Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online


Whether your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is using Facebook, or other sites like Ashleymadison.com, it is possible to find out if he or she is cheating on you.

Catch him cheatingChat-rooms and social-networking websites like Facebook or Ashleymadison.com have made it easier than ever to make new friends, flirt, and even have full-blown love-affairs online. Throw in a low-cost web-cam and you can imagine the fun that he or she might be having behind your back when you aren't around. Is he or she suddenly acting differently? Being more secretive, especially around the computer? Is he or she online during all hours of the night? Is he or she accusing YOU of cheating (guilt avoidance & projecting)? Or, is something just not right in the relationship? If any of this sounds familiar to you, then you might have a cheater on your hands. Even if it's "online only" cheating, it could eventually lead to something more serious. Of course for most people even an online-only relationship behind your back is not acceptable.

Try a 'keylogger'* on your PC - The easiest way to catch him! (or her)

What most cheaters do not realize is that the computer they use to cheat on you with can very easily give them away. Today there are many software packages that you can secretly install onto your computer* to easily and silently track their every move, record every keystroke, take snapshots of the screen and even crack email passwords. These software programs* will run on Windows or Apple computers, are very easy to install and use, and are undetectable to anti-spyware programs or antivirus programs. These programs can be downloaded directly from the internet and installed in minutes. 

 

Most parental control/keylogger programs run on virtually all versions of Windows, can be installed 'discreetly' (nobody will know), and will record everything typed on the computer for your review at a later time.  These programs are usually not cheap - but they work quite well.

 

If he (or she) is cheating, it's easy to find out for sure

By using one of the many commercially available cheating spouse, chat monitor, or key-logging programs* you can find out for sure if your husband (or wife!) really is doing things behind your back. Stop wondering and find out for sure - no matter the outcome, you will be happier in the long-run.

  

* *This type of software is intended for use only on a computer owned by you.  Installing this type of software on a computer not owned by you, or without the consent of the owner of the computer is illegal in most states/countries.

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charlton (not verified)
Re: How do I catch my boyfriend?
going to be blunt: get therapy. individual for you and couples with him. do it NOW. spend the money on a therapist or a divorce/custody arrangement. your paranoia is out of control. not to say he is not cheating. but you are OBSESSED. this is COMPLETELY unhealthy for your children. yes - YOU ARE HARMING YOUR CHILDREN. fact. i am a therapist practicing in CO, USA specializing in helping couples through betrayal and have helped stave off more than 100 divorces.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
How can I catch my boyfriend?

Charlton, quit solicting for crying out loud. methinks the therapist is mirroring his own needs. Are you so detached and clinical that the fact your spouse, your partner in life is either out to destroy or just does not care about their own spouse. I hope you are lucky enough to have that special trusting relationship and never get betrayed.

These posters want proof they can in an iron clad provable way be able to say not only was my gut right, here's proof.

I go to a support group for healing harm from the past and the women who have found good men are very guarded and it's almost like a businesslike arrangement with marriagelike moments. They are all extremely careful to not expect their new spouses to provide for them financially, emotionally or any other way. Do you think their spouses have a clue that they are so distanced?

Premartial counseling might be a way to prevent many issues. This site is to verify if a boyfriend/spouse is cheating online. Maybe some people will need counseling if they verify their fear or find their fears to be unfounded. Your posts are certainly repetitive and almost hounding.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: How do I catch my boyfriend?

I have found a way to track what they log onto on the internet, even if they delete their history OR use a private browsing window, which is supposed to be untraceable .....it isn't!
1. Click on the START menu
2. Tpye in CMD in the search box
3. A window will pop up, type in ipconfig/displaydns
4. Press ENTER
Everything he has logged into that day will be displayed, deleted or not, for 24 hours. Good luck!

AnonyMan (not verified)
Re: How do I catch my boyfriend?
Doing this will show all of the DNS connections in the last 24 hours (or for however long).. So this isnt just "everything he has logged into" .. this is everything the computer connected to.. So if he got a spam email with images in it, you would see those connections. if he got a pop-up ad for a porn-site, you would see those connections. i'm not sure this is a good method for viewing history because it shows too much other stuff with no way to know if someone actually "logged into" a particular domain.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: How do I catch my boyfriend?

