Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online


Whether your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is using Facebook, or other sites like Ashleymadison.com, it is possible to find out if he or she is cheating on you.

Catch him cheatingChat-rooms and social-networking websites like Facebook or Ashleymadison.com have made it easier than ever to make new friends, flirt, and even have full-blown love-affairs online. Throw in a low-cost web-cam and you can imagine the fun that he or she might be having behind your back when you aren't around. Is he or she suddenly acting differently? Being more secretive, especially around the computer? Is he or she online during all hours of the night? Is he or she accusing YOU of cheating (guilt avoidance & projecting)? Or, is something just not right in the relationship? If any of this sounds familiar to you, then you might have a cheater on your hands. Even if it's "online only" cheating, it could eventually lead to something more serious. Of course for most people even an online-only relationship behind your back is not acceptable.

Try a 'keylogger'* on your PC - The easiest way to catch him! (or her)

What most cheaters do not realize is that the computer they use to cheat on you with can very easily give them away. Today there are many software packages that you can secretly install onto your computer* to easily and silently track their every move, record every keystroke, take snapshots of the screen and even crack email passwords. These software programs* will run on Windows or Apple computers, are very easy to install and use, and are undetectable to anti-spyware programs or antivirus programs. These programs can be downloaded directly from the internet and installed in minutes. 

 

Most parental control/keylogger programs run on virtually all versions of Windows, can be installed 'discreetly' (nobody will know), and will record everything typed on the computer for your review at a later time.  These programs are usually not cheap - but they work quite well.

 

If he (or she) is cheating, it's easy to find out for sure

By using one of the many commercially available cheating spouse, chat monitor, or key-logging programs* you can find out for sure if your husband (or wife!) really is doing things behind your back. Stop wondering and find out for sure - no matter the outcome, you will be happier in the long-run.

  

* *This type of software is intended for use only on a computer owned by you.  Installing this type of software on a computer not owned by you, or without the consent of the owner of the computer is illegal in most states/countries.

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Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Husband looking at porn online
he isn't just looking at it, he is looking at every dating site, local dating and hook-up sites and has met with other before outside our home. i am not insecure, and as far as our sex goes, we have sex 4 to 5 times a week and there is always something new and exciting we try. until i saw that he was using yahoo messenger and found all these girl's on his 4 differant email accounts i thought all was fine. i don't look, i have never cheated and if he has gone as far as chatting, seeing others behind my back, is trying everything to cover things up, then lying about it, i am sure he is doing something! he isn't my hottie himself anymore and i was hoping it was a phase, where he could get his jollies with hot gals to look at, but chatting and possible meetings is cheating!
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Re: Find out if husband is cheating online

I would be very (VERY) wary of a free keylogger.. as a matter of fact, i recommend that if you must use a keylogger, you use a paid program from a company that offers support for it's product. A keylogger is almost by defintion a Trojan Horse type program.. Slapping something like this into your computer from some guy in Russia is generally not a good idea in my opinion..

