Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online


Whether your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is using Facebook, or other sites like Ashleymadison.com, it is possible to find out if he or she is cheating on you.

Catch him cheatingChat-rooms and social-networking websites like Facebook or Ashleymadison.com have made it easier than ever to make new friends, flirt, and even have full-blown love-affairs online. Throw in a low-cost web-cam and you can imagine the fun that he or she might be having behind your back when you aren't around. Is he or she suddenly acting differently? Being more secretive, especially around the computer? Is he or she online during all hours of the night? Is he or she accusing YOU of cheating (guilt avoidance & projecting)? Or, is something just not right in the relationship? If any of this sounds familiar to you, then you might have a cheater on your hands. Even if it's "online only" cheating, it could eventually lead to something more serious. Of course for most people even an online-only relationship behind your back is not acceptable.

Try a 'keylogger'* on your PC - The easiest way to catch him! (or her)

What most cheaters do not realize is that the computer they use to cheat on you with can very easily give them away. Today there are many software packages that you can secretly install onto your computer* to easily and silently track their every move, record every keystroke, take snapshots of the screen and even crack email passwords. These software programs* will run on Windows or Apple computers, are very easy to install and use, and are undetectable to anti-spyware programs or antivirus programs. These programs can be downloaded directly from the internet and installed in minutes. 

 

Most parental control/keylogger programs run on virtually all versions of Windows, can be installed 'discreetly' (nobody will know), and will record everything typed on the computer for your review at a later time.  These programs are usually not cheap - but they work quite well.

 

If he (or she) is cheating, it's easy to find out for sure

By using one of the many commercially available cheating spouse, chat monitor, or key-logging programs* you can find out for sure if your husband (or wife!) really is doing things behind your back. Stop wondering and find out for sure - no matter the outcome, you will be happier in the long-run.

  

* *This type of software is intended for use only on a computer owned by you.  Installing this type of software on a computer not owned by you, or without the consent of the owner of the computer is illegal in most states/countries.

