emails and dating sites?


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How do you search the internet to try and find out if someone is using chat/dating sites by using there email(s?

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Re: emails and dating sites?
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good advice listed on here. It's just such a shame that any one would use those sites, married or not married. /: My husband was using them and other horrible things from a few years before he met me and he continued to use them until i set up a youtube account with his gmail and he didnt notice it, so I go on there and check the history. It's horrific to me, but i give him a chance to come clean by asking him about it first... He TRIED TO DENY IT of coursee.. but I had the proof to show him that I know what he was doing.

The saddest part about your other half cheating online is that you feel you have to become a spy just to get answers to your pain because they thought you weren't that smart. Honestly the best way to catch them is in a slip up, and if you have to be sneaky and set secret restrictions or go on their email when they are asleep then so be it because no one deserves the pains online cheating brings. (cheating is not just physical, but mental..and mentally when they are online doing such things they aren't with us, they are with this other person they are chatting with or watching 'dance' for them being very physical mentally. More then they probably are with us.)
All you have to do is out smart your guilty, mistake making spouse and really just listen and pay attention, without accusing, especially without evidence (The devil is the accuser so we shouldn't really be accusing either) When I'm searching up my husband and going through his emails I get a rush from it. One thing to remember is don't be fooling around because you think they are fooling around. You may be serious and join one of those dating sites to search up your spouse on there, but instead you are the one caught in a spiral, you think your other is on this website and it turns out they aren't.. then you were the one on the dating site. Could look bad. My best advice is be a little sneaky, not foolish, and your cheating spouse will reveal his own mistakes (or that's what is will look like (; ) anyway I've had a hard time and lots of bad anxiety over issues like this, even when they get caught you can not be absolutely sure they aren't getting smarter instead of sorrier like they should. Don't give away your sneaky tactics, act like a dumb blonde about that. So don't tell them how you got the evidence, but that you have it and you have your ways. Otherwise they will just learn more and more ways to avoid getting caught and they will be tempted to do those things again.

My ultimate answer though for everyone is God. He can help us in our marriages. <3 Let Him be the connection between our hearts. Jesus doesn't want heartache. Thank you to anyone who read this.

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Spokeo.com
FYI: Just save your time when it comes to spokeo.com I just tried it and searched myself and a few others who I happen to know alot of the sites they belong to and of course it did not work, it only searches a few obvious sites and is a waste of time. bummer.....
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Re: emails and dating sites?
As someone subscribed to a dating site with a paid subscription, my experience has been that most people use the same name as their facebook, myspace, twitter, or email. I've seen quite a few people I actually know of the opposite sex in real life on these sites, and their names are the same as most of those mentioned. The reason why is because some people don't want to pay like I already have and so they've figured out a way around it. People interested will Google the dating site name and it will come back with a facebook, email, or twitter and then they can contact the person that way. So that'd be my advice. Same as hubby's. Google the dating site account name. If not, sign up. If you do just don't use someone else's photograph. All of these sites don't require you to put up your picture. If they have an account you'll find them. Wish I would've thought of the name thing. Those sites are expensive.
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Re: emails and dating sites?

There are a few ways, none of which is perfect or efficient.
First, do a few good old fashioned Google/Bing/Yahoo searches. IF the website makes member's email addresses public (not likely) it should turn up.
Another way is to create accounts at some of the big dating sites and see if you can search for people by email address.
Yet another way is to try a site like spokeo.com - which MIGHT find more than regular Google/yahoo/Bing searches - although you'll have to pay to find out. There may be similar free search sites.

The real problem is that if someone is trying to hide from you that they are using dating/chat sites, if they have half a brain, they arent going to use their 'real' email address. It takes 30 seconds to create a free, throwaway email address at Google, Hotmail, etc - so there is always the chance they are using an unknown (to you) email address.

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