to trust them..at the same time, they do not want to lie, so they give away themselves..sometimes subtly, sometimes obvious..but its all human nature. Well I realized, that my ex's, profile pictures were posted online on a dating site, and worst part was her and her friend took the pictures right next to me..and the friend acts like she is my friend, and preaches about the bible and not liking liars..well if she put my ex online or if my ex did it..either way she knew, and she did mention anything to me..if that is not a lie, that is like getting half the answer right..its still wrong..sorry no extra points for showing your work..if she doesnt want to tell me..dont set it up, or tell my ex not to because she had a good man, that did not cheat, and only could think about her morning and night..the kicker is, we all live on the same street..so it is not like this friend didnt know me, I watch her kids, and taught her boys how to throw..it is one thing to offer an opinion about how you do not think we should be, but no need to take it in your own hands..let fate take its course..

I also think the relationship I was in was emotionally abusive as I come out feeling like the bottom-meany-roonie, when she is on a dating site, not one, not two , but 3 of them! I have always believed in being honest, and I have fucked up in the worst ways as well..but the Bible says, let the blameless and the innocent be Vindicated by the Lord..so not that I do not agree with anyone's idea of taking everything from people..but then you never get to experience what the Lord would do to Vindicate you, and I am sure, it is better then anything you could..I say prove what you need, get the things you rightfully deserve, including the cheating..but do not for one moment put any monetary value, or the destruction of another above you and your well being!! I feel like you got so obsessed with these negative ideas and thoughts, that you never think about you, and your life..I say leave his ass as fast as possible, and leave it to your lawyer to get someone like a PI to prove he cheated..I say you focus on you, and positive, and the rest of your life away from that bottom-meany-roonie..do not give him one second longer of your time, for any reason..because you are better then that, and anyone who has been treated poorly, dont justify, dont sink to their level, rise above..literally, my mother went through this, and guys, and she started joking in a negative way, and one day it became who she was..a negative person, who put the only person there for her down, who she would speak bad about me and made me feel horrible and try to be better, and when I did everything she wanted..it didnt stop, so when she would need me, every time I would ask her to stop talking bad about me, and she wouldnt..it wasnt until recently that she realized that not thinking before saying or doing, can really hurt others around or near you, and when it has no grounds except you got in a bad habit..is it worth it..I had to make her realize, me, her son, who helped her still, but wasnt as much as now, the person who did not ask to be her son, suffer, and it is all okay, because she suffered growing up..Point being, imagine that negativity surrounding you, and then becoming you..until you child has that talk with you.. Dont let yourself suffer any longer, and do not let those around you suffer either..get away from this man, and then worry about ruining him..but maybe instead of focusing on negative, try to see the positive, that would be a damn awesome quality to find in a woman, not that anyone here doesnt have that quality, but when it seems like you are alone, God is carrying you, have faith that you will be Vindicated..and for people who do not have faith..honestly too bad..there is a god, I wish there was a debate, but I think they even discover the god particle..

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