Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online


Whether your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is using Facebook, or other sites like Ashleymadison.com, it is possible to find out if he or she is cheating on you.

Catch him cheatingChat-rooms and social-networking websites like Facebook or Ashleymadison.com have made it easier than ever to make new friends, flirt, and even have full-blown love-affairs online. Throw in a low-cost web-cam and you can imagine the fun that he or she might be having behind your back when you aren't around. Is he or she suddenly acting differently? Being more secretive, especially around the computer? Is he or she online during all hours of the night? Is he or she accusing YOU of cheating (guilt avoidance & projecting)? Or, is something just not right in the relationship? If any of this sounds familiar to you, then you might have a cheater on your hands. Even if it's "online only" cheating, it could eventually lead to something more serious. Of course for most people even an online-only relationship behind your back is not acceptable.

Try a 'keylogger'* on your PC - The easiest way to catch him! (or her)

What most cheaters do not realize is that the computer they use to cheat on you with can very easily give them away. Today there are many software packages that you can secretly install onto your computer* to easily and silently track their every move, record every keystroke, take snapshots of the screen and even crack email passwords. These software programs* will run on Windows or Apple computers, are very easy to install and use, and are undetectable to anti-spyware programs or antivirus programs. These programs can be downloaded directly from the internet and installed in minutes. 

 

Most parental control/keylogger programs run on virtually all versions of Windows, can be installed 'discreetly' (nobody will know), and will record everything typed on the computer for your review at a later time.  These programs are usually not cheap - but they work quite well.

 

If he (or she) is cheating, it's easy to find out for sure

By using one of the many commercially available cheating spouse, chat monitor, or key-logging programs* you can find out for sure if your husband (or wife!) really is doing things behind your back. Stop wondering and find out for sure - no matter the outcome, you will be happier in the long-run.

  

* *This type of software is intended for use only on a computer owned by you.  Installing this type of software on a computer not owned by you, or without the consent of the owner of the computer is illegal in most states/countries.

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Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

You got to snooping because your intuition told you something was amiss.
Don't ever beat yourself yourself up over that...nor allow that to become the core issue!

You have a few options:
1 - Not do anything
2 - Look around to gather up as much proof as you need to confront him with - hint: take photos of the screen with whatever camera source you have..
3 - Decide how you are going to confront him
4 - Move on and dump his *ss...since he is probably doing a whole lot more than what you are presently seeing.

Your choice.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I have to words.... Thank you.Smile
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Anytime...
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I would like to find out if my boyfriend is cheating on me on social networks the problem is he uses a cellphone and not a computer
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Do you know the email address he uses for his cellphone? If so, start there - meaning put it in Google Search. You might want to put his phone number in Google Search, too. Last but not least, put his name in Google Search. You never know what will come up. Take 'Spokeo' for instance. You might find something there. If you know which social network, you could always go in, make up a fake profile (no photograph necessary), and look around.
the wife too (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I got a match.com and that is where I found him, once I got his user name I googled it and the picture he uses came up in images but it really gave no information I also got spokeo and uses his username and it came up and showed me picture and what he had written on his profile in Match.com,. Apparently he was paying for the Match and not out of our account so therefore I know he has another bank account somewhere. I have been searching forever but if they are computer smart they can fix it where it is almost impossible to find. He does his dirty work on his work computer and work phone. and has his personal phone set up to only work with his work pc. good luck,,,still searching.
Jasmine Campbell (not verified)
How do I get a keylogger on my computer?
Im currently in a different country and i want to know what my family is using my computer for especially my bad ass kids. I understand what a keylogger is but how can i get it install on the computer back home with out physically being there. I heard before I can send a file with a keylogger that automatically installs but the problem is how do i get in it a file and how do i get to see what is logging from my location.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

I have one comment to all:

i have had a similar situation in the past and we still love each other. If he wont show you his silly email and texts WHY would you give up the goods and still live with him as more than friends?

ml833
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I am not telling from Los Angeles, CA
Member for 5 years 35 weeks
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Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

 I've used Elite Keylogger and it is easy to use and worked how it was supposed to. I ran virus and spyware after it was installed and neither detected it. Make sure you're ready to see what you might find before you do this though! 

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
for keylogger I have have a problem. my boyfriend is long didtance. do you know if there is anything else i can use, or a website? it is so fustrating having this feeling and only comming up with little peices here and there.and alot of hidden sites also.he wants me to move down there and marry him. i feel in my heart he is cheating by his actions and the way he has been acting but i dont have solid proof.I have tried doing a fake profile and turned myself into the absolute perfect women for him. the only problem is that i signed up for so many i forgot half of my user names and passwords and forget about the websites all together. now i look stupid because he went on spokeo and i have a match.com account and who knows how many more? i love him so much and im really desperatly needing help getting solid proof. what do you recomend?
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

Just a suggestion.

Don't move!

Don't get married!

