Not only is she a cooty queen, but she's also a lint licker!

Well, as usual I'm thinking way too much about something than I should be. Okay, so there's this girl who used to be best friends with my Sweetness. This "best friend" has tried to steal my sweetness away a few times, only to fail miserably in the end. Which kind of pissed me off because she tried to be all cool with me in the beginning. Then while Sweetness and I were on a break, she starts messing around with him. Even while she's messing with him, she's still encouraging me to get back with him. Of course at the time, I had no idea that she was messing around with him. Either way, the biggest point is that he's with me now.

So about a month or so ago, they contact each other (I'm not really sure who contact who first), and they agreed that they're no longer going to contact each other anymore and that it was going to be the 'final' goodbye. That would have been all fine and dandy if I didn't hear this song and dance before. It feels like every few months they contact each other, only to come to the realization that I will never be okay with their friendship. So that's when they decide that it doesn't make to sense to keep in contact with each other, if they're never going to be able to hang out. Whatever, of course I'm not going to be fine with their friendship, I'm only a woman!

What bothers me even more is that this chick IMs me the other night. I have IM forwarding to my cell, so I was asleep when this message was received. It was just plainly saying "Wassup." But it still irked me either way. At this point I'm just thinking, "Why don't you just stay out of our lives for good." Then I go to MySpace ( God, I'm really starting to going deeper into a love/hate relationship with MySpace), and they're still friends on MySpace. I know, its just MySpace, but still it's like WTF?!! It annoys the crap out of me. If you're going to agree to have someone out of your like without contact or anything else, why would you stay friends with that person on MySpace. Just so you can have a bit of insight into their life without really being a part of it? Maybe, I'm just letting this bother me waaaay too much.

I can't wait to see if she tries to IM again, so I can let her know that it's probably best that she doesn't contact me either. I just want her to know that I don't want her to have anything to do with either me or Sweetness. If you make a decision to let go of someone, you should stick to it, especially if that person is having a much better life without you in it.

With moving into a new apartment and all, I just  don't want this to come back when we're already settled in. I'll be damned if I have to make a new home with the same old drama. Also I'd just like to say in Sweetness's defense, he has told me everything that they've talked about. And yes I am fully aware that he can just leave out any information he sees as potentially incriminating. However, I'm pretty sure he's told me everything, for fear that I would find out on my own....which I have a knack for doing. So, I guess the whole point of this blog is to just get off my chest how extremely annoying I find this whole situation.




Just my opinion based on experience. He not only needs to delete her from myspace but, from his life. I think he's leaving a back door open. In other words an easy out should things not work out with you. There's no reason at all to have an ex as a "friend". Sorry but, it is such bull shit. Right now he's sitting on the fence. I know people say don't give ultimatums but, you need to. 
If he cares he will respect your feelings. There are no right or wrong feelings. Your feelings are your feelings and that's it. I think you are trying to take the high road but, obviously this is bothering you.  Actually this is not taking the high road, it's taking HIS road. To thine own self be true. Listen to your instincts. I wish I would have when I was in your shoes. If something is telling you it's not right, then it's not.


 If life hands you lemons, throw them away. Lemonade is overrated.


He has left you before for her? 

He needs to delete her.

right on! it's a start! once he does, i woudn't mention it nor her any more. just let it die out, a quick painless death.



 Just an update....he deleted her from his top. He said he might delete his MySpace altogether, but I think he's bluffing. It's not like he deleted her from MySpace completely. But small baby steps.



The Truth Is Out There. Trust No One! Deny Everything!

You're upsetting me....on several levels.

 Yeah, I'm number 1. I don't think he's going to delete her, but I just want him to take her off his top. I have a job that doesn't challenge me at all and have nothing better to do then to go on MySpace and other BS sites. Every time I go on his page I see her there....RIGHT NEXT TO ME! It drives me absolutely insane. I hate that I'm letting this entire thing bother me so much. It's just with the pending move, I have been thinking about it more and more everyday. He's left me for her before...and that just hits a low blow and gets me upset when I think about it. Let me breathe. I drank a bottle of wine by myself last night., just to clear my head of course. I guess there's way more than just MySpace to it all.



The Truth Is Out There. Trust No One! Deny Everything!

You're upsetting me....on several levels.

Don't nag then. Just tell him how you feel, and he hopefully listens. I know that is a lot to ask for from a man.

