Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online


Whether your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is using Facebook, or other sites like Ashleymadison.com, it is possible to find out if he or she is cheating on you.

Catch him cheatingChat-rooms and social-networking websites like Facebook or Ashleymadison.com have made it easier than ever to make new friends, flirt, and even have full-blown love-affairs online. Throw in a low-cost web-cam and you can imagine the fun that he or she might be having behind your back when you aren't around. Is he or she suddenly acting differently? Being more secretive, especially around the computer? Is he or she online during all hours of the night? Is he or she accusing YOU of cheating (guilt avoidance & projecting)? Or, is something just not right in the relationship? If any of this sounds familiar to you, then you might have a cheater on your hands. Even if it's "online only" cheating, it could eventually lead to something more serious. Of course for most people even an online-only relationship behind your back is not acceptable.

Try a 'keylogger'* on your PC - The easiest way to catch him! (or her)

What most cheaters do not realize is that the computer they use to cheat on you with can very easily give them away. Today there are many software packages that you can secretly install onto your computer* to easily and silently track their every move, record every keystroke, take snapshots of the screen and even crack email passwords. These software programs* will run on Windows or Apple computers, are very easy to install and use, and are undetectable to anti-spyware programs or antivirus programs. These programs can be downloaded directly from the internet and installed in minutes. 

 

Most parental control/keylogger programs run on virtually all versions of Windows, can be installed 'discreetly' (nobody will know), and will record everything typed on the computer for your review at a later time.  These programs are usually not cheap - but they work quite well.

 

If he (or she) is cheating, it's easy to find out for sure

By using one of the many commercially available cheating spouse, chat monitor, or key-logging programs* you can find out for sure if your husband (or wife!) really is doing things behind your back. Stop wondering and find out for sure - no matter the outcome, you will be happier in the long-run.

  

* *This type of software is intended for use only on a computer owned by you.  Installing this type of software on a computer not owned by you, or without the consent of the owner of the computer is illegal in most states/countries.