This is true, however, if it is something he logged into directly, it will usually start with www. and then the name of the website, all the pop ups and adds don't usually start this way.
If you are not sure, right click on the record name or code (eg: 125.0.01.5 for example), click on Mark and hi-light it, then open a new window and type in the address https://who.is and do a search and it will tell you what it is.
A little common sense is called for, but direct searches are usually obvious as there will be multiple displays of that same address, as it shows up every time they click on something within that website.
Do it a few days in a row for your own searches, and you will soon be able to tell the difference.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: How do I catch my boyfriend cheating?
If I were you I would go to his work on the sly and see what he is doing, from the things you are saying I think he is cheating.. A man who loves you wouldnt stop you from working at his workplace, I would get a regular phone that you are not using , have two apple or android phones so you dont need his and put the phone tracker in his car hidden, mute the phone from every sound and you will be able to see wherever he drives.without him knowing. It worked for me, also, if you like I could msg him and play him for you? ive done that a lot and worked for girls catching their man in the act!
Kay (not verified)
Emails sent from my boyfriend

I found messages sent to girls on dating sites from my boyfriends email address in his 'sent' folder. he says he knows nothing about them. is it possible someone could have hacked his account?

charlton (not verified)
Re: Emails sent from my boyfriend
no. time for therapy. you-individual and both - for couples. pay a therapist now or a lawyer later... if you have kids, you WILL NEED a lawyer if you divorce. i am a therapist practicing in CO, USA specializing in helping couples through betrayal and have helped stave off more than 100 divorces.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Emails sent from my boyfriend
NO. if it's actual messages in his sent folder he is a cheating liar, I am sorry. I am having a similar situation however I don't have any solid evidence just websites. He's in denial as well but I would definitely call him out on his bs.. don't believe him because you want to either., you've seen the messages.. maybe even try finding the profile lol and really think about it why would people hack his account just to talk to girls on a dating site, that sounds just stupid.
Anonymous (not verified)
Re: Emails sent from my boyfriend
I want to see all emails from any dating site
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Emails sent from my boyfriend

Is it possible? Yes..
But seriously. Would anyone actually believe that bands of hackers roam the internet and hack into men's email accounts and stash fake emails in their sent-folder to get them into trouble with your girlfriends? Don't be an idiot!

What do the email say?

Kay (not verified)
Re: Emails sent from my boyfriend
he's trying to arrange to meet some girls but his card details won't verify him. general flirting etc. I know it's highly unlikely that it could be anyone else, I just wanted someone else's opinion on it as he's so convincing in his denial. if it wasn't in black and white I'm sure I'd believe him.
Carol Elliott (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Just want to see what he is doing online
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
If you like i could msg and play him for you just so you have proof in catchig him, ive done it for several girls and all of them worked!
cyn (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I'm nervous but I need to know where we stand
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Hi can you do it for me please??im desperate
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
What is your email I will talk to you there privately and get started.
Carl (not verified)
Re: I think my girlfriend is cheating on me

Well I have been going through this too. She graduated from Romance to Erotica. My wife sits and reads it all day long nonstop when she gets home from work. Not much I can do I told her I didn't appreciate it all the time. Plus all of the other heap load of signs I found but she insists I am paranoid so I have stopped looking. What does it matter they won't admit to cheating at all costs? I found out about a guy she was talking to a little bit on Facebook I asked her about it said he was just a family friend. Then a day later I ask one more time she tells me after she lied to me looked me right in the eye that he now was her first and he broke her heart.

She insists it was nothing.

However her facebook used to be used all of the time on public posts and everything and she's does say she hardly used it and it appears that way. But why talk to the guy through private facebook message if nothing to hide? My counselor has told me to not put anymore of my energy into catching her. It doesn't matter even if she was they're way too damn careful anyways and now I will definitely not be able to catch her. I figured yes she was deleting her messages and posts daily. But nothing I can do about it really. You see if she has cheated or was it will come out eventually I don't see her staying with me because I guilt and if she did she has to deal with those demons not me as I have been faithful to her. Did I work too much and take my love for granted yes am I trying harder definitely. Simply put those books if read nonstop is no different to porn it can lead to other issues. However men we have to take a look at ourselves too are we treating them good? Are we providing emotional support? Unfortunately most women say there's some sort of relationship issue is why they read them nonstop. My wife tries to sell me on it that there's not all sex and stuff. Lol. She is going to do what she wants even after I tell her how it makes me feel. She showed me she stopped trying to take her at face value but an addiction is hard to quit cold turkey really. I know realistically she will get the urge to scratch that itch.

So my advice to all is quit wasting your energy it doesn't matter you can't control what people do or are going to do.