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Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
I think my boyfriend is cheating with someone on Facebook
Hi my boyfriend is constantly messaging someone on Facebook when I leave the room and he doesn't bother messaging them when I'm around him I just want to know how can I find out what he is doing? It's on Facebook all this is and I'm just confused
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me
I need help urgent I have a Feeling that my boyfrend is doing something like cheating I need help I don't have money for some kinda software , I'm using a blackberry and he's using a Samsung S3 .I don't get to see him that much so its hard to install some spyware ore something on his phone please help I need to know as soon as posible thank you
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: I think my boyfriend is cheating on me
It will be very difficult to get on his phone and get software installed. my wife has set up multiple profiles on various adult cheating sites. found out one time when she accidentally forgot to logout of her email and then I saw what she was up to. Not sure why I didn't leave her. she has her own phone and computer that shes is very secretive about - who knows what she's up to. Your intuition is probably good like mine is. If you have doubts about a boyfriend don't stay with them - you need to be able to fully trust someone - that means a lot. Good luck.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Find out if your boyfriend is cheating
I just need to know the truth
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SORRY THIS ENDED UP BEING SO LONG, BUT I PRAY THAT MY WORDS CAN HELP AT LEAST ONE HURTING WOMAN... I can honestly say that I know EXACTLY how some of you ladies feel, as far as your man cheating on you. Believe me when I say EXACTLY, because my son (15) has a sibling that is a little more than 3 months younger than him (he is also 15, obviously Lol). Of course THAT is probably going to be much more believable than what I'm about to tell you... the child 3 months younger than my son, is my stepson, yes... I married the guy that cheated on me. But my HUSBAND is NOT the same guy that cheated on me, my husband left "that guy" in the past. He has not cheated on me for 13 1/2 years. We have been together for almost 20, with the exception of the year & a half (while I was pregnant with my now 15 year. old) that we were separated, I was 4 months pregnant when I had to go home, tail between my legs, to mommy & daddy. I worked my butt off for the remainder of my pregnancy- 2 jobs, 40/wk in a gas station, 20/wk in a not-so-little Chinese buffet rest., where I was the ONLY waitress... I RAN my butt off there, (it was WELL worth it, men, especially blue collar, tip VERY WELL to a young, pretty pregnant girl!!!) and I saved tons of money. I lost 56lbs during that pregnancy, all the weight leftover from the pregnancy w/ my then 11 month old, to the point of my midwife being convinced my son was going to be teeny tiny (he was a very healthy almost 8 pounder!! ) I looked and felt amazing, I had my son and 2 weeks later was back at work, managing a restaurant, got my own place, and thought I'd be raising my 2 young kiddos on my own... well, my ex convinced me he had changed, he did everything I told him he'd need to, to be able to move in with me, so I let him move in. We were married 6 months later and he HAD changed... until he got me pregnant again, and the sex went to nothing again. Well 8 1/2 months pregnant, I was throwing his crap into the street and on my own again. I had another son, and when I got home from having him, I had 3 in diapers... by myself. Talk about hard. But that time, would prove to be the BEST time, because of how everything happened. I hadn't allowed my husband into the hospital while I was there, nurses, security, everyone knew he wasn't allowed, not even by Phone... until shift change the next day, 1 nurse messed up and let my husband onto the maternity Ward and into my room, by the grace of GOD she messed up... because when he walked into my room and saw me there with his last child, he knew he could never get back what he missed, he could never change what he did to us, and he lost it. He checked himself into the mental health floor (he DID need that kind of help on top of just plain growing up, due to undiagnosed bi-po, and if ya know anything about bi-po, then you know unmedicated men are incredibly sexually charged, more so than most can begin to understand) and he got himself straight, and he has never cheated on me again. I stayed on my own for awhile before I let him back in. I didn't TELL him, I SHOWED him that he had his last chance with me. I dated and showed him that even w/3 babies, mama still had it! I can say that I KNOW he hasn't cheated, Thank God for that, and I can also say that I TRUST MY HUBBY 100%, even alone in the apartment of my stepsons mother. The moral of this story of my life, is this: cheaters CAN change. You need to SHOW them that it will not be tolerated. Make him show you he can live by himself for awhile, no sex from you or anybody else. Make him work for you, if ya give in so easily, then he's going to figure, well heck! The consequences of cheating are as easy as doing it, so why not?! Believe me, I know it's hard to follow thru, especially if you have lil ones, a house and a job to take care of... but if he's not willing to sincerely help with all of that - while living on his own - then he's not willing to SHOW you that he wants to change, he's just talking shit yet again! And if that is the case, then do yourself a favor - LET GO. Good luck to all of you. I truly hope you find the answers you need, and I pray that you have the strength to cope if the answers are of the ugly sort.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I am glad your story turned out well and that your sex addict successfully "changed." For most of us, that isn't the case. I am the nearly-ex-wife of a sex addict. Four years ago, I discovered that my husband of 24 years had been cheating with prostitutes, coworkers and students for at least 10 years of our marriage. We have five children, by the way, and I'm not bad looking.

For any of you gals, if you suspect sexual addiction, you're probably right, and there's probably more documentation than you want to find when you eventually find it. Please read more about sexual addiction. There's some good info out there, for example, at marriedtoasexaddict.com

I think getting proof is a great idea, but know that no matter what you find, he will probably deny it (mine, like another here, stated that he had been "hacked"). And documentation won't count for much in court when you try to divorce him, because in most states, we have "no fault". You won't get more alimony or child support from a proven cheater.

Documentation WILL help you to conquer denial and decide what to do based on The Facts.

You don't even have to have spyware to catch a sex addict. They're usually on Craig's List, AdultFriendFinder.com, and AshleyMadison.com. All you have to do is create accounts and look for them.

While some programs claim that sex addicts can be cured, it's my experience (and that of many others) that people with sexual addictions often also have mood disorders and personality disorders. These are difficult to treat, especially if the addict doesn't WANT to change. My sex addict went to some counseling with me, but then quit. I've been getting counseling myself for the past four years, and if you can afford it, I can't recommend it highly enough. It's painful to find that the person who supposedly loves you is screwing whores and then passing whatever exposure to disease to you in your own bed! Icky!

Be aware: trying to divorce a sex addict can be particularly difficult if they have narcissistic or borderline personality disorder. They will purposefully be uncooperative and try to blame you for everything. My divorce has taken nearly 3 years so far, and still no settlement agreement. He's a high paid attorney and I've got two special needs kiddos at home.

I agree with the long post above: take a hard stance and let a cheating spouse know you will gladly do without him. Let him take responsibility for his addiction and either get help for it or GET OUT.