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The wife too (not verified)
Re: Trying to catch my husband cheating on the computer
I have the same problem, I found the picture he uses and phone numbers and names in his phone. Instead of keeping my mouth shut I ask him about it. I went to match.com and lo and behold I found the picture, an found him on 3 other sites, he tells me I am crazy and never saw any of that. I have looked and looked for the proof and can't find it, and what's sad, I believe it has gone on for awhile. I ask him to give it up but I don't believe he has. I am attractive and loving to him and I just can't understand why. I have been so sad and depressed. I wish there was a way to find the proof. He uses a fictitious name of course and I'm sure a secret email, most of it is done on his work phone and work computer. Anyone have a solution, sure would like to know, I need the proof. Hope you have gotten all yours straighten out.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Trying to catch my husband cheating on the computer
Hi you need help because of what you going true I am 47 and was merit for 15 a another relationship 10 years and now with this one and i found out all of it in 2009. All the once I dated or was merit to had in the past cheated on me. It really hurts and you think that your thought about him was so full of respect so full of trust so full of whatever you placed it your hope on. I have no money to hire anyone and I like to know what will you do if you have it the truth will you use one way or another and do you think even you know the truth can you stay with him and just pretend until you can survive on your own. I do that right now yes it’s hurting and there are so many more things he is doing that I am for sure that it’s really creeping me out. I stay with him until I can hire a Attorney and a investigator or anything that could prove this and so that I can take what’s mine because they do not deserve anyone by their side they have taken your trust and destroyed your heart and soul so you think that mercy will be granted and forgiven. The only one that could ask for it is God and right now it’s only you. So believe me I know exactly what it means and feels what we all going true no one is there no one has the answer except you you are they only one that can change destiny and I have been working on all of it. I created a person or woman's on websites where he hang to see if he will take the bait I also have hacked in to my husband e-mails and sabotage all his sex sides with taking over changing passwords changing he status because he lies about his age too and I also in his profile let him know what I think of him one way and another he will read it. Those are glues to you all what you can do without money be smart. Every time I look at his phone taking pictures of Phone Nr and such and later I resource them in Google to see who it is or call it with *67 then Nr to find one woman that stands up what she had with him is regularly hard to find they even woman's cheat and they are evil believe me when I say that. All I I said is if you all people out there that been seeking help or ideas I would really like to start something, I trying to start it o twitter I think so we all can back and force talk. I even would like to exchange emails and phone nr where we all can exchange them to stay in contact because you that victim that had been cheat lied and destroyed hearts need some person that has really the right mind to overcome it. So let me all know what you thinking to create a new side on Twitter. I also like to tell you that twitter is also a place my man hides for fast contacting to have sex a very large popularity is doing this dating on twitter and https://www.facebook.com/ and Skype I just want you to know don't change his email account at all don't change his https://www.facebook.com/ or Skype just get excess to this to snoop and to log everything you find pictures emails ad account passwords only take over his dating crap you can change photos and write him a nasty message there he and all woman’s see it I copied a very whirled man old and change his age his performance and changed him even to looking for a man gay he says he don’t do that what so ever he says isn't true anyhow so I really make him upset like that and of course he will not come to you and say hey why you change my dating side he will not admit remember.. And don’t tell him anything play and investigate and take action not just forget it we all should take everything a man or woman got if they have been doing this to you I tell you right now there is nothing sweeter and nothing better to forget when woman or man think this true and find a way to not get back that’s not what I trying to tell I trying to0 say take what’s yours for all that fudge-up lies he or she created around you and all the years that its all in your head you are crazy or the fights you had to put up with is right now changing we woman’s and man need to stay together and create a new era to stop abuse and to stop the cheating and hurting part . So please let me know if anyone knows someone that could help us to create a side or going on air to reach out. T.K.M
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I have been with my boyfriend 2 and a half years. I have found him on flert buddies, newbinewds and project voyeur these are the only ones iv looked in to. The first time i asked him to stop chatting and putting photos of his bits on he said yes he will stop it was just a stupid thing he still had since he was younger. Then again i found him, this would be ok to be on the, just to look and have nothing on there but there was awoman (no lady!) he had on there she was his f*#*% buddy she sent him all the photos to share. This was crazy stugf asked him if he still had prpfiles on the chat sites, he said no. Again when asked replie was it was old and just reactivated its self a few months ago. In every other way this man is perfect and we have been through so much together. By the way we have a great sex life and iv asked if there is more i can do he said its great and what he dose on liff he will stop it all and it was stupid from his past.
ADAM and EVE Ch...
I am a lover not a fighter
Member for 6 weeks 3 days
GuG-Points: 7
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I have to say it don’t reactivate by its self you honestly have to log on, to reactivate it that is with most sites. except you use a phone dating site which is not on the Webb they using phone nr and Skype is another way to get a quick one I tried allot of things I work out I’m not stupid and that is really not the problem it is there for them to use and to access daily. T.K.R
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

After your first very generous warning he still continued what he was doing and even went so far as to *LIE* saying an old dating account reactivated itself all by itself (Okaaaaay....)- making this the second time.

IF you do not do something to set in stone that what he is doing is NOT acceptable - that what he is doing IS a DEAL BREAKER - RIGHT NOW, *You* ARE setting up the relationship pattern you will be living while in a relationship with HIM.

Think about this...but not for too long.

Your choice...

WEEZY (not verified)
Find out if your boyfriend is cheating
Anonymous Visitor wrote:

After your first very generous warning he still continued what he was doing and even went so far as to *LIE* saying an old dating account reactivated itself all by itself (Okaaaaay....)- making this the second time.

IF you do not do something to set in stone that what he is doing is NOT acceptable - that what he is doing IS a DEAL BREAKER - RIGHT NOW, *You* ARE setting up the relationship pattern you will be living while in a relationship with HIM.

Think about this...but not for too long.

Your choice...