NUMBER 2!!!!!!!! I am assuming you are number 1. Still, it is like she is waiting for you to fall off the friends list so she can be number 1.

OK maybe I am taking the myspace thing too literally, but I can imagine how you must feel. All you can do is talk to your boyfriend. If he will not change things do what 2na says and show her you are not concerned.

 I did have her as a friend on MySpace, and when Sweetness told me that they said goodbye for good, I deleted her thinknig that I wouldn't have to see her everytime I go to his page. But she's freaking number 2 on his top friends! I hate it!



The Truth Is Out There. Trust No One! Deny Everything!

You're upsetting me....on several levels.

[quote= PhOeNiX_OaSiS].... Then I go to MySpace ( God, I'm really starting to going deeper into a love/hate relationship with MySpace), and they're still friends on MySpace. I know, its just MySpace, [/quote]

if you can't beat 'em, join 'em. add her to your myspace. it'll demonstrate to her that she is not a threat. you are not bothered by her befriending sweetness.

"keep your friends close & your enemies closer!"   - - except for drama queens. if you  happen to know one of those, just delete him/her. poof! poooog! etc.

><)))'> I am Keeper Of The Whip!

 Yeah you're totally right.  For the first two years of their friendship, it was him being in love with her, but her not having those same feelings for him, so they just stood friends. Then wonderful, vivacious, and curvy me came into the picture. His attention started wavering from her and I think she lost it. He was basically treating her like his girlfriend minus all the benefits (making out, sex, etc.). So  I do think it's a case of you want what you can't have. I feel like if she cares for him at all, she would just leave well enough alone. A decent human being would see that he's happier and better off without them and just leave him the eff alone. And that heffer shouldn't freaking try to IM me either. That just shows no tact at all. I think about it alot, and when I think about it, it makes me upset. Which is why I'm so damn cranky all the time!



The Truth Is Out There. Trust No One! Deny Everything!

You're upsetting me....on several levels.

Boyfriend had a Klingon friend that I had to take drastic measures with when he and I started dating.  He and WB (short for whorebeast) had a drunken fling about a year before he and I got together.  They didn't actually date, just "hooked up" like twice or so.  When we started dating, suddenly she started emailing and IMing him WAY more than ever before.    We had been dating a little while, maybe 6 months or so, and we had placed an order online for something, using his email.  So, he called from work and asked me to check his email to see if the item had shipped.  "Oh, look, you have an email from WB, it says "shower pics".  Well, since WB was supposed to be getting married, we both assumed they were pics of her bridal shower.  We were wrong.   The first line of the email read, "In case you're bored with Cerr".  Use your imagination what kind of "shower pics" followed.  I was livid.  Long story short, he called her, and told he he didn't want or need her drama anymore.  She sent him more pics, this time on MySpace.  He logged into MySpace and dropped and blocked her, sending her an email explaining why.  Then she started calling his cell.  Thirty-seven times in 45 minutes, no $shit.  I think he wound up blocking her number on his cell.  Anyway, it's been over 5 years now, and every 6 months or so, she rears her fugly head, either by sending him an email, calling, or occasionally dropping in by his ex-roommate's place to dig for information on him.  It's sad, really. I find amusement in women who have no interest in a man until he's someone else's.  She had her chance with him, and according to him, it could have gone further at the time, but she wasn't interested,  Until I came along.  Then she was very intereted.  I honestly believe that if he called her tomorrow and said that he and I broke up, he'd probably never hear from her again.  I wonder if yours has the same type of issues, he's not attractive until someone else thinks he is. "I flipped my channel back to CNN and I lit another cigarette"

I just don't want to feel like a total nag for asking him to delete her from his MySpace.


The Truth Is Out There. Trust No One! Deny Everything!

You're upsetting me....on several levels.

I know EXACTLY how you feel. My guy had a few girls who knew we were together, but still thought they had a chance. One somehow thought they were being secretive about being friends or something and anytime he said something to me when they were on the phone, she hung up! Finally after I heard a message on the answering that said "I want you to spend the night with me. I know you have other things going on, but I think if you stayed the night with me you would really like it." I made him tell her to act appropriately or the friendship was over. He told her and we have never heard from her again. I understand not wanting to hurt someones feelings but your feelings should be the most important. Time to delete that girl from his life...starting with myspace.

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