Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online


Whether your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is using Facebook, or other sites like Ashleymadison.com, it is possible to find out if he or she is cheating on you.

Catch him cheatingChat-rooms and social-networking websites like Facebook or Ashleymadison.com have made it easier than ever to make new friends, flirt, and even have full-blown love-affairs online. Throw in a low-cost web-cam and you can imagine the fun that he or she might be having behind your back when you aren't around. Is he or she suddenly acting differently? Being more secretive, especially around the computer? Is he or she online during all hours of the night? Is he or she accusing YOU of cheating (guilt avoidance & projecting)? Or, is something just not right in the relationship? If any of this sounds familiar to you, then you might have a cheater on your hands. Even if it's "online only" cheating, it could eventually lead to something more serious. Of course for most people even an online-only relationship behind your back is not acceptable.

Try a 'keylogger'* on your PC - The easiest way to catch him! (or her)

What most cheaters do not realize is that the computer they use to cheat on you with can very easily give them away. Today there are many software packages that you can secretly install onto your computer* to easily and silently track their every move, record every keystroke, take snapshots of the screen and even crack email passwords. These software programs* will run on Windows or Apple computers, are very easy to install and use, and are undetectable to anti-spyware programs or antivirus programs. These programs can be downloaded directly from the internet and installed in minutes. 

 

Most parental control/keylogger programs run on virtually all versions of Windows, can be installed 'discreetly' (nobody will know), and will record everything typed on the computer for your review at a later time.  These programs are usually not cheap - but they work quite well.

 

If he (or she) is cheating, it's easy to find out for sure

By using one of the many commercially available cheating spouse, chat monitor, or key-logging programs* you can find out for sure if your husband (or wife!) really is doing things behind your back. Stop wondering and find out for sure - no matter the outcome, you will be happier in the long-run.

  

* *This type of software is intended for use only on a computer owned by you.  Installing this type of software on a computer not owned by you, or without the consent of the owner of the computer is illegal in most states/countries.

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Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Help i know my boyfriend is cheating on me I need to look at his phone
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
What kind of phone does he have? If it's an iphone and you know his Apple ID and password go to teensafe.com It'll give you his current messages and deleted, also call log! And you don't need to touch his phone, he'll never know!!
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Catch my husband cheating online
I Know he/my husband is cheating online but i have no idea how..to catch him, everything with his is private i don't have any passwords to phone/bank emails etc. help he has an iphone...
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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Whatever the issue you have do take care you are acting legally in the state you live or elsewhere in the world.. Lots of legal options online...
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I think my boyfriend is cheating he wont give me any passwords or look through his phone. What do I do. I just want to go in his email and see what hes really doin but I dont want him 2 know
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
It's easy to get into his accounts as long as you know one password of his then betting any money he uses the same for everything!. Tell him you want to open a joint Facebook account so that it will stop you from being suspicious but that he can use his old one if he likes. Tell him that it will stop you nagging at him and it's just for your piece of mind and that it'll solve everything, then whilst your making it just casually say, babe password? If he says you pick one tell him you always forget it and just pick anything, remember super casual and if need be pretend your thinking of one but convince him that you'll forget. He'll probably use the same one not thinking you would connect it and BOOM hopefully you will get in and get all your answers. I did!! All the best of luck and reply to let me know how it went
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I can help you with that. I can search online for you for a small fee. Just send me an email and I'll explain the rest.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Hey can you really help with cheating guys?
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Run away as fast as you can! If he follows with his passwords then you have nothing to worry about.... Look up Narcissism and see if it describes him. Good Luck!
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
My boyfriend cheats on me

Hi

I have been cheated on numerous times. Every time it gets worse. I have suspected this a long time ago but whevever I ask (with proof), i get thrown every lie and every cover up possible. My boyfriend is from overseas and I am s mother of one. I have found e-mails, whattsapp, text messages, numbers that were erased, i basically had to become a spy. I sometimes feel as if I cannot do it anymore. when he went overseas (without me), and upon return, I checked the call logs, etc. Apparently, he had forgotten to log out of a website that he had created. It was an online web page seeking women of a certain category. I was appalled and he still denied everything. Now i have to deal with pictures of him that he took out of his private areas etc (God knows for whom??) of which he supposedly forgotten to delete off his phone at night. I also work night shifts which is a perfect opportunity for the cat to play when the mouse is away. i am in the medical field and I am a very strong woman. However, when it comes to matters of the heart, it feels as if one has dedicated their entire life to that person and what do you get in return???? Unfortunately social media, porn and other related sites are easily accessible which is a disadvantage to honest people.......
Thank you for your website... If only i had known earlier..

