if only I had practiced what I preached...

I like to think of myself as a pretty intuitive person, and I often feel as though I have a fairly accurate feel for someone,even if after just a few minutes of conversing.
Let's just say, intuitive or not, there are definite disadvantages in trying to "counsel" , or should I say... save, someone who is a family member, or even someone close to your heart and I only say this through,tortuous, mind numbing, exhausting experience. This, of course, is obvious to me now, and had been obvious to me before, and when I had been asked a seemingly eternity ago, I said that it's a no brainer, and that you just cannot "save" your own. You cannot demonstrate objectivity in a personal world because there is none. But ,if only I had practiced what I preached...
My daughter was about fourteen when she first started exhibiting signs of eating problems, and for reasons that I can put no names to, except selfishness [on my part], neglect,and my own journey into addictions,I chose to ignore them. When she was eighteen, she started using alcohol to numb the hunger and to embrace her like her mother's arms could not. At twenty two, she found cocaine and adderall, to provide her with the energy that lack of food does not.
Believe me, in every one of those circumstances, had someone been telling me about his or her life, and his or her daughter, I would have said without hesitance the obvious. If only I had practiced what I preached...
My daughter is now twenty four,and it is in no way short of a miracle that she is still alive. We are still climbing many mountains, together, and with the professional help we needed all along, and finally I am practicing what I would preach to everyone else. If you think someone needs help...he or she probably does, and unless you can be totally objective, leave it to the pros, but in no case ever just leave it. juliek

   

   

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I relate everything to funds. And with that said, you've earned some pretty large deposits in your "Emotional Data Bank!"

....and that's a good thing.

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Brains are sexy. Geeks are hot! I'm here for the turn on.

Time does heal all wounds. And it's always a good thing to share so you can see that good people say kind things if they are given the chance. Not always easy, I can attest to that, but it's so important. The people here, these are good people!

Take care Julie.

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do not meddle
in the affairs of dragons
for you are crunchy
and taste good with ketchup

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That was very inspiring, Hunter! You are an amazing man. I'm so glad that you felt you could share that with us. It does give us hope.

Be well.

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do not meddle
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for you are crunchy
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It is always easier to look back and say I would of, or if I could have. Life is always a challenge and I hope that for both of your sakes that it turns out for the best. My husband had a little brother that had some of the same problems with drugs and depression except that he didn't end up as lucky as your daughter. I know that he always wonders if there was something that he could have done differently that would have allowed him to still be here today. The saddest part was that at the young age of 18 he took his life and nobody really ever saw it coming! So I am glad that the two of you realized that you needed help and be thankful everyday for the time you still have together!!

Thanks for the comments, you guys, they are sauve for some 3rd degree burns of the soul...juliek

I was one of those children JulieK.....with not the same issues...but issues none the less......I wasnt at the bottom of the barrel.....I was underneath.....

Drugging....Drinking....Fighting....thats all I knew.....For more than a decade and a half I RULED my world......

Now I do work for a department of the goverment....also a top insurance company.........I have in the past built dozens of homes and Condominiums...and pulled a decade watching out for a small town....

Why do I tell you this.........HOPE......Never give up.....Noone could have saved me.....Its up to us to save ourselves...Though it was a rough road...I wouldnt change a thing....Why???? It made me the man I have turned out to be...... HOPE.....noone believed in me.....But I knew....

One day.....Some day.....it just happens.....

             God Bless you, Take Care

                                           Hunter

 

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