Good luck to all of you.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your husband is cheating
nice i like what you said really i do and thanks. T.K.M
Bradley
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You should use Spybubble on your mobile to monitor the activities of your husband on Facebook.SpyBubble is spying software that will allow you to log in from any computer (ONLINE) and supervisea smart phone (android phone, iPhone, windows phone, BlackBerry) and tablet pc (android tablet and iPads) in real time.
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Spam ^
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sorry I tried spybubble and it did not work, has zero support and is a borderline scam. Dont waste your money people and dont believe this guy that probably works for them!
soon2bhis2ndwife
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I am going through the exact same situation. I found links he clicked on (they were a different color than the rest) from craigslist encounters. He denies denies denies everything and that's not all i have found. He swears he just watched porn and deleted it because of embarassment?!?! Problem is I cannot physically prove anything to him. I cry everyday...can't even get out of bed or clean the house. It's ripping my heart apart and sometimes when he tells me its ln my head I start to believe him...only for a second. I wish I would just die so I dont have to worry about this crap constantlty. We've been engaged now for almost 4 years and all he talks about is when are we getting married...I completely trusted him and now this has become a full-fledged obsession trying to catch him in the act. What if he is telling the truth and was just deleting the porn? Other than this crap for the last few months he is wonderful, caring, does anything for me. I am so torn
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I know exactly what you're going through honey. My man is doing the same thing to me only his excuse is he isn't deleting anything because he isn't on anything, and saying that he's been hacked. How the heck does a "hacker" get every password you've used, and how do they get your license AND your social and know about email addresses that are made only for a walmart wishlist and are never on anything?! I find it on my history that he's on sites like pof.com and spark.com and yet he says they were "pop-ups" and "ads" and sounds convincing.All my man talks about is when we can get married and the messed up part is we have been together for 2 years and have a 3 month old baby, and when I found his skype logged in, there were messages from other girls that met him on pof.com that started 4 months after we got together... That's the only hard proof that I have that he's cheating online. And some deleted history...
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I understand you completely all I ca tell you that this is what my man said too. I just letting you know that the best thing is to look after yourselves and if that takes years just make sure you save everything and then take a attorney and take his crap and through him out after you took everything from him man like that it not matter they always will do that and it sucks I just use him and I dot really care any longer. Its his lost not mine and anyway get yourself a strategy and take action. T.K.M
ADAM and EVE Ch...
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Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Could I ask you why do you not watch porn with him that might save this if he is only doing that. We most of us not only dealing with porn we dealing with our man that literally cheats lies in our faces, also we discovered some of us that they have sex with animals too like a dog we facing so many things that I just think if he is doing porn only then that is not such a big deal don't you think. Adam&Eve T.K.M
ADAM and EVE Ch...
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Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

I like to let you all know if we all send a request on getting help we all would need something like this I send it to
http://www.nbcdfw.com/on-air/about-us/Deborah_Ferguson.html
its a news channel; and I really will do that if anything will replies to it
To deborah.ferguson@nbcuni.com
Today at 1:08 PM
My name is Tatjana and I am from Germany live in USA since 1994.
I did my citizenship in 2006 and a 2 year degree in Comp. and design. I am also a chef and landscaper had all to learn that for to survive.
I like to tell you about my discovery in a reply that I recently did and e-mails not stooping on this particular subject.
Please check this out we all need help and there are millions out there crying for help and guidance to accomplish something so they can survive with all the pain that they discovered while in a relationship which I have lots of knowledge of especially in the field of cheaters.
seriously I like to see if you can help us to created a social community radio stations for social encounters on cheaters with dating web-sides and Investigations on this problem that we have in USA Man and Woman's cheating on there loved once because of the social media that is so easy to apply too in the USA may-be World Wide.
Its called
Adam & Eve
Catch that sucker cheating on you !
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criss (not verified)
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o please
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Hey you said oh please is it related to " He will not say year I did " .
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I've been having a feeling that my boyfriend is cheating. I don't have any money for the spyware. I've even asked him point blank of course he denies .. What can i do??and when i say i have no money i have no money .. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME...MY HEART IS BREAKING