Not only was your reply great it was extremely clear and to the point.I hope all the users on this site take this to heart- tell your 'man' and I use that term loosely,to stop the pussy prowling or else-hit the road.Believe me ladies,I've been there,done that,it always ends the same- with him using you until he finds what he thinks he looking for.After he moves in with the newbie he WILL also cheat on her.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend is cheating
Wow you must have it all figured out I think that no one is in anyone shue to know what to do or when or how because of our circumstances we can't just jump and dump because it takes a lot of cash to move to divorce to what ever it might be so what if I just know payback is a good thing for me because time will tell and there aren't good once as far as I can see so if there is a good one out there please show or bring him over so good people like us can maby have a better live I would consider right now I can't we got a home we not merit what I do there can't move or anything money is very tide and as I can see it's harder then what it looks like so we really got little help...and kids are involved is another chapter
ADAM and EVE Ch...
I am a lover not a fighter
Member for 6 weeks 3 days
GuG-Points: 7
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I know that this sounds very bad I also know that. We got circumstances and sometimes you have no way out because financial or because so many reasons I would not say that it is not a pattern I would say he might do this only after he had sex with you and if you would not give him sex would he continue doing this or there are so many reasons of man how and when and where and why it’s not so easy its looks you got to be in a situation like this to understand it could be you got 3 babies and for a woman as we know it is a means world try to separate and try to move on. I did and i was nice too I left the home to him which I never should have and I moved away that was wrong and I went deeper in debt racing kids on my own that I tell you I would I never do again I say I take everything he got if this be 10 years from now I will not let him think he is the King. T.K.R.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I just found in my boyfriend phone an email with someone who is married and there where photograph of her wearing nothing and I know his nickname but don't know the Web on which he is and he is using his phone for that how to check that please help
ADAM and EVE Ch...
I am a lover not a fighter
Member for 6 weeks 3 days
GuG-Points: 7
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Help you in the right place what I could say is find out where she lives find her on facebook and then tell her husband about all that. I think that people need to realize that this is the way. T.K.R
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

Go to your (Google) SEARCH line and one at a time enter:
His user - nick - name
His phone number
His real name

Make sure you save copies via printing, or screenshots, or just take pics with whatever camera source you have of what you find BEFORE you say anything to him.

You might try to find a friend you can trust to help you along with learning how to maneuver around on a computer and the internet,

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I can't find anything on Google but I know he is registered on dating web help
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Then go make yourself a junk email account FIRST and then register at the dating site to look around. You don't have to use a photo to register.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

I just found out a little over 3 weeks ago my girlfriend of 7yrs was involved in an online relationship with some guys she met thru some stupid game on Facebook. Apparently it had been going on for almost 6 weeks before I found out. I knew something wasn’t right and highly suspected something like this was going on. I even confronted her about it on 2 separate occasions, and of course it turned into a big fight, where I was the jerk for accusing her of such. What’s even worse, is in April 2013, I quit my job and moved with her outside the US to help provide her “moral support” while she is in Vet School. And everything was fine up until the end of Feb/beginning of March. And it was by complete accident that I found out what was going on. I just so happen to use her laptop to check my yahoo email one morning, and apparently by mistake she forgot to log out of her hidden email account, which was linked to a hidden Facebook account. She is no dummy, so obviously she made sure to delete all the Facebook messages each night, as well as all emails. But she didn’t realize some of the emails go to the “trash” folder after being deleted, thus I came across 5 emails/messages sent from the douche she had been involved with.
The hardest thing to read was them saying that they loved each other, and she just needs to “keep the peace” till she makes it back to the states. After finally having solid evidence, I confronted her immediately and she came clean. She claimed “it all happened so fast” “it was just dirty talk” “it didn’t mean anything” Blah blah blah… After many, many arguments over the course of 2 weeks and making her end it with him, while I watched to see exactly what he said, I decided to stay with her and try and forget the whole thing. Which has not been easy. Especially since I reluctantly agreed not to tell anyone, friends or family, about what she did. She has always had nothing but disgust and disapproval for anyone she was aware of that cheated on their significant other. And now that she is the cheater, she is so afraid her friends and family will think less of her, that it will “ruin her reputation” with her fellow classmates/future colleagues.