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: My boyfriend cheats on me
I am with you! it happens to me as well.... what about if we help each other to catch them?? like you add him and try to chat with him and I do the same with your boyfriend.. wouldn't be awesome we videochat with them and then join the conversation just to see their faces shocked?? LOL
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: My boyfriend cheats on me
Eh yeah!!! Totally want to do that!!! Mine lies all the time and full cheats! I just want definate proof that he deletes heaps of stuff! I'm totally in as I'm over it all now and want a complete clean break up without second guessing myself!
Busted you (not verified)
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Let's do that!!!! That would be amazing and gratifying! I would kill to see his face! Priceless!!!! Let me know what you want to do and we can exchange information and figure it out! Smile
melvb76K
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Re: My boyfriend cheats on me
I think I told you lets do it but I dont know how to navigate thru this site very well and cant tell so holla back whenever and we can figure it out. i know its late but its the only time I can ever have quiet free time because dealin with kids all day
Wiser (not verified)
Re: My boyfriend cheats on me

You cannot change him. You can only change you.

You cannot expect a pathological liar to tell you the truth.
You cannot expect a serial cheater to be monogamous.
You cannot expect a sex addict to stop posting photos of his genitals on adult hook-up sites.

If you're tired of his behavior, get out of the relationship. What's the point of having a boyfriend like that? What you want is a man who is honest... or no man at all.

melvb76K
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Re: My boyfriend cheats on me
No man all is freakin awesome right now, I did leave and I totally wasnt trying to change him in anyway but for the better of himself. Aside from his deception and cheating I did care about him as the father of my baby girl and wanted him to be happy and tried to teach and show different ways of looking at things and how to handle conflict instead of being the one who creates it in hopes of not teaching my baby negative behaviors When I found out I think I might of had a tear almost come to surface but it went away I looked at all the things that factored into from his childhood and put my big girl pants on gave it the ol 2yr college try but I mostly did it for the nookie J/J but Really my advice to anyone who listens is Dont look to any man/woman to define your self worth and value as a person, know who you are and what you believe is right and wrong dont let anyone ever make you doubt yourself and feel less of a person. People that choose to be deceptive and sneaky continously obviously have no self worth and they dont value their self
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His cheating
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Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Read private browsing history?

Hi all would like to know how to see what he is looking at on his iphone.
I found an email from a lady just saying hi but it was from hookup website . When I check his history there isn't anything there
I think he uses private before typing websites.when I caught him out before he says he didn't look at it kids used his phone. I work all day he's home alone I got to bed early he's up late .
It's driving me crazy . How can I access if he puts it on private.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Read private browsing history?
open a window on his computer, Go to the settings, click advanced settings, under privacy, click content settings, under cookies click "all cookies and site data" This will be basically a list of every website he ever went to. even when browsing privately in incognito mode. hopefully he's not smart enough to erase it. if you find something, DO NOT tell him how you found it. otherwise you'll never be able to use it again. He'll just begin erasing it. btw, these are instructions for a mac, so not sure if it is similar everywhere else, but likely.
Jen Rider (not verified)
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Help please, I know he is I've just never had a boyfriend before
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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Hello everyone. BELIEVE me when I say I know ALL too well how painful it is to be cheated on. I am currently still going through it myself. Its a VERY long story and its been going on 9 years. I know "why haven't you left" well, not only has my husband been cheating on me, he has done a multitude of things to destroy not only my soul, but a way out with 3 kids.
There is good news in this though! Actually 2 great things about this! The first is, I am finally strong enough to leave and currently working on it. I WILL leave this POS. The second is I have now become a master PI and I am here to help!

I read many of the posts but not all. To those who are wanting to find information, this is what you should do:
1) His/Her Phone (NOTE* My experience with phones is on Android phones with SIM Cards, and Google Play. This MAY not work for some people.):
There are an array of apps that can hide anything they want to hide. Texts messages, pictures, phone logs, etc. Here are a few examples of those apps, (Vaulty, Hide it Pro, SMS and Call Blocker) There will be a password on these apps. But do not worry if you are unable to guess them. Just study the phone and download them onto your phone. Once you have them downloaded, create your own password. Take out their SD card and/or SIM card and insert them into your phone. Now this can be tricky if the person was smart enough to use a SIM card lock. Some do not even know that is an option but if there is one, try 123 and simple numeric numbers like that. You should also try birthdays and such. This does not always work but hey, you gotta try right!

