Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online


Whether your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is using Facebook, or other sites like Ashleymadison.com, it is possible to find out if he or she is cheating on you.

Catch him cheatingChat-rooms and social-networking websites like Facebook or Ashleymadison.com have made it easier than ever to make new friends, flirt, and even have full-blown love-affairs online. Throw in a low-cost web-cam and you can imagine the fun that he or she might be having behind your back when you aren't around. Is he or she suddenly acting differently? Being more secretive, especially around the computer? Is he or she online during all hours of the night? Is he or she accusing YOU of cheating (guilt avoidance & projecting)? Or, is something just not right in the relationship? If any of this sounds familiar to you, then you might have a cheater on your hands. Even if it's "online only" cheating, it could eventually lead to something more serious. Of course for most people even an online-only relationship behind your back is not acceptable.

Try a 'keylogger'* on your PC - The easiest way to catch him! (or her)

What most cheaters do not realize is that the computer they use to cheat on you with can very easily give them away. Today there are many software packages that you can secretly install onto your computer* to easily and silently track their every move, record every keystroke, take snapshots of the screen and even crack email passwords. These software programs* will run on Windows or Apple computers, are very easy to install and use, and are undetectable to anti-spyware programs or antivirus programs. These programs can be downloaded directly from the internet and installed in minutes. 

 

Most parental control/keylogger programs run on virtually all versions of Windows, can be installed 'discreetly' (nobody will know), and will record everything typed on the computer for your review at a later time.  These programs are usually not cheap - but they work quite well.

 

If he (or she) is cheating, it's easy to find out for sure

By using one of the many commercially available cheating spouse, chat monitor, or key-logging programs* you can find out for sure if your husband (or wife!) really is doing things behind your back. Stop wondering and find out for sure - no matter the outcome, you will be happier in the long-run.

  

* *This type of software is intended for use only on a computer owned by you.  Installing this type of software on a computer not owned by you, or without the consent of the owner of the computer is illegal in most states/countries.

