Contact CPS or not?

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SAmarantine
Contact CPS or not?

OK now I am not one to tell someone how to discipline their child but...

I have been awoken by my neighbor hitting and yelling at their child. I am not certain how the child is but they can't be any older than 7. I hear the child crying.

Yesterday in the span of  2 hours, she hit the child on two separate occasions.  I even HEAR the actual hits. I am not sure if the child is   terror or if he/she is just being a child.

I want to contact CPS but I'd feel more comfortable maybe just e-mailing them.  I also don't know if I should just be minding my own business. But it's very hard to when it's so loud that you can hear it through your ceiling.

 

Is calling the only way to notify them?

 

Anyone know what I should do?

   

   

juliek
Re: Contact CPS or not?

 SAmarantine, Please call children services, please. That child is being abused if you can actually hear the hits thru the walls. If you are feeling unsure about making the call, you can call and ask some ?s about what qualifies as abuse. Most states keep the call anonymous, if that makes you feel any better.  juliek

PrincessB
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I have made several CPS reports in a state where it is supposed to remain anonomous and guess what they tell. CPS workers have no problems telling parents who filed a report if they are not removing the child from the home, which is rare.

Sorry to sound so negative on this one guys, but CPS on an issue like this is not going to do much. I have seen kids get hurt and neglected a lot worst than this sounds and remain in a home until they were burned so severely by their mother that they almost died.

Also you need to be SURE it qualifies as child abuse. Again spanking is not child abuse and it can sound a lot worst that it is, especially in an apartment. Pretty much the rule is if it doesn't leave a mark it isn't child abuse.

I don't believe in hitting a child at all. I don't agree with it, but the law says it is ok.

Stevie
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Call.  ASAP.

3dudes3divas
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  Here the caller remains anonymous and CALL like yesterday!!  I am not sure how I'd be handling it, I'd be in tears!!  Actually, next time it happens, CALL THE POLICE!!  They can make the call to CPS and will if they see evidence of abuse..  I, honestly, given your hesitance, would just call 911 next time you hear anything... 

 

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SAmarantine
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 Thank you guys. I am looking up the guidelines and everything and I will call. And you're right , it is eating at me. I as reluctant to call the police just because the police in my area don't really seem to care about the neighborhood that much and tend to not follow up on leads/issues.  I guess I was worried about sticking my nose in a situation and being totally wrong. But it's good to know that others do share the same sentiments that I do.

 

 

 

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3dudes3divas
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  Is there an update on the situation??  I was just wondering what happened if you called.. 

 

 

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quantum08
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I'm almost crying just hearing your words. I agree to call the police. Even if they don't do anything. They will have to respond to the call.  The  police have to notify CPS if they are called out concerning a child in danger in a home. Then you can also follow up with CPS yourself. 

Make no mistake you are hearing a crime in progress.

Wonderland
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i'm all about staying out of what doesn't concern me but no, no, no.  if you haven't already done so at this point, please make the call.  my heart breaks at the idea of a child being abused and they really can't defend themselves...

 

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Zeev
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 I would NEVER think twice about making a call on either animal abuse or child abuse.  You just don't strike a defenseless animal or child ... EVER!!

The last job I had was at a day care for the local Archdiocese.  One of the low-income mothers would never put her child (not even 2 years old!!) in a car seat.  She would load him into the car through the open front passenger window, than then drive off as he would be climbing about everywhere in the car or even partially hanging out of the window!!  My boss would not call CPS or the cops on the mother, because she was afraid of making the mother mad and of having her pull her child out of the daycare.

Needless to say, the first opportunity I got to get the plate number off the car I called both the cops & CPS.

I did not stay at that job for long afterwards.  Unfortunately, I also have had a really hard time finding another (permanent) job & it will be a year since I left the daycare come Halloween.  :(

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PrincessB
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Just remember according to the law corperal punishment is not a crime. Cruel and unusual punishment is however. So even though you and I dont see hitting as "right" it is legal. They can't leave a mark that lasts too long (bruises.

The day care thing was a difficult choice. The boss and you were both mandated reporters by law. Meaning if you know about it and don't contact CPS you can go to jail and/or have to pay a fine.

Personally I know a lot of mandated reporters who have a hard time calling CPS because of their lack of help. They contact parents and rarely follow up. The parents get mad and worst happens to the child, or they blame us and don't send the child to the school, which is the last safe place they have.

I am a bit jaded about cps, if you can't tell.

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