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Adam & Eve

Hi you need help because of what you going true I am 47 and was merit for 15 a another relationship 10 years and now with this one and i found out all of it in 2009. All the once I dated or was merit to had in the past cheated on me. It really hurts and you think that your thought about him was so full of respect so full of trust so full of whatever you placed it your hope on.
I have no money to hire anyone and I like to know what will you do if you have it the truth will you use one way or another and do you think even you know the truth can you stay with him and just pretend until you can survive on your own. I do that right now yes it’s hurting and there are so many more things he is doing that I am for sure that it’s really creeping me out. I stay with him until I can hire a Attorney and a investigator or anything that could prove this and so that I can take what’s mine because they do not deserve anyone by their side they have taken your trust and destroyed your heart and soul so you think that mercy will be granted and forgiven. The only one that could ask for it is God and right now it’s only you. So believe me I know exactly what it means and feels what we all going true no one is there no one has the answer except you you are they only one that can change destiny and I have been working on all of it. I created a person or woman's on websites where he hang to see if he will take the bait I also have hacked in to my husband e-mails and sabotage all his sex sides with taking over changing passwords changing he status because he lies about his age too and I also in his profile let him know what I think of him one way and another he will read it. Those are glues to you all what you can do without money be smart. Every time I look at his phone taking pictures of Phone Nr and such and later I resource them in Google to see who it is or call it with *67 then Nr to find one woman that stands up what she had with him is regularly hard to find they even woman's cheat and they are evil believe me when I say that. All I I said is if you all people out there that been seeking help or ideas I would really like to start something, I trying to start it o twitter I think so we all can back and force talk. I even would like to exchange emails and phone nr where we all can exchange them to stay in contact because you that victim that had been cheat lied and destroyed hearts need some person that has really the right mind to overcome it. So let me all know what you thinking to create a new side on Twitter. I also like to tell you that twitter is also a place my man hides for fast contacting to have sex a very large popularity is doing this dating on twitter and https://www.facebook.com/ and Skype I just want you to know don't change his email account at all don't change his https://www.facebook.com/ or Skype just get excess to this to snoop and to log everything you find pictures emails ad account passwords only take over his dating crap you can change photos and write him a nasty message there he and all woman’s see it I copied a very whirled man old and change his age his performance and changed him even to looking for a man gay he says he don’t do that what so ever he says isn’t true anyhow so I really make him upset like that and of course he will not come to you and say hey why you change my dating side he will not admit remember..
And don’t tell him anything play and investigate and take action not just forget it we all should take everything a man or woman got if they have been doing this to you I tell you right now there is nothing sweeter and nothing better to forget when woman or man think this true and find a way to not get back that’s not what I trying to tell I trying to0 say take what’s yours for all that fuckup lies he or she created around you and all the years that its all in your head you are crazy or the fights you had to put up with is right now changing we woman’s and man need to stay together and create a new era to stop abuse and to stop the cheating and hurting part . So please let me know if anyone knows someone that could help us to create a side or going on air to reach out.
T.K.M

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I have thought about something like this myself. Count me in!
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I have been with this guy since 2008 and we have a child together and I believe he has been talking to whores on facebook. im just so hurt and disappointed. I wanted to trust him but I realize now that I cant and he wont be honest with me. I cant get answers!! im just devastated. I cant even think straight. hurt beyond comprehension
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
look I know wat you goin through I truly feel your pain im goin through the same thing no money im not working rite now you come first n far most you get a chance go get your hair doin or find someone do it for you get your feet n nail done treat urself pray most for strength n you have 2 have faith n god it will make you feel good your hair done
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I am very sorry and you cant even think strait what to do all I say is get your self in control and then take whats yours. i don't believe old man or woman change a young one it might work my man is 56 and you think he change nope he is not and I will take whats mine for all the years he manipulate me and all the years he was cheating ad coming home and have sex with me and for all the the years he lied and told me I am crazy and so much more you have no idea what hell is I am in Hell and our planet is hell Kitchen just look around you all the cheaters and whirled all the lairs and all evil things on earth you think that this is a good place i don't think its what I thought my heart is broken in million peaces and reading all your applies even hurts the most to know i am not the only one. T.K.M
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

Wow really I can’t believe this so many out there that are hurt and I am in the same situation finding all of what you all have discovered is really plainly a part we all got to except and start not divorce them not quit o them start saving instead and start getting your self’s better to dump him first I am a believer that you really got to get your self’s in gear I work out I jet ski I race and I am very good looking I can cook I can do so many good things I m a good person this is not my found he is the one or she is the one that need help all you out there I would like to star something to help because i see so many that just finding out and its hurts I just can tell you all out there to please think this all true and start saving and building a escape plan a surviving plan rather than thinking on how can you change it. My man is 56 and tells everyone he is 46 and he uses lovetolick112 he uses happyhorse14 he uses so many names and Nr you really get insane I think I rather start really this community that we all can crow and learn from so we work on our self’s.
I will call it
ADAM & EVE Cheaters
Safety tips
Surviving
How to find out for real if she/he is doing it
and of course to love your self’s because there is nothing wrong with you they are sick
T.K.R
ADAM&EVE Cheaters