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Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
if your boyfriend is cheating
I recently caught my boyfriend online one night when I visited him unexpectedly his bedroom door was locked and I could hear him inside scrambling around at first I thought he had someone with him (wouldn't surprise me at this point )I just found out that he's been seeing and screwing some other chick, that's why I was left alone during the holidays to include New Years (even rented a tuxedo from what I've been told -nice huh? - right now I am so devastated and hurt - I am a disabled veteran with ptsd and other military other military related issues I don't want to mention- I placed my trust in him and bared my soul to him basically our sex was always great and I hadn't been able to really trust anyone since my incident in the military (he always seemed like a "nice guy", very charming and sweet- now I just see how manipulative and deceiving he is- they sure know just what to say and do don't they?) and now I am back to square one with the trust issues, not to mention it has retraumatized me - I wish to god the VA or some other organization could get these bottom-meany-roonies for f'ing with peoples emotions - I would love for someone like Cheaters to step in and call him on his shut - he would always tell me that I was insecure and jealous gee I wonder why? they also like throwing you the quilt trip - he would play games with my mind - personally I like to see the bastard (I won't go there)- back to catching him ; when he opened his door he was butt naked and so I thought hmmm? When I walked around to the other side of his bed I saw his lap top computer that he hidden underneath the bed/headboard so I asked why he was hiding it once I started questioning him about what the f_ _ k he was doing he became angry and got aggressive and threw me down on the floor and told his son to escort me out of the house. -coward!- real man right ? he also accused me of being intoxicated - when I got home I called the local sheriffs and reported it - right now I am debating whether or not to get a restraining order on him even though he won't probably come around nor contact me he's really good at that, we go to the same gym and I don't want any altercations. The first red flag was that he masturbated all the time - I would wonder gee don't I turn you on enough you have to be doing that all the time? And in a way it bothered me now I know why - so I quest my moral to the story ladies is try using the sneak attack approach if you suspect it (and I did) I would always question him about the porn and of course he would deny it once a liar always a liar -sorry for the long story - no wonder relationships and marriages are torn apart - I don't understand why people get married only to mess around on their spouse ; [. God Bless America ! Support our Troops !
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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Yep it happened to me too, Somehow he forgot to close his mail and I looked Big fn mistake, more than 10 Internet beeeiotches showing their Slutty bodies off on the net! I'm sick of this, I can't see how the real thing Don't phase him and man Im not that bad on the eyes Not too bad in the sac either! But touching a computer and fake relationships Turn them on where is there head at! Jerks
julia1975
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Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
This is for the men out there....... IF YOU HAVE A WOMAN THAT LOVES SEX AND WOULD GIVE IT TO YOU ANYWAY, ANYTIME, ANYWHERE, ANYHOW.... WHY THE HELL WOULD YOU RATHER JERK YOURSELF TO SOMEONE YOU CANT TOUCH, TASTE, SMELL, KISS, HOLD? I GET LOOKING AT PORN THAT I DONT CARE ABOUT BUT WHEN YOU LOOK AT PORN AND TOUCH YOURSELF MORE THAN YOU TOUCH YOUR LIVING BREATHING WOMAN THAN THERES A PROBLEM!!
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
if your husband is cheating online
Amen to that. I do exactly that, i enjoy sex with my husband anytime he wants and we have a great sex life. That is why it is so hard for me to understand why he visits those dating sites, etc.
julia1975
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I am a Grown Up Geek from wilmington, delaware
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Re: if your husband is cheating online
I get that men like to look at porn, i look at porn n will watch it with my fiance. I dont get having a woman layng nxt to you who will do nething you want sexually but they want to jerkoff every chance they get instead of screwing us. Im not a cheater so im not gng to do that but im tired of touchn myself lol. Now im seeing that hes been checking out these Findem, Flirt, Fuckem or Find Local Milfs In Your Area sites. He cant actually get on them cause he has no credit cards, the fact that hes checkin them out means the thought has crossed his mind. That hurts n if i find that keeps dng it im outta here!!!
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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Remember lots of times porn sites open up crap ads like those dont jump to conclusions to fast
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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ive been with my husband for 4 years.. married for a month. we spilt for 5 months because i caught him cheating on me. i let him back in because we have a 3 year he seen her 3 times in 5 months. shaking my head. now i find out he is on online dating sites. i just want to see the profiles for myself then go from there. as sad as it is im hear for my daughter so she has her father my happiness will come later right?
julia1975
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I am a Grown Up Geek from wilmington, delaware
Member for 5 days 13 hours
GuG-Points: 4
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

I stayed with my ex-husband for a long time because of our four children, but sweety you have to realize if you're not happy neither is your daughter. She may only be 3 but she can feel the tension and tell when your upset.
I had to realize just like you have to realize if your not happy she's not happy, plus you dont want her to grow up and deal with the same thing because she thinks it's ok because she saw you keep going thru it. That was what really motivated me. I have three girls and one boy and i ddnt want my girls thinking that they had to just settle and deal wth a man that was constantly cheating and hurting them and i didnt want my son to think it's ok to treat women the way his dad treated me.
I'm a very strong woman but when it came to being heart broken i couldn't be strong. In the end it was my kids that gave me the strength to leave and move on with my life and be happy. When i did my kids and i were all much happier!! What I am saying is that he cheated once he's going to cheat again, i delt wth it for 14 years and i kick myself everyday for it.

You, like me, DESERVE BETTER!! YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER DESERVE A MAN WHO LOVES YOU FOR YOU AND TREATS YOU RIGHT AND DOESNT HURT YOU! Because no matter how much your boyfriend or husband says he loves you no, he doesnt! Love doesnt hurt. So as much as it hurts you need to take your daughter and leave him and no matter how much he says he wont do it again dont believe him. I asked my ex why he did what he did and he said because he knew no matter what he did, I would be there to take him back, and because i allowed it. I basically did because i would take him back and all would be good for a couple of months then he was right back to it, he said i was his safety net, he knew if it didnt work with the other girl or when he was done wth her he could always come home.

