Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online


Whether your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is using Facebook, or other sites like Ashleymadison.com, it is possible to find out if he or she is cheating on you.

Catch him cheatingChat-rooms and social-networking websites like Facebook or Ashleymadison.com have made it easier than ever to make new friends, flirt, and even have full-blown love-affairs online. Throw in a low-cost web-cam and you can imagine the fun that he or she might be having behind your back when you aren't around. Is he or she suddenly acting differently? Being more secretive, especially around the computer? Is he or she online during all hours of the night? Is he or she accusing YOU of cheating (guilt avoidance & projecting)? Or, is something just not right in the relationship? If any of this sounds familiar to you, then you might have a cheater on your hands. Even if it's "online only" cheating, it could eventually lead to something more serious. Of course for most people even an online-only relationship behind your back is not acceptable.

Try a 'keylogger'* on your PC - The easiest way to catch him! (or her)

What most cheaters do not realize is that the computer they use to cheat on you with can very easily give them away. Today there are many software packages that you can secretly install onto your computer* to easily and silently track their every move, record every keystroke, take snapshots of the screen and even crack email passwords. These software programs* will run on Windows or Apple computers, are very easy to install and use, and are undetectable to anti-spyware programs or antivirus programs. These programs can be downloaded directly from the internet and installed in minutes. 

 

Most parental control/keylogger programs run on virtually all versions of Windows, can be installed 'discreetly' (nobody will know), and will record everything typed on the computer for your review at a later time.  These programs are usually not cheap - but they work quite well.

 

If he (or she) is cheating, it's easy to find out for sure

By using one of the many commercially available cheating spouse, chat monitor, or key-logging programs* you can find out for sure if your husband (or wife!) really is doing things behind your back. Stop wondering and find out for sure - no matter the outcome, you will be happier in the long-run.

  

* *This type of software is intended for use only on a computer owned by you.  Installing this type of software on a computer not owned by you, or without the consent of the owner of the computer is illegal in most states/countries.

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mad-as-heck (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I think my man is cheating on me. For a long time I had his Facebook, email and iCloud login information. Now its all been changed and he won't give me the information. I tried to get him to give me the infer why telling him I've changed my passwords and even gave them to him, but I still do not have his information. I want to get into his email and his Facebook account so that I can either settle my nerves or confirm my fears. Is there any suggestions on how to get into his accounts without having to have the passwords reset or without him knowing I'm in there.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Boyfriend's password

Other than him leaving an account open for you to see what's there, he needs to give you the password( s ) or a keylogger needs to be installed on the computer.

It is said: those who have nothing to hide - hide nothing...

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password

What password are we talking about. I have his Toshiba log on numbers and maybe his sign on password.

Thank you.

Is there a way to get a Yahoo password?

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
Whichever ones you want. Either he tells you or a keylogger is installed.
mad-as-heck (not verified)
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yeah, you're right, but he then throws up the whole i don't trust him act and then i feel terrible and back down and just change the subject so he isn't mad at me. i havent came out and said they whole, if theres nothing to hide, why cant i have the password. I have been so scared because i don't want to get hurt, or to lose him, but i want answers.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
Being scared and worrying about getting hurt or losing him doesn't sound like a balanced relationship at all.
mad-as-heck (not verified)
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you're exactly right, i guess my biggest worry is that when we started dating, a long time ago, he was always so sweet, and then we moved in together and he gave me his passwords and all that, well, i found he had other email accounts which had him talking to other women and all this the whole time we had been together and even admitted to them that we were together, they respond with, then we shouldn't talk like this is it would make your girlfriend mad or mess anything up between why'all, his response was, no, its cool. so i read into all this and confronted him and he broke down and was crying and was so sorry and said he would never do anything like that again, he deleted all his email accounts and deleted a lot of people from Facebook, and got rid of the cell phone he had and got a new phone with a new number. he even got rid of his computer that had other stuff on it. so, i believed him and gave him another chance. but little things have thrown un red flags and I just don't know what to do. I want access to those accounts again to ease my mind…or confirm my fears, so to speak.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
Have you asked him why he went from allowing you total access to slamming shut the vault door - so to speak?
mad-as-heck (not verified)
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yeah, but it gets quite, as if i never asked, then ill say something else and he will then respond to that.
Edwin (not verified)
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It sounds like you're already hurt, and well on your way to a life filled with nothing but more hurt. Good luck with that.
mad-as-heck (not verified)
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yeah, i have been very hurt, and i guess thats why i am so scared.
dgilluly
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I am the boy your mother warned you about from Belmont, NY
Member for 1 year 51 weeks
GuG-Points: 66
Re: Boyfriend's password