I honestly don’t know if I can make this work. The trust is gone, and I have no idea if it will ever come back. All I can do is try and pretend it didn’t happen and completely remove it from my mind. We have had so many great times over the last 7 years, and seems like it would be a waste to throw it all away because of some B.S. online relationship that went on for 6 weeks. Guess long story short (not really.) I now have a FREE keylogger installed on her laptop (Revealer Keylogger), which is fine, but she also has a tablet, and there is not much I can do about that unless I pay for some expensive software. Best of luck to everyone, and I truly hope no one has to go through this type of heartache.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

Hello, I was reading on your log and I understand what you going true. I on they other side have not been able to Investigate out side of our place, I think for the longest time that he is cheating and like you say you confront them they fight and they make you believe that this all is your fault which really is not. I only find a lot of different phone nr sex dating sites to have one 1 stands like at lunch or so. we have been on and of with that relationship and I still came back again. I love him and I feel there is a lot wrong he has been changing some things and now we about to move in to our first home. What I plan is to stick it out because right now I am vulnerable have no job moved out of a different city to a different city and when you vulnerable they know and take advantage of it. So now its all what it is and I trying to make money and hire a Investigator because I really want to confront him with facts.
I just know that all that hurts what I see and that I deserve a better person because he can be very mean and disrespectful. I will find a way out of it hopefully and then I would like to help others true this what we going true I believe that there are so many out there which have been going true the same thing us all of us.
I have also a hard time to trust and I don't know If I can continue with what I feel and with what I know about my partner.
T.K.M

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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Over two years here and still no trust.

Do not take lightly what she did since if it was something that could be so simply disregard like yesterdays newspaper your trust in her would not of been destroyed.

Trying to "pretend it didn't happen" will not work.
It WILL surface at some point.
Actually, the fact that you have no trust - and know it - is proof enough it IS right up in the forefront of your cognitive thought processes.....