So im here to say sweety YOU CAN AND WILL DO BETTER!

jenniferw (not verified)
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I have my boyfriends password to his email and I was wondering if anyone knows how to retrieve old messages that have been erased for awhile? I found an app that can retrieve them for the last month or so,but since I'm looking for older messages{ontop of anythinfg else that can help me} i was wondering if theres a way i can do it.plus, i have his FaceBook password and was wondering if there is anyway at all that I can retrieve deleted conversations{not archived}
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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Well my boyfriend I only know him online. So how am I able to tell. I message him on steam he no longer responds. He might be gay because he has a girl account on a certain game that I am not going to say...But any help would be awesome.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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He probably has a real live girlfriend your just probably the one we catch our boyfriends messing with on the computer duh, And probably he got caught that's why he's not there anymore, You should be ashamed of yourself!
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if my boyfriend is cheating online
hey iv been going through my boyfriend for 6 years and has two kids with that he's been cheating on me online. he said the last time he accessed a dating chat room was 6 months ago. now that he has done it to me a lot im going crazy in my head. he's more careful now I can tell he's good at keeping his phone clean and he's more careful at clearing the history on the web browser on his phone. how do I catch him on dating sites, I have no money to pay spokeo or whatever that site is that gives you information if your guy or girl is cheating and I don't want stuff messing up my computer if I download something to catch him. anybody have any ideas please tell me or help me out. and im happy im not alone
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if my boyfriend is cheating online
Check his 'website date' in advanced setting in his safari or whatever web browser he uses in settings Safari>advanced>website data All websites accessed will be there even if web history is deleted ..
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if my boyfriend is cheating online
Yep that's how I found out the very sad truth I'm in more pain now than ever before
julia1975
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I am a Grown Up Geek from wilmington, delaware
Member for 5 days 13 hours
GuG-Points: 4
Re: Find out if my boyfriend is cheating online
Weve all felt the pain your in sweety n it will get better n i know youve heard all this before, but would you rather be with someone whos lying all the time n hurting you or be hurt n move on? Its better you know.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if my boyfriend is cheating online
I have been going thew for 6 years now he has 124 date sights 30 video chats blocked files the list goes on don't be a fool like me. I gess thesis sis are addicting as I was told. I don't know you but now one deserves it.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I need help can any one help me not good with aps or computers I think my husband of 18years is cheating on me can some one please help me and end my pain. thanks
Fed Up (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
He has an iPhone 5s. I cannot "jailbreak" His phone to install spywear, as many of those types of sites say are the only way to obtain the info I desire. He told me when I confronted him yet AGAIN about his browser history and the live in sex chats he had been visiting for months now. He sweats it's only because he knows I'm searching his phone for that type of crap and he says he's doing it to piss me off...lies! For one, he has 5v different email addresses with matching profiles. It started out as a means of getting more credits and bonuses on the gaming sites He and I both use...but then vi noticed those names were nowhere to be found on our games. I looked in the spam file of the email accounts and low and behold, there was the proof that he was on those sites with time and possibly even money spent while visiting those smut sites. Normally his excuse of they were from when he was with his ex and they'd stopped sleeping together so he sought out the services of these foul websites...ok. I'd have fallen for that one twice had those profiles not been less than 5-6 months old! Duh! Now he seems to be stuck on one site only...Chaturbate. And they say it right at the top of the site page that it is specifically for chatting and masturbating= Chaturbate. And he rarely touches me anymore. The last time he initiated any sexual contact was after, you guessed it, stopping by his new favorite place on the internet. I wanted to throw his phone in the toilet but he just so happens to have a water proof cover on his precious phone...not surprised, I mean with all that chatting and whacking taking place, He cannot lose his best friend,right? So...here is my dilemma: We have no computers or tablets to install any such programs that would give me the exact information that the keylogger claims to be able to provide me with had this been a computer situation. What alternatives are there for an iPhone 5s? I've tried to Google search all his email addresses with no luck. So any better ideas? And spare me with the comments about leaving him or vise versa. I wouldn't be here saying this if it wasn't a warranted idea for a purpose other than to break up. For once being right would be the sweetest satisfaction.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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dam girl id say you have enough proof kick his ass
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I have been going thew this for 6 years. I have caught him he said he would sstop 6 years latter I am pretty sure he is steal on them. I wish I could help you but I have been looking for the same thing. I wish you luck.
Kim Tuffin (not verified)
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The problem with using spyware is it's illegal in many states and countries and any respectable cheater with half a brain will clear his or her online search history or use privacy options on the browser!