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Hello people. I have been w my boyfriend for 13yrs. How do i find out all searches or websites,chats , pretty much anythin he has done on my phone. please if you do not mind help me figure out whats going on. thankyou
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
hi! I'm really confused, I don't know what to do! a month ago a girl emailed me telling me I had a cheating boyfriend and him and her have been talking for a while, she ended up emailing me all there messages, and I ended up finding out he masterbated on a video chat with her,I confronted him and he admitted it, he broke down crying and kept apologizing! I love him with all my heart so I took him back, but im scared he will do it again,I can't trust him at all I'm scared of getting really hurt.he says he loves me a lot, but if he loved me he wouldn't have done that right? what should I do??
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Listen to me.. .Get Rid of him.. I wish I had, when I found out that my so called bottom-meany-roonie pos boyfriend did this, he did all the tricks in world to make me stay.. Those tears he was crying to you are FAKE. That is not love period.. It lowers your self esteem and self confidence and he is manipulating you to see what he can and can not get away with.. If he really loved you, he wouldnt need to Jack off to another woman period.. Trust me, you will find someone better than that.. RUN! You will thank me later and saving you the heartache and pain.. I never listen to myself and now I m really paying for it!
ankureds
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Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
helloo guys,,i always feel so sad here in india..which is i feel alone..even thou i have my live in partner..we always fight yeah its cz i am so much bore here but that thing i can hardly manage but the most problem im facing is my boyfriend is cheating me for so long time.atually i met him in internet also and we fall inlove each other i waited him almost 3 years to met in phil and yes he came and met me..after that everythings is fine..after 3 weeks he did some stupid in phil he met so many girls while im so busy to run my visa papers to india not knowing that his usy also chatting with girls and met..i caught him bcz 1 girl calling to him but im the one who pick the phone..he admit and say sorry and yes i forgive his cz i love him..so wen i came to india its more worst he still doing stupid in internet..and i found that he have another facebook..then i forced to ask hhis password otherwise i will do stupid things also just scaring him only..he gave it to me and the crime start there..so nasty and so mess message there..that time we had a huge fight.that time i want to fly to phil if i have wing,i want to go home but i cant go home bcz he will not allow me and also he hide my passport..so ta=hat time he ask one last chance that he will change and forget that habit anymore..begging so like and angel that he will not do that bcz his telling that i am the most im4tant in his life for me i will not give 1 chance to him its bcz to much..but 1 of his big boss ask also forgiveness in his side..and he promise in front of his big boss he will not do it again..so i give him another chance...so 45days he didnt do anything bcz im the one only using laptop every time..but these this i feel fishy that his start again chatting..bcz of his move so different now..he always stay in the reception always and im thinking he have another laptop there but its hide..wat im going to do to catch him...bcz i confront him if he have he said he dont have and he want me to check in there but i gut a hard feeling his doing again..please give some advice..surely because so hard to trsut him after all he did...
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is he cheating
just need to know if he cheating me
dgilluly
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Re: is he cheating