I guess I'm different from the guys who give their passwords to their girlfriends. That is something that I'd never give out to anyone. They can hop on my computer and check my messages or whatever, but they're not having my password. Just so that if they decide to break up and deface my profile, they won't be able to unless they have physical access to my computer. And if they install a keylogger the relationship is ended immediately. Guess it's just paranoia from being an IT Network and Security consultant, I've seen the weirdest things happen with overprotective significant others.

mad-as-heck (not verified)
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i completely understand where you are coming from with this, but it is true, he has just shut me out of that stuff. i had all the passwords, his apple id, his Facebook, his email, i had it all, but then it changed.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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The difference here is that the guy use to be an open book then closed up.
Something changed and that something occurred without an explanation being given to her.
So.....I think she is justified in suspecting he is up to no good, which he probably is...

I should add that I agree that casual, no real commitment, 'friends' should not be given passwords. That is more for those who are married or in a life long relationship.

dgilluly
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I am the boy your mother warned you about from Belmont, NY
Member for 1 year 51 weeks
GuG-Points: 66
Re: Boyfriend's password

I understand that, but cheating isn't the only thing that makes a person close up.

krissy (not verified)
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Okay...IV been in so many relationships and ask grew up very young saw way too much and well as an adult Tue result is serious wisdom beyond my years..and a gut instinct I promise on all thar is Holy and sacred..IT IS ALWAYS RIGHT.mom says I have a gift.
Huh...I say how..curse more like it.I wish I was these naive bubblegum singsongs who are happy in cansyland while getting cheated on lied to stolen from and everything else sometimes..then..I atop and think...and at the ed of the day I thank the Lord for what gift he blessed me me with.I just must use it and stop giving my man I'm with these chances.its so obvious he's been we'll..just bad..

S to you saying the CRAP IN RESPONSE TO CLOSONG UP.

LISTEN BRO....NOBODY JUST IS ONE WAY FOR A LONG PERIOD THEN POOF.PERSONALITY CHANGE..ITS THE FIRST SIGNS OF HIDING..AND TOFOR ALL YE GRADUATES OUT THERE..IT SURE IS A LIE WHWN OMMITING INFORMATION.

LOOK IT UP.
IM CANDYCANEXXX@MyEmailWasRemovedM
MY MAN TRIED TO KILL ME IN JAN
I CRY EVERY NIGHT. HE IS CAUGHT ONLINE ALL THE TIME BUT DOESNT DO ANYTHIMG LIKE PERVY.HES ALL INTO ME BUT ONCE I WAS HURT AND I WENT AND TQLKED TO BOYS N HE FOUND OUT CAUSE I WANTED HIM TO..TO KNOW I WAS HURTING.SAID TUEN TOO I WAS going to FORGET IT
.NOW HE COMPARES ME TO TEEN GIRLS AND THEOR BODIES.IM TWLL THIN AND I USED TO THINL SO PRETTY

YES MEN WHWN THEY STQRT TO CHAMGE EVEN A LITTLE

PLEASE NOTE IT

CLOSING UP IS HUGE
NOT LETTING you KNOW PASSWORDS..UM HELLO...HES CHEATING

AND IM VERY VERY SORRY

TO you ALL

GOD BLESS U
AND MAY you FIND PEACE WITHIN ONE ANOTHER AND URSELVES

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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My contention here is that he changed and didn't have the decency to say why. If - just saying if - it was brought on my something she did then he really needed to discuss the matter with her, instead of creating a situation of uncertainty that solves absolutely nothing at the core level.
mad-as-heck (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
you're exactly right, but i feel i cant have that conversation with him, because even if i do, i don't feel like he is being completely honest with me. what is something i can say that will turn the tables and basically force him to give me the passwords. or, is there anyway to get into his accounts without him knowing.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
I don't know what to say to force him to do anything he refuses to do. At the top of this page a keylogger is mentioned. From all the many sites I have read at, remember this: "Trust Your Gut." Don't second guess yourself - what you feel - what you 'know' - deep inside.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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My boyfriend of 3 years started acting weird the last 6 months. He was constantly questioning me and I wasn't doing anything. I knew something was up but couldn't find anything on him to prove it. He would always say "no baby, I wouldn't do anything like that to you. Well, I got ahold of the cell phone bill, I am on his plan and wow did I get a surprise. There were several numbers on there I didn't recognize. I started calling them and 1 girl works for the same co as he does. The thing about that is he drives a semi making deliveries and I used to work for that same co. I still have friends there, how stupid could he be. Well I now have the printed out bill and what happens when a record like that gets turned into the safety dept and HR and they see he is on his phone all day, constantly while driving??