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
boyfriend cheating online
So my boyfriend and I met in 2008. Found out he was messing with this girl he met on facebook and we split up and they moved in together. While with his new chick, yes he still came over. Well supposedly it didnt work out for them and they broke up and we got back together in 2012. I got pregnant and we had a baby in 2013. Well just the other day he was working and left his tablet at home. It kept going off so I looked and it was that same girl sending him a message. I confronted him about it and he blocked her on facebook. To me that doesnt prove anything. Just this morning I found out he now have a passcode on his phone. But he picks up my phone all the time. What do he have to hide? I think hes still talking to the girl or someone else. Its something that he dont want me to see. Cause if I find out any different, hes gone.
WEEZY (not verified)
Re: boyfriend cheating online
Anonymous Visitor wrote:

So my boyfriend and I met in 2008. Found out he was messing with this girl he met on facebook and we split up and they moved in together. While with his new chick, yes he still came over. Well supposedly it didnt work out for them and they broke up and we got back together in 2012. I got pregnant and we had a baby in 2013. Well just the other day he was working and left his tablet at home. It kept going off so I looked and it was that same girl sending him a message. I confronted him about it and he blocked her on facebook. To me that doesnt prove anything. Just this morning I found out he now have a passcode on his phone. But he picks up my phone all the time. What do he have to hide? I think hes still talking to the girl or someone else. Its something that he dont want me to see. Cause if I find out any different, hes gone.

I can't believe what I'm reading.Surely you ladies are selling yourself short.I don't know if you are aware that you don't need proof beyond all doubt to DUMP HIS ASS.Todays women are entirely too dependent on these smooth talking crotch hounds.If you suspect infidelity or have pretty good evidence- don't try to make him admit it- just dump him.He will Never admit a thing .His game is to make you feel like you are the crazy one and he is innocent.Men who are faithful don't bring that kind of suspicion on themselves.Wake up ladies.Hes not worth spending your life running behind him trying to prove he is cheating.There are good guys out there.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: boyfriend cheating online
Wow you must have it all figured out I think that no one is in anyone shue to know what to do or when or how because of our circumstances we can't just jump and dump because it takes a lot of cash to move to divorce to what ever it might be so what if I just know payback is a good thing for me because time will tell and there aren't good once as far as I can see so if there is a good one out there please show or bring him over so good people like us can maby have a better live I would consider right now I can't we got a home we not merit what I do there can't move or anything money is very tide and as I can see it's harder then what it looks like so we really got little help...
ADAM and EVE Ch...
I am a lover not a fighter
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Re: boyfriend cheating online
They never will admit it they even will make you Insane just so they can continue to hide behind what they do. It’s all a Facade it’s all a Face it’s all a sickness it’s all a fun thing to do I guess. People always that do that are surrounded by someone that also is doing it. So if that is the case get the same phone he has download same things where you later could log on with his things in your phone works too. There are many things you could do and that is up to you how far you take this. T.K.R
The wife (not verified)
Trying to catch my husband cheating on the computer
I caught my husband using a online dating website. Sadly, I confronted him before thinking. I have tried the Google search on his home and work email, no luck, except on the Facebook browser. I tried Spokeo, they had our information incorrect. When I typed his email address, I was prompted to purchase so I see the name, nothing was available. I put in several phone numbers from our AT&T billing, phone numbers that might link me to the other woman. Most would show where the phone number originated from, but no name. One of the phone numbers, which I was shocked to see on our bill, showed her name address and previous addresses. I drove by the "current" address a couple of times and figured out it was not her current address, she had moved about two years ago (but still near us). I would like to know if anyone has found a phone number and/or email search engine that is sort of up to date? My husband uses multiple computers; his iphone, his ipad, his home office Apple, his new Surface Pro, and the computers at his work! He has conveniently "accidentally erased most all his messages from before March 2014. I need to know is there a way to track his texts and FaceBook messages on his phone. He's says he isn't doing anything and I would probably have believed him if I hadn't found this particular woman's phone number on our bill. It sucks that the only way to get a copy of the messages is by a court order Sad
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Trying to catch my husband cheating on the computer
I phone in settings is a on and off you can click and when its of you don't see anything so if its on I believe it has something to do also privacy is of or on if its of you will not see anything he had done day before. Also I think you need to talk to someone that has an Iphone and Is very good with it because of the Icloud. T.K.M Adam & Eve

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