God bless

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: I think my girlfriend is cheating on me
Very well said. Ive stopped trying to prove my love n worth to my boyfriend. Ive never cheated n have no desire to but being neglected for porn is heart breaking, i found out from his exes that he was like that with them n his mom said hes been doing it since his teen yrs. Im a gd woman n person and will one day find a man who is deserving of me until than im making plans to leave n be by myself. Hope things get better for you!!
wjenn (not verified)
How can I retrieve deleted Facebook messages?

This new question has been moved HERE: How do I undelete a Facebook conversation?

tom tom smith (not verified)
viewing what my wife does online
She used a loptop we purchess. For work. can i look at her online from my work?
Haxxor Bin Waiten (not verified)
Viewing what your wife does online

If it's your laptop you can install 'remote control' or remote viewing software that would let you watch everything on the screen, over the internet, on your other computer. You would need to install the remote software on the laptop. If it's a Mac laptop, it's built in! Then on your computer at work you need to install the "client" software, like VNC. So to answer you question, YES you can.
It probably won't be free, and you will have to do some research to find what works best for you, and you might also be breaking the rules at work unless you own the computer you use at work as well.

jenniferw (not verified)
Re: Viewing what your wife does online
no, unfortunately its not my laptop.i just have the passwords for access. is there a way to retrieve deleted facebook deleted conversations? Its not the computer they were deleted from, but i was hoping someone would be able to help me
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Undeleting Facebook messages
jenniferw wrote:
is there a way to retrieve deleted facebook deleted conversations?
NO.
Becky. Cortez (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Where to go to see every thing.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your husband is cheating online
How can I find out if my husband is removing a secret memory card from his rooted phone? Some of his apps say they are on SD card but there isn't one in the phone. Also how can I find out if he is hiding any pictures videos etc in a vault of some sort. Or what other email accounts he may have. I logged on to his google account and it said a Nexus 4 had logged in one day the same day genie9 was used or gcloud. I feel he is hiding something on a SD card and removing it when he is home..
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your husband is cheating online
Can you update with the progress of yours? I am having the same issue. I want to hack his email account.But i dnt know a way to do so.Please help me if you know anything in hacking or who could help me in that matter.. Thank you
Anonymous Visitor in PAIN (not verified)
i need to know if my girlfriend is cheating!
Hey I am from Perth, Western Australia. I am a 23 years old MALE and have been seeing my Girlfriend for almost a year and i think it's time i found out what she actually get's up to when she goes out for "stays home" not only am i worried that she has lied to me, the fact is she has already lied about her feelings for certain other guys and frequently goes out to the city and parties with her close friends who seem to keep everything from me as i am not EVER invited to any of these events or "parties" I just want to know what's going on, i want to know if she loves me i seriously don't care if she has made a mistake in the past, although if she is currently and continuing to cheat on me i will dump her straight away and make it well known that she is a cheating low life. She literally makes me feel awful so much of the time that when i'm with her i am happy to an extent, although i am also very upset due to the fact she CONSTANTLY be-littles me and says i am "scum" or a "junkie" etc. If anyone knows ANYTHING that can help me find out the TRUTH, I BEG YOU PLEASE CONTACT ME AND I _W-I-L-L_ REWARD!!! YOU!!! thanks, Smile By the way i am crying right now ( I know it's sad! but i LOVE HER more than i have ever loved ANYTHING) so please! Please! help me!.... OH and i'd like to know where she is sometimes is there any sort of software/apps i can use to track her in an emergency E.G... thanks again ..
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I need to know.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Catching your boyfriend cheating online
I'm the type seeing is believing ! however I don't want to risk my health or safety ! these bottom-meany-roonies aren't worth it. - been there done that. ! I've been to jail because an ex was messing around on me could stand the beeeiotch he was ducking either - I just pray to god I get the strength to take care of my health I relapsed because of the crap I've been dealing with and three good friends who stopped talking to me because of this jerk ! its just difficult because I thought he cared about me when he only gives fudge about himself and his Dick ! up until recently he started talking all this shut about sharing me and talking some really nasty shut - don't get me wrong I'm all for having fun in the sack but because he's been looking at porn - I'm pretty he's been chatting and possibly hooking up with these some of these shanks as well, for him the nastier the better - on top of that he's always saying how horny he is. And masturbates daily. A red flag for me in the beginning I wasn't comfortable with. - I know guys do it but this weirdo takes it to the extreme. Not good ! hope this helps. I'm trying to get counseling and support to break this cycle ! And regain my self respect and dignity again. Good luck !

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