Shay (not verified)
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Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Need advice about my Fiancee
Hey what you need help with let us know we might have the answer you seeking... T.K.M
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I just recently realized what a jerk I was lying next to every night...then the ass uses my phone. Frugal cams, fubar, singles bee, adult friend finder....you name it... then his id: is -REMOVED- After 9 years... I just can't get over this shit for real
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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wow sorry about what you had happened same things at my place its sucks and really there is nothing you can do only quit relationships or continue and hope God will direct her or him
Anonymous VisitorDonna (not verified)
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I know how you feel. I caught my husband emailing sluts on craigslist. Destroyed my whole world. Trust is gone. I ve changed. Not for the good either. My mind is so messed up that I don't know what to think or do. I doubt everything all the time. My heart an soul was ripped out.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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Hey I have reading on your comment I really have been true this shit they other day he is an superintendent and good money works in office tract him with the iPhone and then he buttdialed me and I heart him with a beeeiotch freakin and then he said to a other dud thanks bro and the man said no problem so people that do commercial air and pluming really freakin around all the time I promised that I play his game get me an investigator and then I will legally take everything away and leave his ass I was merit and I cuteness same shit and this time I will fucked up I'm so deprest and they say it's in your head you crazy and shit and there they go and need to fudge someone In they ass or what ever they do because why not because I'm not good looking I'm a good cook do anything I'm a nature person would give you everything and no they got to be fudge offs cheaters liers stealing and destroying everything you have and then they come home and say what's wrong baby that right there really I got to hold my pain inside and wait because payback time is sweet and today I swore to do this for real. T.k.M
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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Me too the same feeling and really that all sucks and now really I like this Idea to start a online community that is going true similar things like we do and feel and live with and live by I think that would be help all of us to talk about this ad to find answers that might would help someone out there or at least direct them in a better direction. What I have found out is that a lot of man and woman's using the dating sites which is contacting your phone to hookup and have sex and that's it. I don't understand that they all out there cant stop cheating It hurts and you trying not to loos it and you started to investigate to snoop to see what really is going on with your lover and then you see all of it and cant not prove it sucks because they do not admit it as long as you cant prove anything you need to be quit and wait and get an opportunity save money for a investigator would be a lot of money I wished Cheaters on TV COULD ALL HELP US
T.K.R. (not verified)
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Yes you right I have allot of knowledge on Investigations of cheaters I know what places they hang I also know there are Nr out there you call on the job site and they bring escorts bring one and you can do it and then you just continue working they got a truck and all the cra[p I know because I recorded it. There are so many things involved in to this that really we all need help from a news TV show like the one in Fort Worth we all should also trait our Nr phone Nr or so I’m not scared seen my dad doing the same shit to my mom I m tired of the woman place them self’s like that and man for taking opportunity to this shit I really like to get something going of cores we all can’t tell our spouses we need to find the time to do this I am in.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I have tryed cheaters and nothing happening I have been merrit before 15 years cheating on me too and now this one I'm with we are to gather about late 2009 and I fell in love and thought he too and things we have been crowing to gather and now the dark side that's what's sucks with them cheating on us saying I love you love you that isent love they sick and need help all of them I would really like to tar jet the porn industry and yes that is how they do it escort services also can support that I almost became a CSI and instead I finished in com tech and art in images and I have so many things done true this I also created another person that don't exist and contacted him over the internet I took over his online crap and I still know he uses random crap and escorts and Holmes maby on the street or what ever I right now have no car no nothing to prove all of it I got recordings also that been tecorded on existent buttdiling i have knowledge over the whole thing and what where they go and how you can go on to his crap too all I need is getting everything going home and shit and live and my business power I need power to pay back or I'm a victim of the crazies for real. Insanety is the word doing something over and over and over again expecting a difrent result is insanity
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I know how you feel. My husband is constant on dating web sites and always comment on woman's status. He quit facebook, so he said but he was lying and my heart and soul is totally ripped out as well. I don't know what to do because I can't trust him.He is lying from January 2013 and every time the same old story with different woman. He post "young" photos of himself and has a big ego.
the wife too (not verified)
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my husband is the exact same, I even got the dating site so I could see when he was online and of course it was during work hours, He still has his facebook but chooses to only use it about once a week and before that he was always on it. I have found him on about 5 dating sites, a lot of them you can join without paying and search around. My husband came up as a match for me, I didn't add a picture at first and talked to him and he ask if I was his ex, funny I found her number on his phone. I confronted him and the next day it was gone and I was told I didn't see anything, I must be crazy. anyway it is ongoing still and I cannot get a confession, I would like to find out the truth and lay it in his lap. I don't think they ever stop.
WEEZY (not verified)
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the wife too wrote:

my husband is the exact same, I even got the dating site so I could see when he was online and of course it was during work hours, He still has his facebook but chooses to only use it about once a week and before that he was always on it. I have found him on about 5 dating sites, a lot of them you can join without paying and search around. My husband came up as a match for me, I didn't add a picture at first and talked to him and he ask if I was his ex, funny I found her number on his phone. I confronted him and the next day it was gone and I was told I didn't see anything, I must be crazy. anyway it is ongoing still and I cannot get a confession, I would like to find out the truth and lay it in his lap.
I don't think they ever stop.

If you got 'proof' what do you think that would accomplish?Dont you realize he is not only a cheater but an accomplished liar as well?Do you actually believe he would suddenly spill his guts to you?Let me say that that would certainly be rare.Husband or not you must not let him continue to waste your time or life.Please respect yourself enough to dump his ass.get alimony,and anything else you deserve for putting up with his lies,him exposing you to disease from infidelity,making you question your sanity,and making you look stupid.If I was to guess,I would say he cheated on his last girlfriend or wife w/ you.Dont do this to yourself.be your own person and start living

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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Why don't you join the sites using fake ID and then state the truth and even post the most unflattering, updated, photos of him or at least a link to a place where women can see them - like at Flickr or some such place.....and then DUMP his *ss...?
the wife too (not verified)
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I read to post the picture on craigs list and see what comes up. that was my next step.

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