You are not ready for this and that is a GOOD THING (!) because your intuition is desperately trying to tell you something is very wrong but you keep allowing enough doubt to override your internal red flag warnings.

If you are going to make up fake profiles, you ALSO need to make up a NEW email addy and of course user name(Drunk for this purpose. Don't use your regular daily use email account. When you use ONE email account for all your 'detective' work that makes it easy to keep track of where all this information is stored.
Each site should have a user name / password recovery system set up where you simply type in your email addy to have the information sent the email addy you used to sign up.

At Spokeo and other people type sites you can fill in the necessary form for your information at that particular site be REMOVED. Go there and do that.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
If you feel so strongly that he is up to something then you should probably back out now since the trust is obviously not there for some reason. I know it's not easy, been in the same situation and stayed just to get burnt really bad. I learned my lesson on the third one! Good luck to you and just remember there is a reason you are having these feelings.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
using key loggers
The only problem with keyloggers is you have to be able to get on the other persons computer to install.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: using key loggers
I should have stated that I put it on my own computer and used it that way.
Chadly (not verified)
Re: using key loggers
There is also that tiny detail that using a keylogger on a computer that is not yours that you do not have permission to use it on, is highly illegal.
mad-as-heck (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I think my man is cheating on me. For a long time I had his Facebook, email and iCloud login information. Now its all been changed and he won't give me the information. I tried to get him to give me the infer why telling him I've changed my passwords and even gave them to him, but I still do not have his information. I want to get into his email and his Facebook account so that I can either settle my nerves or confirm my fears. Is there any suggestions on how to get into his accounts without having to have the passwords reset or without him knowing I'm in there.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Boyfriend's password

Other than him leaving an account open for you to see what's there, he needs to give you the password( s ) or a keylogger needs to be installed on the computer.

It is said: those who have nothing to hide - hide nothing...

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password

What password are we talking about. I have his Toshiba log on numbers and maybe his sign on password.

Thank you.

Is there a way to get a Yahoo password?

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
Whichever ones you want. Either he tells you or a keylogger is installed.
mad-as-heck (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
yeah, you're right, but he then throws up the whole i don't trust him act and then i feel terrible and back down and just change the subject so he isn't mad at me. i havent came out and said they whole, if theres nothing to hide, why cant i have the password. I have been so scared because i don't want to get hurt, or to lose him, but i want answers.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
Being scared and worrying about getting hurt or losing him doesn't sound like a balanced relationship at all.
mad-as-heck (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
you're exactly right, i guess my biggest worry is that when we started dating, a long time ago, he was always so sweet, and then we moved in together and he gave me his passwords and all that, well, i found he had other email accounts which had him talking to other women and all this the whole time we had been together and even admitted to them that we were together, they respond with, then we shouldn't talk like this is it would make your girlfriend mad or mess anything up between why'all, his response was, no, its cool. so i read into all this and confronted him and he broke down and was crying and was so sorry and said he would never do anything like that again, he deleted all his email accounts and deleted a lot of people from Facebook, and got rid of the cell phone he had and got a new phone with a new number. he even got rid of his computer that had other stuff on it. so, i believed him and gave him another chance. but little things have thrown un red flags and I just don't know what to do. I want access to those accounts again to ease my mind…or confirm my fears, so to speak.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
Have you asked him why he went from allowing you total access to slamming shut the vault door - so to speak?
mad-as-heck (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
yeah, but it gets quite, as if i never asked, then ill say something else and he will then respond to that.
Edwin (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
It sounds like you're already hurt, and well on your way to a life filled with nothing but more hurt. Good luck with that.
mad-as-heck (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
yeah, i have been very hurt, and i guess thats why i am so scared.
dgilluly
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I am the boy your mother warned you about from Belmont, NY
Member for 2 years 2 weeks
GuG-Points: 66
Re: Boyfriend's password

I guess I'm different from the guys who give their passwords to their girlfriends. That is something that I'd never give out to anyone. They can hop on my computer and check my messages or whatever, but they're not having my password. Just so that if they decide to break up and deface my profile, they won't be able to unless they have physical access to my computer. And if they install a keylogger the relationship is ended immediately. Guess it's just paranoia from being an IT Network and Security consultant, I've seen the weirdest things happen with overprotective significant others.

mad-as-heck (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password
i completely understand where you are coming from with this, but it is true, he has just shut me out of that stuff. i had all the passwords, his apple id, his Facebook, his email, i had it all, but then it changed.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Boyfriend's password

The difference here is that the guy use to be an open book then closed up.
Something changed and that something occurred without an explanation being given to her.
So.....I think she is justified in suspecting he is up to no good, which he probably is...

I should add that I agree that casual, no real commitment, 'friends' should not be given passwords. That is more for those who are married or in a life long relationship.

dgilluly
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I am the boy your mother warned you about from Belmont, NY
Member for 2 years 2 weeks
GuG-Points: 66
Re: Boyfriend's password

I understand that, but cheating isn't the only thing that makes a person close up.

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