Register a suspect cheater with a reputable online Cheater Checker and let them do the hard work for you!

larry labrecque jr (not verified)
Re: Find out if your girlfriend or Wife is cheating online
Found a picture of my Wife on Craigslist! Thing have been weird for 9 months .
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I have found alot of online evidence but he denies everything i need something in black and white, please help me,its a daily torture. Thank you
LKS (not verified)
Re: I think my husband is cheating on me
My husband is constantly on his phone texting and whenever I come near, he quickly hides his phone or closes the window. He also recently switched the notifications on his phone off so I wouldn't see if he was receiving a message and he recently locked his phone. What should I do?
under n over it (not verified)
my fiancee is cheating online
Im positive my fiancee isnt cheating physcially with someone, but online im not so sure. We dont have a computer so we use our phones for everything. I dont care that he looks at porn, but i do care when im not getting any physical attention but once a month if that. Anytime he ask me to answer his phone or smething he always has 12 different things open and there always porn sites and things like meet moms who like to fk in your area. Heres my problem love love love sex and i've never turnd him down for sex i will give it to him anywhere anyhow anytime. So why does he feel the need to jerkoff all the time instead? He swears i still trn him on n says hes just tired n stressed.As a woman it makes me feel unattractive, undesireable. And its not because he has to do all the wrk in bed cause trust me he dsnt. I dint no maybe its all in my head, i have needs to n the fact that his hand gets more action hurts.
Rosey (not verified)
Re: my fiancee is cheating online
It's as if I wrote this myself! Except that I actually forwarded the history to him in a text message from his own phone. Ten I've bookmarked the pages, And other things that make it very obvious that I saw what he'd done. And he must think that I'm an idiot, but truthfully I don't think that he cares one bit if I'm hurt or not. He lies all the time about how the invites BACK to the site got in his email . He even pays for it. So, as best as I can, I try to ruin it for him every chance I get...bathroom too long? Nope. I start standing by the door, asking questions just so that he has to concentrate on the answers. When I leave him at home, I message or call him and don't give him a moment to start his crap. I'm disgusted and tired of the lies myself.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: my fiancee is cheating online
so what makes you stay?
Fed Up (not verified)
Re: my fiancee is cheating online

You asked what makes me stay?
Well, things we're fine before this issue. He had a problem with communication, and judging by the way his Mother had raised him and his siblings, it's no surprise that lying is always his first resort.
When he tells me the truth, and get to the core of our issues, we find resolution. There is a reason we stay together. it's called love. He never loved his ex. He used online satisfaction when things we getting bad.
My dilemma is based on him lying. With no solid proof to hand to him, he's going to continue doing this saying he purposely looks up these sites so I'll see them on his history when I'm snooping. But it's another lie.
I want the evidence that he's engaging activity with the site. I want to know how I can find out his exact doings on there because if he was just on there in different places only long enough for it to show up on his history and not log enough for him to be chatting and cheating, that makes all the difference. But his behavior says other things.
So....if he doesn't love me the way I love him, and would rather be with online whores, jacking off and showing them his dick when I never seem to see it... its over. But I don't know for certain. That's my problem.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: my fiancee is cheating online
WOW I READ YOUR POST AND IM CRYING AND I CANT STOP THAT IS HOW IM FEELING
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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What ever you do always make sure you keep within the law or you could add to your problems!!

Uploading spyware to your partners devices could well be illegal in many states so take care!

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