 First thing I'd do is a quick Facebook search using one of your friends' accounts because I know most cheating guys create a second account on Facebook to hide their cheating activities. If he has any trustworthy friends ask one of them off the record if he's cheating, from my experience most men that cheat will brag about it to their close friends. The reason why I say trustworthy is because if the guy that you ask isn't, he'll lie to you and tell him that you're asking. Those are the easiest ways to get answers, but aren't full-proof.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
advise about my boyfriend
I need some advise my boyfriend and i have been together 3 year and we have a kid together, when i would be gone visiting family i found out he was going be hind my back talking to ex girlfriends he even invited one over to drink with him but he says she had her boyfriend with her but she is always an enemy the first time i met her she got in my face saying he cheated on her with me even though we were together first. i have found many dating sites he would even use my phone to take to girls be hind my back and i would get a text from them and he would say he doesnt know who they are even though it would happen more then once. it happened for 2 years and things are okay now i do believe he loves me and i know i love him but i feel like i cant trust him even though i watch him all the time now and dont see anything anymore im still scared to trust him. I need advise on what i should do
ankureds
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Re: advise about my boyfriend
hello i can feel wat you feel its bcz it happend to me also guys always like that they will not accept even thou ders a prof.its to hard to trust to them completely once they broke our trust..just always pray that he will change literally..just like i do..
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I am the boy your mother warned you about from Belmont, NY
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Re: advise about my boyfriend
I know cheating is a terrible thing and it's a lot worse when you have children. But you have to confront him directly about it, it's inevitable. You may have to threaten to leave, anything to get it through to him that you won't put up with it. Make sure you have someone else around just in case he gets abusive.
ankureds
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Re: advise about my boyfriend
hello dear.dqilluly...well wat if he did promise to you that he will not do it again then after all his still doing,,so wat im going to do?
Dilan Gilluly (not verified)
Re: advise about my boyfriend
Break up, there are better men out there. If I was misbehaving like that I'd expect no less, empty promises are worse than doing the same without making that promise.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: advise about my boyfriend
DEAR, Dilan gilluly, this is EDS OY FRIEND, i m using eds account because she forget to log out and i read all , thanks for your comment but i want to let you know whole thing what exactly happned right now i accpt i did mistake ut i left after our last fight around 50 days before i didnt do anything after that because i feel that we going to break our relation so i stop , actually i m working ina hotel as a General Manager so i have to work but she dont let me work. we got a room in the hotel because companey have to provide me a accomdation so we always ina hotel and some time i have to e in a reception to check all the reports all the rooms and hotel was 100% occupied from last 4 days so i was little bussy and i was accomdating the rooms for the guest and some time i have to meet some clients but i cant go out because of her so it means i m not doing my job if i m more then 15 mins out of hotel she doubt me i went to cafe yaa its true i did it before that but now i m not doing anything almost 50 days i didnt use any internet actually she dont want me to use so i m not doing and i promise her that it will not happned again so i will not do ut i have to work also right now such in this position i have to manage all my staff i have to give some time to the reception to check all things if the work done properly or not because i m responsible for everything and some time my boss told me to write some personal agreement letter for him to send to the big compnies for good busness and in between she called me and if i say i m with boss she thing i m in internet cafe please help me how to make her beleive that i m not doing that anymore may be you can help me also because i dnt want to loose her and i accpt my mistakes which i have done in my past so please i need your help also......
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: advise about my boyfriend
I have confronted him about it and he just gets mad and doesnt want to talk about it and when i can get him to say something about it he just says he doesn't know why he did it but every time i found something i said something about it and that went on once a month for a year. it did get to the point where i left for a while but he didn't even try to get me to come back i came back to maybe work things out. sense then hes been good but i dont know if he is going to change. i never imaged he would be like this if the first place hes been there for me then anyone else in my life hes helped me through so much i just dont understand how it could be a lie. do you think someone that has cheated so many times could change?
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: advise about my boyfriend
Hi, i was reading your comment and i just thought god you sound like me. I have been with my now husband for 5 years. Every chance he gets he is chatting with girls on Zoosk, Facebook and other sites. I have left him twice for those reasons but like an idiot i go back i dont know why. We are worth more than this and im sorry to say if they cheat once they will never change!!!I plan on throwing mine out but, firstly i need to prove it. Because in the past he deletes everything and then denys he ever did. But not this time!!!! Be strong and walk away they honestly are not worth it!
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Re: advise about my boyfriend
With all honesty it sounds like you're better off without him. From studying some psychology, there are personality types, people that cheat like that in a personality class of their own to where they can't make commitments. I believe that it's more common now than ever because of our "disposable society" spilling over from electronics to the way people look at other people. They can change but it's very unlikely, I've never heard of it first hand. Part of it also stems from people getting "true love" mixed up with that natural, chemical high when you meet a new partner. Sounds like his chemical high for you wore off and he's trying to get it back so he's looking to chase that feeling again. Though custody cases may hurt your child some, but in my opinion it's better than having them be brought up around an unfaithful father. There are warning signs to look for in men, for instance look at the way they treat their own mothers, it will give you some foresight on the way you'll eventually be treated.
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Re: advise about my boyfriend
I completely agree. I am in a similar situation with my own husband. Him and I are apart at the moment. He came over during the weekend to visit the children. I let him sleep over. While I slept in the bedroom, he was in the living room wooing a woman on facebook. I know because I have a unseen survelience program on my computer. Hee hee. I told him about it a while ago. But I think the drugs he does has messed his memory up some.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: advise about my boyfriend
Anonymous Visitor wrote:
i left for a while but he didn't even try to get me to come back
take the hint!
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
proof my husband is cheating online
i checked pipl.com to no avail. I too have caught my husband 1st) chatting with an ex asking her for nude pics of which she sent him (he blows it off saying he only asked her for those so she would stop bugging him). 2) caught him using webcam and chating with woman online 3) caught him a 3rd time on webcam exposing himself (had a keylogger installed after the ex's email). 4) he wakes up in the middle of the night to view porn on his cellphone. when confronted denies it. been married 15 years 3 kids. we have tried mc to no avail. what to do now? I want more PROOF so i can print the crap out and bring it with me to a lawyer. nail is a**.
2good4him (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online

Yes there's a way. If you already have a Goggle account well their's a start and if you don't have one yet then I would register for your own account. And if your husband doesnt know, then I wonuldnt tell unless he ask because he noticed it. On your Google account it will have a account settings, so go into your account and enable web-history! Also download the chrome toolbar it will also enhance your searches. Follow each step and you'll have answer by tonight. It will show you the websites that you've been through along with the date. So it will pick up sex, porn, relationship and even if you looked up how to bake a cake! It might take some getting use to. It took me a few nights while I had the quite time to do it but don't give up on it because you'll be amazed at just what you may or maynot find. Also in your Google Account settings go to your Google Alerts and you can fill out anytime porn, sex, dating sites and whatever you what to get Personal Alerts about you can. So each time anyone using these keywords it will send alerts to you in your Google account like your g-mail....

Best of luck to all you ladies! I hope this will help anyone that may be going through this heart break and headache!!! If anyone has any questions please don't hesitate to ask.

Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
ok i have a gmail account but only searches i see are my own. how do i search HIS account?
upset_78
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Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I HATE the internet! Well not totally, I hate it because all it is,is temptation to the weak or in my case SLEEZEBALL bastard. My question is, I have all the PROOF that he's doing wrong, so HOW do I bust him out on it without him going PSYCHO?
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I have been reading everyone's posts from the last six months or so, and sadly I must say that I am in the same boat as the masses. The only difference is it is my WIFE, and I am the faithful spouse here, yes, FEMALES do this crap too, not just guys! I am so torn on what to do next. We have a counseling session scheduled but I have doubts if I can get over this completely. I just found out video chatting was involved, they both claim to LOVE each other, and my wife wants time from speaking to me while I know she is talking to her boyfriend. Sucks that there are so many of us faithful people out here taking crap from the unfaithful! Feels a little better getting this out, but the next weeks will determine if I am a single man and father!! I deserve better and I know some lucky woman is awaiting me out there......
shasal999
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Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I hear ya. It really sucks. I don't don't deserve to be treated this way. And you don't either.
Been there before (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
Im reading and Im shaking my head - And the main reason is because, like all you other ladies??? Ive been there.....Leaving someone that is suppose to LOVE you is a process NOT a single event. Most of these stories ring true for me and Im glad that Im no longer in that place anymore....the best advice I could give??? NONE. and its true, because you could have the honest truth from god HERSELF Smile and you would still do what you do and he'll still do what hes doing....You'll wake up one day, for some....maybe not even this lifetime, but one day you'll wake up and ask yrself...when is enough enough?? and when yopu can actually answer that question?? Maybe then, you won't need others to answer for you Smile BEST LUCK EVERYONE!! LOVE YAH!!! <3
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
I was with this guy for almost 4 years. One day I had this gut feeling that something was going wrong so I looked in his phone and found messages to this Korean female that he used to talk to. I asked him and he got mad and said why are you going through my phone and said it was because of work and the stress I was putting on him. Then we stayed together we agreed at times. Then we moved to Korea and a lot of times he didn't want to go out with me only his boys. That made me think. Well I went to WLC and about 5 days before gradating I called him to say omg only 5 more days and we will get to see each other and he had the nerve to say how can someone miss someone when they talk to them all day. So I didn't call him back and when I got back his relationship status said it’s complicated. Then I called him and he got mad at me and said we need to talk. He got to my room and broke up with me because he found someone else. Then my friends and I went out drinking that night and someone told me he was seen kissing a girl. Then months later we got back together and we went to different duty stations while he was in VA for ALC class he was showing me some of his pictures and two of the pictures he most of forgot they was there was him kissing a female. Stupid me stayed with him and I deployed. Well I had this gut feeling that something was going wrong because he was always arguing with me about the littlest thing. So I decided to hack his facebook page and found out he was talking to this Korean female, talking to this female that he said he never talks to, then he told his roommate how he fucked this girl back home on leave before ALC class, and the list goes on. So I called him and broke up with him. I told him it wasn't hear say that I seen it with my own eyes. While went by then he got a hold of me and was saying he changed and everything but there was a comment on his page from a female friend back home in NYC that said her and her friend were laying in bed and looked over and seen Jordan boxers on the floor and started laughing. Come on he did not change and will not.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
my fiance was caught cheating online with a woman from france for our entire relationship..i have now found lovey dovey texts on his phone hes keep from me time to move on!!!
Diana (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
My relationship with my boyfriend since November 2011. I found out he lied to me for go to oversea to seeking a new job but he bring his ex girlfriend to stay in his house for one week. He add many female @ his Facebook all the time, on dating site he always online when he in office and his profile say looking for dating and serious relationship. At 3am+ still got calling from girl he got know from dating site. When I ask he to cancel or turn off he dating profile, he got angry (refuse) and ask to break up with me. I forgive him for many time but he still cheating at me. He not allow me to go out with my female friend or chat with any friend(girls) and ask me just stay at home Also not allow me to online to chat with my family . I feel so hopeless n sad with this relationship.
Anonymous Visitor (not verified)
Re: Find out if your boyfriend or husband is cheating online
You need to find out what is keeping you from dumping this cheating loser. Stop making excuses for him. Let him come home to an empty house today...pack up and leave and don't go back!! Do what you need to do but get away from this guy. He is a control freak who wants to be single. Dump him and quick.

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