I'm ticked

I just came from my 8yo daughter's school. I needed to talk to the principal about some things that boys from another class are saying to/about my daughter during recess and lunch, regarding a sex act. These are second graders. The comment involved "sucking b*lls". She's embarrassed, mad, and worried about going to lunch and recess today.

I can't talk to anyone at the moment because TAKS testing is going on. Federal funding hinges on the overall grades received on these tests, so all the administrators are patroling halls to make sure the school remains quiet. They can't be reached at the moment because they're not allowed to carry their cell phones or walkie-talkies during testing. Testing may not be completed until after 6pm. To stop the office ladies from continuing to explain the need for silence, I told them, "Yeah, I get it. Federal funding." I wasn't rude, but they could see I wasn't pleased.

Second graders aren't testing, though a few other grades are.


My daughter's teacher just called and let me know that my daughter informed her about the situation this morning first thing. Because of the testing, the kids will not be at recess today and the boy will be separate from the group during that time. They're going to investigate and I was told, "and they WILL be punished." I replied, "Well, I don't think they need to end up on some sex offender list over this (which could happen, believe it or not), they just need to leave her alone."

at least someone gave me a call and is aware of things. I'm still upset about what was said to my daughter, but thinking that this TAKS test was going to delay a resolution for her was really ticking me off.



LOL... as a mid 80s kindergartner myself, I would have spoken up too. I think when you get into the teens it gets more challenging. And the bra strap snapper became a high school boyfriend when he realized he could actually talk to me instead of getting attention in a negative way. But seriously, disrespect is disrespect regardless of intent.

Kids can be pathetically cruel when it comes to starting rumors and such... I was always the outcast child who was happy not talking to anyone, and would rather read a book at a table then play at recess. This of course marked me as a target for teasing. My forth grade year was a living he11 for me, ranging from verbal assaults (mostly being called gay, the traditional guy to guy insult) and having s%it thrown at me... It was rough. But looking back, I've become such a strong person. I learned to take s&it at an early age, so now if I hear something, it doesn't bother me. It gave me the strength to stand up for myself and learned that even when someone is an a$$ and too stupid to grow up, that it didn't matter...

So, long story short, I hope that the issue is resolved, but learning about human nature at an early age can make all the difference in life.

 ---We don't read and write poetry because it's cute. We read and write poetry because we are members of the human race. And the human race is filled with passion- John Keating, Dead Poets Society.---


D G wrote:
I am glad that girls today realize they don't have to sit quietly and endure idiotic behavior whether the boys are aware of what they are doing or not.
Uhm....mid 80's, kindergarten.  This girl started early with speaking up lol

I can't remember for the life of me what some of the boys were saying or doing but it was inappropriate for our age.  And you're absolutely right D G, I had no idea it was wrong.  All I knew is that they were getting in my way of me painting my picture and it was annoying me to no end.  So, I spoke up to my parents.  The behavior stopped towards me but not the other girls.  So the next morning I sat on my bed and told my parents I wasn't going to school until it stopped for the rest of the girls.  

My dad was livid by that time and walked into the class himself to talk to the teachers.  Now he can be pretty intimidating in person and I think the glare alone sent the boys into submission until they graduated college :) It completely stopped after that.

I hope it's all resolved by now MissE.  I'm glad she was brave enough to speak up.  

When I was 8, if some boy said "sucking b*lls" to me, I would have no concept of what that meant (except the literal meaning of it, like... you know beach balls or something) I remember sitting in 7th grade science as the boy behind me snapped my bra strap every day for the entire first semester. I am glad that girls today realize they don't have to sit quietly and endure idiotic behavior whether the boys are aware of what they are doing or not.

But the world is different today, and frankly, that boy probably knows more at 8 than I did at 16. I am sorry this happened, and I hope it is resolved to your satisfaction.

mini heard some foul language at school recently, the f-bomb. so we just had a discussion the other evening over kids repeating what they hear elsewhere without even knowing what it is they are saying. i don't blame television. i blame the parents first. 'other kids on the playground' second. that's just my spin on it.

sorry your little jewel had to hear the filth.

mini took matters into her own hands and told the boy he was cute...until he opened his mouth and spoke ugly. she further told him, "good luck recovering from that." <-- she is a true mini!



 Geeez, what ever happened to pulling the girl's hair and running away?  =\

Ughhhhh and that's the worse.  When something prevents a situation to be resolved asap.   

I'm sorry that happened to your daughter. Isn't it outragous what kids do/say?

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