Requiescat in pace Stephen Talbert ....

It's was two weeks Sunday that I unexpectedly lost one of my oldest, dearest friends ... one of only a handful of friends that actually live in the same city as I do. Laz was a dirty, raunchy old man and I loved him to death!! We were always there for each other when shit would go down ... he knew how to get me to laugh, and I knew who to get him to smile ... we helped one another climb out of our occasional funks, and could always polish off a good bottle of wine together. Laz has had kidney trouble for as long as I knew him (10+ years), and went to dialysis at least three times a week. He tried for years to get on the transplant list and was always being stonewalled or jerked around for some reason or other ... actually I know part of the reason, but I won't rant about that now. I was one of the last people he talked to before he died ... he called me the Friday night before he died and before he called the ambulance to take him to the ER. He had been having terrible stiffness in his back and neck for a couple of days and it was getting to the point where he couldn't take it anymore. Saturday morning he had a minor heart attack ... nothing to terribly serious ... and by Saturday afternoon/evening was feeling much better. Early Sunday morning he started to bleed out from him dialysis port and had a major heart attack, all at the same time. They tried for 25 minutes to revive him with out success. I haven't been able, or had the heart to write about it until now ... demmit, and now I'm crying again. He was such a fixture in my life and at the club ... things are never going to be the same with out him. It's so surreal ... we all thought he'd beat this damn kidney things and out live most of us ... I still can't believe he's gone ... and the irony in all of this is that he finally had gotten on the transplant list just a few weeks before.

May the Goddess guide and protect you, my black-hearted friend, as you make your way to the next destination on lifetime's path ... I and my lovely breasts will be waiting for you when next we meet. Laz, you WILL be missed. ='(

 

 

 Not much else going on. Working my tail off and trying to get the last of the wedding stuff done. I'm also trying to scramble around for another DJ, as Laz was going to be the DJ for my reception. Weddings and wedding planning might be fun for other people who actually have money, or their parents have money and are paying for everything. Frankly thing whole process sucks major whale testicles!! Maybe if I had been able to put more aside or had more time things would be better, but just barely coming in under the line and barely being able to pay off normal bills is just too damn nerve racking. I won't even go into the last time we bought groceries or the sad, empty state of my fridge & pantry ... there will be time for eating after the wedding, right? ~half-hearted laugh~ I haven't even gotten back a good fourth to half for the RSPV's!?! ... and some of these people are my own relatives!! WTH?!? I gave you the card and envelope WITH STAMP ... how hard it it to check a box, lick a seal, and toss it in the mail?!?

I just want thing whole thing to be over with, NOW ... "Skip to the end ... Man and wife. Say man and wife."

~sighs~ I have a whining Pittie that needs to go out, and I really should be heading out to work ... especially since I have to grab the bus today. Hopefully after this wedding and September peak I should have more time to be online ... and I know I'm behind on things and have missed things. Sorry about that. I'll do the best I can with the limited time I have to catch up on most recent things, but I'm afraid anything older than the past 2 weeks will probably stay missed unless brought to my attention. Catch ya'll when I can.

{{I make no apologies for any spelling errors as I am tired as Hell and have a raging headache.}}

Anyway ...

Adieu.
Fini.
Whatever.

 

   

   

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No, I had not seen Steve since about 1992 unfortunately.

 Really, are you someone I'd know?

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"Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity." ~Unknown

I just happened to read your post, now in tears. I used to be a close friend of Stephen's years ago, like 1989-93. As we all do, get married, have kids, grow apart. I am so sad I did not get to see him again or talk. He gave me his cell # on facebood back in mid-May, I kick myself in the ass every time I think about it that I did not call him. I am so sorry he is gone, we had a lot of good times back in the day.

 I know its easier to say than do, but screw what anyone else thinks! Its YOUR day (well...and yur hubbys day, but we know its not the same for dudes!) so you should do precisely what you want and kick anyone who doesnt like it. I'll kick em for u if u want!

 

"Who is this irresistible creature who has an insatiable love for the dead? Living Dead Girl"

 Thank you!  I've been really nervous about how it'll come off & what people will think ... despite my best efforts to stay strong in my decision ... but having someone affirm our choice make me feel that much better about it.  :)

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"Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity." ~Unknown

i think the tribute is beautiful! i know i would feel worse looking at some other dj the whole night and wishing it was my friend. im glad you are doing your own. it makes it a whole bunch more personal too.

 Actually we decided not to do another DJ.  Instead we're going to get a framed picture of Laz & a candle, and set it up at the DJ table with our own sound system ... in tribute to him.  It may sound lame to some that we're DJ'ing our own wedding, but if they can't understand why, then I don't care.  We have our reasons and that's all that matters.

Hahaha ... I was wondering if anyone would recognize the quote.  ;)  All in all I'm really not stressed ... I'm actually pretty calm & neutral about the whole thing.  However I am ready for the whole thing to just be over with.  ~LOL~  As my mother said (when people were asking her if she was nervous) before marring my father, "I've never been so sure about anything in my life."

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"Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity." ~Unknown

 

i agree with AE. i think you will have a wonderful day and an angel watching over you...also probably criticizing the new dj. *my attempt to cheer you up a little* but i am so excited for you...and dont let the stress wear you down. (love the princess bride quote!)money or not. remember its about the two of you. not anyone or anything else. savor the day. it goes by so fast. i always say "six months of planning, 6 minutes of memories."

 Yep, down to 11 days now.  I'll post pictures as soon as I have them.  Thank you ... he was a wonderful person.  I have his baby ... his 14yo cat, Cleo.  I don't know how much time she has left, but I'm going to do my best to make sure that she's happy and healthy.  She's actually adjusted to my house and other animals pretty well.  I'm sure everything will be fine that day too ... and if not we'll just make the best of it.  ;)

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"Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity." ~Unknown

 Zeev! Im so excited that your wedding is so near! I cant wait to see picture! Sorry to hear about your friend- that's always hard. Dont worry, everything will be great on your wedding day, and these past days wont matter at all.

 

"Who is this irresistible creature who has an insatiable love for the dead? Living Dead Girl"

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