He admitted he cheated and says he wants to work things out. The thing is I am a big hearted gal and want to try that but I need to know is there any way to find out if he really has stopped his cheating so I don't go on helping him pay his bills and being stupid. I would really like to know for sure.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I had moved in with him and we were engaged and planning on getting married, that's why I put my check towards helping with the bills. I never turned the phone bill in to his work. I didn't feel that was right, maybe that's just me being stupid. I feel in my gut that he is still up to something but i was lucky to get a copy of that phone bill and he is careful. He has totally changed on his texting habits with me and his talking on the phone when he's on his way home has stopped, he says he needs to wind down. The last couple of night it's like he has tried to pick a fight with me. Why can't I just walk away. Is there any way to out him on the internet and if so what is the best way?
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
boyfriend or husband is cheating online

Type his phone number into Search. See if that brings anything up.

As for him wanting to wind down, that is very normal for a man to do. Fifteen to thirty minutes should do it. If more than that there might be something bothering him or something could be going on as you suspect.

Don't appear attention needy. Give him a little space with that time driving home - don't mention it - and see what happens.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Ok, so I sent my best friend (who happens to be engaged to one of his friends) a text because we usually try to get together about once every 2 months to grab a bite to eat. I'm talking no more than an hour and a half. He is now saying he thinks it's weird and that he's not contacting his friend to try and get together to do anything. He is usually still working when my friend and I get together but he knows where I'm at, who i'm with and everything else about the time I am away from him. How is this being attention needy on my part?? And is this something that I am wrong about? Should I not be having time with friends and family? Very confused....please help.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I really don't know what to say at this point other than moving in was not a good idea until you had a solid base of history with his behavior and actions proving he is totally transparent with you, which interprets into him being honest and worthy of your trust. It seems that is not the foundation the relationship is built on.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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The weird thing about him wanting to wind down is he never wanted it before. I am a customer service rep for a large company in their call center. I take about 120 calls a day and make about 100 trying to figure out what the issue is with the other terminals. I am the one that always begged for just 10 min to unwind but he insisted we talk all the way to work and all the way home and that I call him on my lunch (the whole lunch period)as well as the fact that we live together. And he leaves for work at the same time as me and he stays right behind me the whole way. When he was texting 2 other women he was talking to me and he would watch my eyes in the mirrors and ask what I was doing or what I was looking at if I looked down when we were stopped at a stop light. If I hadn't called him yet he would ask who I was talking to but he was the one talking to others, I wasn't even on my phone and he could look at the bill and see that.
I am very limited as to who I can talk to and he makes rude comments if he thinks my pants are too tight or I put on eyeliner or straighten my hair. I was a size 2 when we first got together and I have put on about 30 pounds since we have been together and he still wants me to gain more. The thing about the clothes being too tight is my female co-workers heard him one day and said he was full of crap. My thought is if another woman is saying you don't dress provocatively then you don't. Us women can be pretty hard on each other.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

Help him pay his bills??
Of course, he wants to work it out.
Stop paying his bills.
Then, see if he still wants to work it out...

BTW, in the last two days, I just read at a very popular mens site that gives out a lot of advice, that to forgive the cheater means one is indirectly telling the cheater that what was done is okay.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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I have a boyfriend who I've been with for 4 years. I have 2 children to him and a month after we started dating he started acusing me of cheating on him. I caught him a few times going on porn then as the years past he eventually cheated on me. After he had cheated I went through his emails and found that a year after we first started to date he was chatting to other girls in dating sites. He says he dosnt but every time I confront him he turns it on me and smashes his phone. I haven't had the best past but I've always been faithful and honest to him I've kicked him out but he never leaves he just ignores me then slowly starts being nice and thinks that nothing happened and then we do it all over again in just don't know what to do..
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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Restraining order.... All it takes is the smashing of the phone to show cause for concern to have him removed from the home...and cause for a RO to be granted.
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Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
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My husband made up fake emails and fake names! It's so sneaky and evil how would I have ever known. On Moccospace tuck!

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