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Not sure what to do. My family that has been helping me out financially has told me to go to hell yesterday and that they are done with me and will no longer help me out. Now I have no idea what to do. They were the only way to keep the roof over my head and my utilities going. Now that they are going to stop helping, I have no way to keep the roof over my head anymore let alone my utilities going.

I do not know anybody in this town where I could ask someone if they want to move in or if I could move in with them. I have called the radio stations to see if they could ask their listeners for some help or advice on where I could go or if they could start a fund raiser or collection for me and I was told that they could not do that.

If I cannot find some sort of help to keep the roof over my head, I am going to end up on the streets. And how in the heck am I going to do that when I still can't walk well. And all of the homeless shelters are about 1/2 hour to 45 minutes away from me. So, that does me no good being so far away and I have cats also. What am I going to do with them if I don't have a roof over my head anymore?

If anybody who reads this knows of something I can do to keep me here or someone that needs to rent a room, please let me know. 

EDIT: Oh yeah I forgot to add that I am faking this disease.  I am making it all up just for the attention.  I guess me being in the hospital for two weeks, all of the MRI's that I have had in the past twelve years and the doctors dictations and diagnosis are all fake too.  Guess I paid them off to say that I had an incurable disease and I paid him off to admit me into the hospital also.  This is the kind of support that I get from my loving family and now they have cut me off financially.

 

 

 

   

   

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I am sorry to say, things have not eased up at all.  They still will not talk to me unless it is absolutely necessary.  I still have the roof over my head.  But for how long, remains to be seen. 

I have Multiple Sclerosis.  And I have been in contact with every organization in this town.  The MS Society knows what is going on with me and my family and all they can say is "I'm sorry" They do not offer any kind of assistance or anything.  All they do is research. At least thats what the chapter out here does.

I do not live with my family. I live on my own.  I was doing just fine, until I got sick and had to quit work. That is why I I was asking if anybody knew of any other help to keep the roof over my head.  There is no help in this town what so ever.

Like I said before, there is a 12 to 24 month waiting period on HUD.  And that is just to find out if you are accepted or denied. 

Thank you Julie for your thoughts and prayers

 

 

I was standing in the park, wondering why frisbees got bigger as they got closer. Then it hit me.

 Summer, Some time has gone by since your first post about your misfortunes, and I'm hoping there have been some reconciling on both sides. In the heat of an angry moment, especially when alcohol is added to the mix, we can say things to loved ones that are hurtful. The truth usually ends up to be that the harsh words were spat out because of anger. Usually time will heal the wounds inflicted. I was hoping that was the case for you. Has anything eased up? Have things gone into an uneasy truce? At least you're not out on the streets right now, right?

Summer may I ask what the name of your disease is? Depending on what it is, there may be help available through certain organizations. Also, Utilities cannot not be turned off if there is a disabled person living in the household. I know it's different from state to state, but it's worth looking into.

It sounds like the circumstances are not good for you to be out of there, but I think it would be much more healthy for you, emotionally and physically, to look into a place of your own. Get your name on the Hud list, and in the meantime all our thoughts and prayers are there for you. Don't let others make you a victim.  juliek

with that said, i would agree. we are here to support, help, and seek out a solution. the more we know, the more successful we can be in getting answers.

 

How the thing started was I asked my mother, do you think something else could be going on with me besides my disease? I mean I have been sick for over 2 years and the doctors all tell me that I should not have been sick this long. So,I wonder if something else is going on with me. And she was like you were in the hospital and none of the doctors said anything different that anything else was wrong with me.

I then said to her that they were not testing me or looking for anything else but what I was in the hospital for. And BOOM that is what started the whole thing.

My step father started screaming at me saying I am a cripple and I will always a be a cripple. That I am in denial and looking for a miracle drug to cure me. That the physical therapy that I have been going to is BS and will NEVER help me and he is going to tell them that they are full of chit and wasting his time.

I then said I have been trying to be positive about this and I am doing everything to possibly get me back on my feet again. Well, that pissed him off even more when I said I am trying to be positive and he screamed at the top of his lungs BS!!!!!!!!!! You are in fuc*en denial and living in a fantasy world.

You will be this way for the rest of your life and you need to accept the fact that you will be a cripple for the rest of your life. Now mind you my mother is sitting right there while all this is happening, not saying a word.

So, I turned to my mother and said mom why can't you support me on this? You know what I am trying to do with physical therapy and trying to get on a new medication, that I am trying to be positive and look for the best with my disease. And that is when they both told me to get the F out of their house and never come back.

So, that is why they are so angry with me, cause I am in denial and I refuse the believe that I am going to be a crippled for the rest of my life.

 

 

I was standing in the park, wondering why frisbees got bigger as they got closer. Then it hit me.

I cannot have any other income due to SSDI.  And with SSDI, I can only make up to $600 a month without losing my benefits.  My stepfather has me on his payroll (or had me on his payroll), since he was helping me out through the business account and his CPA said he could write it off.  I don't know if he has "fired" me.  I never ever saw any of the money.  It was just on paper.

 

 

I was standing in the park, wondering why frisbees got bigger as they got closer. Then it hit me.

You might not be at that point but its one site to hang on to in case you should need it.

 

No, I am not at that point and I hope not to get there either.  But I will definitely hold onto it, just in case.  Thank you  

 

 

I was standing in the park, wondering why frisbees got bigger as they got closer. Then it hit me.