"What if you cannot get into the phone to begin with because there is a passcode and then cannot see what apps are installed?"
2) Now we move on to the email(s)My knowledge is with Google Play on this one but you can still try if its another Play store that I am not aware of. Login to their email account. Once on the email page and after you hopefully scanned all the folders for evidence, you click the squares that are on the top right of the screen by the profile information. That is where the apps are at. Click on the PLAY icon and a new window or tab will pop up. The bottom left screen shows "MY RECENT ACTIVITY". Click that first and see what they have been doing lately. After you check that, go to the top left of the previous page and click APPS. A new window or tab opens up and that is where you can view all the apps installed on the phone. You will will see a little green check on the apps showing that it is installed. Furthermore, you should click on the apps that you feel are "fishy". They will show you the date it was installed and you can scroll all the way down for further information about the app in question and the makers of the app.
This is how you can download the same apps to your phone. *NOTE* If the app shows it was installed, it does not mean that it is still installed. It just shows you that they have installed it and on what date. ADDITIONALLY, you should type in the search bar while under the APPS page for words like "HIDE" "BLOCK" "MESSENGER" Any words you can think of that could pertain to cheating or hiding stuff. Then insert their SIM card and/or SD card to obtain access to those apps.

"What if I do not have their email password either?"
3) Download any Keylogger/Screen shot onto your computer. There are many that are free or have a free trial version. I personally do not like the free trial ones because after the trial is up, you cannot obtain those logs and sometimes even if you end up buying the program the logs are lost. Here is one I did a quick google search on http://download.cnet.com/Free-Keylogger-Pro/3000-2162_4-75886072.html PLEASE read the cons! You want to unclick all unnecessary things that are trying to download as well. Follow the instructions on hiding the logger. Make sure to not install a shortcut that they could see. After you downloaded and install the program, go to your downloads folder and either erase the logger there or rename it and/or change the picture to something that looks like it came with the computer. Give it some time and check it when the other person is not there. You will get more than just the email password if your I guess, "lucky".

4) Voicemails: If you are able to get into their phone and have no password to enter than you are lucky. If you cannot get on their phone but know the password, call them when you know they will not answer. Let the Voicemail pick up and when it starts talking, press **. It will prompt you to enter * again and then the phone number you want the voicemail from. Enter that persons number and then password. And your in!

5) Finding secret emails, usernames, anything really: A keylogger is best! But if you want more, I found that Intelius works pretty good. Spokeo is good sometimes. It all depends.

6) Go through the phone records! Check picture messaging, weird numbers, weird hours, Bank statements, the car, pockets, wallets, purses, you name it, you search it!
*NOTE* It is VERY IMPORTANT that you screen shot EVERYTHING when looking at the apps, SAVE EVERYTHING, name is something else, send it to your email, a friend or family member you trust, save it on a disc, print it out, and do whatever you must to keep that information because if they find out, they will destroy it!
Now with that being said, I saw a post that someone said something along the lines of "Why do you need physical evidence when you know in your heart and mind they are cheating. You will never get them to admit the truth." I understand that totally! Even though I understand what they are saying, I personally get vindication that I can show them I know what they are doing. I then pray they will confess, and it has lead me to him "bleeding the truth out", which means he tells me some but not all. Just a little background on my situation, my husband was recently arrested for solicitation of prostitution. He denies the whole thing of course but I could not let that go. I had to know the truth! Our car was towed and a certified letter came. He opened it and tore it up and threw it away. He tied the bag up and put it outside. He left later that day and I got it out. I called the tow to ask for a physical address of where my car was towed from. They did not have an exact only what I had which was cross streets. She offered me the number to the guy who towed the car. I called him up (mind you this was like 2 weeks later) but he remembered everything! He told me it was an actual undercover sting! He gave me the address of where it took place and where the car was picked up from because apparently, the cops did not want to blow their cover and arrested him 4 miles down the road. It then lead me to more information like his records. He has had two court dates reset so it is still ongoing. I submitted and open records report, which I might add some women/men should do as well because you NEVER know. This information is open to the public if the person was found guilty or differed adjudication. His case involves audio and possible video. There is no way he can deny that and to be able to see his face (he has no clue that I have done this or has no clue its public records) will bring me some joy to know that he now knows I am better than him! That is just one thing he has done. TRUST me when I say its been BAD!!!

So ladies and gentlemen, I hope I have helped somewhat in your fight to know the truth. Its exhausting I know and when your cooking, cleaning, driving, and doing normal everyday things and suddenly have a thought or are reminded of how hurt you are, you just start balling. My heart actually hurts. I never thought I could actually live because the pain is so bad that I can barely breathe. Hang in there guys and know your better than they are. Know you are worth loving and your feelings are very valid. I am trying to do the same.

