Contact CPS or not?

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AyBayBay
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Please call. So many children are abused and no one wants to "get involved" Do it anonymously, do it while it's happening, do something but don't do nothing. It is obviously bothering you and it will bother you more if something serious really happens. Society is so good at turning a blind eye to someone's else's problems and our children are suffering as adults because of it. If we could only see evry child as our own.

PrincessB
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I feel like I am repeating myself a lot in this post, and while I hate that I am probably coming off as a heartless B, I have to put my two cents in again. This is something I have done and taken classes and trainings on for years.

By law I have to report ANY SUSPICION of abuse/endangerment of a minor. I have reported several cases, and helped report even more. I know I suggested before that corporal punishment is not abuse, and I stand by this. Even if you see someone hit their child, it is not abuse. I hate it too, but the state can’t do anything.

However, if it I bothering you, report it. You can do it online, but you will need to give your phone number etc for them to look into it. The anonymous part means they can’t tell your neighbor. Most of the time they figure it out, or the cps worker tells them. If they think something is going on (they will need physical evidence. So, a tape of the abuse will help) they will give them some resources to contact. They will not take the child away unless she appears in immediate danger.

I actually just helped a friend file a report on her grandchild’s mother (cps told her who reported even though it is supposed to be anonymous). It is a hard thing to do, and the repercussions can be hard to deal with, but if you honestly believe there is a chance the child is in danger than you need to report it.

If it is just spanking and yelling (I know that sounds harsh) talk to your apartment manager first. Maybe they can mention people have been complaining about hearing it. It might help. If the parents are afraid of someone calling they may stop.

Stevie
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I'm with ya.  There are way too many cases of the babysitting boyfriend/or whatever losing his cool and shaking or beating a small child to death.   I would not be able to live with myself if my hesitation to report something like this caused a child's death because I wanted to be sure - "maybe I'll call next time or wait to see if the screams get louder."  Err on the side of the child's safety - sometimes there isn't a 2nd chance.

PrincessB
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Funny you mention shaken baby, I work with the teenage results of shaken baby. Youths with TBI. It is horrible to think of the bright futures these people had as a perfect little baby.

The last mandated reporter training I went to gave some hope on this topic though. CPS and many CA hospitals teamed up and are giving a pamphlet and having all parents of new borns sign a "contract" promising not to hurt their baby in this way. This small education to new parents led to their only being something like 2 cases for the whole year for participating hospitals!!!!

slake2000
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Take a look at the kids as they are coming or going.  Look for signs of bruise etc.  It may not be as bad as you think.  I know if you swatted one of my kids they would scream and carry on as if you had beaten them with a base ball bat.

          I will let you in on one of my tricks that I used to use to decide when I heard one of the kids cry if I need to run or not.  Most kids when they get hurt will have a delay between the time something hurts them and when the blood curdling scream begins.  If you hear the kid get hit 5-6 times and a pretty good delay before a cry that sounds more like a scream call somebody.  If you hear 2-3 licks with that mad or whiny crying then they have just had their feelings hurt more than their bottom.

AyBayBay
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Any update on what happened?

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