I just feel like there's more to this story. I know for me, if you're going to look for help here, than we on the GuG deserve all the story...juliek

 

You're right there is more to the story. My step father is an alcoholic and sits home all day and drinks till he passes out. He owns his own business, and basically lets his employees run it so he can stay home. And he is a nasty mean drunk. He has hit me across the head so hard that I saw stars when they first got married and my mother was screaming at me, cause I was trying to get at him for hitting me. I had never been hit before. Not at my stepfather for laying a hand on her daughter. His son at the time was 13 or 14 years old and got in the middle and kept his father from hitting me again while the whole time my mother was screaming at me and just like when he spit in my face while I was in the hospital. This has all happened in front of my mother and she never has stuck up for me. My mother is retired and is home all day with him and probably drinks with him as well.

My mother has never been what you would call maternal. She has two other daughters from her first marriage (this is her third marriage) that she walked out on them and left them with their father's family when they were babies and has never looked back. She also has three granddaughters that she has nothing to do with as well.

My half sisters have told me many times that they feel so bad for me, cause I had to deal with her my whole life and that they are grateful that she walked out on them.

When I was growing up, it was my father who was involved with my life. My mother was there, but she was basically just a female figure while I was growing up. It was my father that told me about the birds and the bees, it was my father that told me about drugs and just about life in general.

When my friends would come over some of them would call my father "dad" and I remember my friends called my mother "mom" (BIG mistake) and she lashed back and said "don't you ever call me mom, I am not your mother, you have your own mother".

I can honestly say that I did have and awesome childhood growing up. I had a very loving father and never wanted for nothing. My mother was not what you would say a bad mother. She was just basically there. And I know she has regretted not being able to do to me what she did to my sisters. I never realized what my mother was like until I got older and she and my father divorced and she married my step father a couple of years later. That is when things got really bad between us.

I was not a bad kid growing up. Yeah I was a typical kid that sassed. But I never gave my parents any grief. I never got involved with the wrong crowd or alcohol or drugs (thanks to my fathers talk), I never got in trouble at school or with the law, I have never been pregnant. And I owe all of that to my father's love.

My step father has two kids. One lives here and the other lives on the east coast. The one that lives here has told me her father has been a drunk all her life and cheated on her mother every chance he got and would have the women call their house for him. She only goes over and sees her father on holidays if that.

I could go on and on and on. But this is basically the gist of it.

 

 

I was standing in the park, wondering why frisbees got bigger as they got closer. Then it hit me.

Ok, well good for you, a little help is better than no help. Have you thought about a desk job? Maybe Customer service?? You just have to sit and talk on the phone and use the computer, very easy, and well paid for the job. Look around, don't give up!! I know you can do it, you seem like a very strong person and have been through a lot. Keep your head up. ;)

-THE ONE that got away......

First of all, do you receive SSI? If not, you should apply.

For housing, go apply for Section 8 (it's government based housing and your rent is based on your income if any, if you don't have any then you don't pay rent, it could be as low as $50 a month) look it up online and submit your application.

Next, foodstamps, do you receive those, again, apply.

 

I receive SSDI, and what I get does not even cover my rent, let alone my utilities.  That was where my family came into play.

I have contacted HUD and there is a 12 to 24 month waiting list and that is just to get a reply if you have been accepted or denied.  I do not have a year or two to just wait for a response. 

I do receive food stamps. I get $60.00 a month because I am single with no children. 

Thanks for the info.  Unfortunately, I have done everything you suggested.

 

 

 
I was standing in the park, wondering why frisbees got bigger as they got closer. Then it hit me.

you are a brave soul demonstrating an amazing amount of strength here amongst your GuG friends and family by putting your real life situation out there for all of us to see. your true friends will not judge you, but would like to try to find a solution. in juliek's repsonse:

I know for me, if you're going to look for help here, than we on the GuG deserve all the story...juliek

i think she is saying, "hey - been there done that and i for one can relate, but i would like to see the entire solution so i can hopefully provide a solid solution." - -with that said, i would agree. we are here to support, help, and seek out a solution. the more we know, the more successful we can be in getting answers.

Tuna ><((((*> the other white meat! I am Keeper Of The Whip!

 Hey Summer, I have been in the exact situation that you describe: I was cut off financially, homeless, and chronically ill...my distinct difference, was that my chronic diseases were alcoholism and drug addiction.

Believe me, I judge no one. I've been at the bottom and my sympathy is with anyone who struggles for whatever reason, but I've seen enough in this world to know that a family doesn't stop helping unless they've been driven there. A person doesn't become homeless over night. There are usually circumstances that are left out of the equation. Like I said, I'm not judging anyone, and you have my complete sympathy, but I just feel like there's more to this story. I know for me, if you're going to look for help here, than we on the GuG deserve all the story...juliek

Hello,
I'm a credit counselor and get these types of scenarios ALL the time.

First of all, do you receive SSI? If not, you should apply.

For housing, go apply for Section 8 (it's government based housing and your rent is based on your income if any, if you don't have any then you don't pay rent, it could be as low as $50 a month) look it up online and submit your application.

Next, foodstamps, do you receive those, again, apply.

There's a lot of help you can get from the government, take advantage of it, sounds like you need it, go for it, theres no reason why you should be homeless.

Goodluck and I hope it all goes well! :)

-THE ONE that got away......

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