Anonymous Visitor TM (not verified)
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Well I work on it to I going back to get my BA in DIGITAL CINEMATOGRAPHY with Sails university I just can tell you all to do the same then this is the only way out to get stronger while he Sucks the love that you give to him out of you replace it with knowledge and use it against him to be a survivor that get in gear to fake it until you make it. I agree that you must get your things strait so you can leave and give your children the best you can be. I am very sorry that people do that mine he is sneaky luring lies all the time and hide things I see everything and I'm done with the knowledge that I found out about all his crap so I say move on is the only way out be smart not stupid like him.. Recently he divides on the phone bill with sprint that he controlled what I see and what not also he has several emails because I send him emails to the main and they did not arrive so what it tells you is that he lies again.. Love to you all
Wiser (not verified)
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I am SOOOOO with you, sister! Good job on the info above. I hope you don't mind if I share it!

My husband started cheating with prostitutes in 2001, but I didn't find out until 2010. Fortunately, his brother discovered it in 2002 (although he didn't tell me) and my DH left a nice internet trail.

Like you, I've been super sleuth as I prepare for my divorce. If you are dealing with a sex addict (and if your husband or boyfriend is going to these hookup websites, he probably is), it helps to be aware you probably are also dealing with personality disorders and mood disorders which make it likely he will BLAME YOU no matter what evidence you have. That's okay. Understand that he isn't likely to admit, he isn't likely to apologize, and he isn't likely to change.

It's YOUR CHOICE what you're going to do about that.

In general, if you decide to leave, he will do his damnedest to make your life miserable, because that's part of his disorder. All of it comes out of his own misery, which probably has roots in damage done to him way back in his miserable childhood. In some ways, I feel sorry for my miserable spouse, but I also hold him accountable for his behavior.

I have been trying to get a divorce for nearly 3 years. He won't cooperate. He won't negotiate, and when he lost his job due to his "internet activities," he blamed me for it.

The law doesn't do much to protect us from sexually addicted bottom-meany-roonies, but we can CHOOSE to take positive actions to improve our lives.

Adam&Eve (not verified)
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I also like to tell you it's not easy to act nothing going on playing you don't know nothing and planing for an escape plan which I started to get out of this pathetic live that he calls home. I really hate him I know he do things I never new a human would do you really don't think he is normal he has a Sadistic personality disorder and played me I recently found him going to
A site called 18andabused.com and he is 57 I think also he did something to my daughter she is 18 now I never could prove it she and I hated each other fighting she stop believing and she changed now she is save at my sisters and I try to get out no one will help you believe me you got to start planing what to do and how to get out of it he not change never he will it's a waste better go and live happy than looking behind your back all the time I think! So I started because I got no money no job my car is broken I got no home my things are in his storage my kids and I split up my animals almost all
Lost started to fill out my FASFA and go back to school for my BA with my FASFA I try to move in to home away from this abuser cheater lier broken abandoned abnormal manipulated personality he has nothing done for me then breaking apart everything I got do that he can control. So if you got money problem don't know where to go there is a way also if he hit you just get police there to get a report take report to a shelter and seek help they get you custody order divorce protect you and so much more I used to work in a shelter and I know that they back you up with a lot of protection and a new live. Please do not stay find a way out think on your kids they do not need to see all that abuse and cheating it's not a normal environment for kids or even you.
T.K.M
Adam&Eve

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
If he has restored the factory settings can you still find stuff in the phone? It still has pictures and a video he downloaded on it.
Busted You (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Anonymous Visitor wrote:

If he has restored the factory settings can you still find stuff in the phone? It still has pictures and a video he downloaded on it.

I named myself (a different name of course lol) so you can tell it is me that is responding. I wrote the first post you replied to as well.
I am not sure I understand your question completely but I will try my best. Smile
When you say he restored the factory settings, do you mean he wiped the apps off of his phone but still has the pictures and videos? If that is the case then I would suggest going to his email and seeing the apps from there. Like I said before, you can tell if any app was installed by his google email account. Google saves it as installed even when they uninstall it from their phone.
Another suggestion would be to either email the pictures and videos to yourself or use a USB cord to connect his phone to the computer and upload the pictures and videos to the computer. If you cannot get onto his phone, take his SD card out and either put it in your phone or if you have a camera card, insert the SD card that way.
Does he have a google email you can get into? Does he have a SIM card or just an SD card?

Wiser (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Busted You, I am totally on the same page with you! I do my PI work as well. I posted here about other ways to "sleuth" on computers and adult accounts. YOU GO, GIRL!!!

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