How to get your child's Facebook password

If you are already aware of the dangers of Facebook, Myspace, chatrooms, etc, and suspect that your child may be endangering him or herself, it might be a parental necessity for you to monitor your child's activity on Facebook, Myspace or other websites to ensure their safety. If you own the computer that your child uses to access the internet, it may not only be fully legal to access or monitor their Facebook, Myspace or email accounts, but in some cases it may be your duty to do so.

How to find your child's passwords

Unfortunately there is no magic code or hack to obtain passwords for Facebook, email, Myspace, chat-rooms or other systems. Most of these systems are very secure and are difficult if not nearly impossible to 'crack'. You can however capture or record their password as they use it on each system by installing password capturing software, otherwise known as child safety monitoring software. These programs are inexpensive and can be easily downloaded directly from the internet and installed on your computer in minutes.

Find the passwords and have full access

By using one of the password finder or child surveillance programs available for download on the internet, you can see who your child is chatting with or sending email to and help ensure their safety.  These keylogger type programs will record and log everything typed on your computer (such as passwords, chat-room chats, emails) and allow you to review it later.  Most of these keylogger or parental monitoring programs are inexpensive, they often have a free-trials and they can be easily downloaded and installed in minutes.  The better keylogger programs work well because once installed they are virtually undetectable - No other users of the computer will know it's there, and YOU are the only person that can access it.  Prices will range from free to $99, but we recommend staying away from the free programs as they may not be trustworthy and may have little or no support. 



If you knew even anything about raising children, you would know that you could raise them like a saint, but there will always be rebellious children. It is obvious you do not have, and never had children. Keep your ignorance in your own sad, thoughtless head.

I wonder if that is what the parents of the little boy who got lost on his way home from day camp thought? "We raised him right! We raised him to be thoughtful, respectful, to ask for help when he needs it." Wake up. I'm sure most parents will agree that it's not THEIR child they have to worry about. It's who the kids may be coming into contact with that can get a bit dicey.

Sometimes it is not that simple... that is what people need to learn.

hi, i'm 17 years old and i'm really good at informatics, i have a rather open relation with my parents and i know for a fact that they don't have access to any of my online accounts. I'm not here to pick any sides(if there real are any) or patronize anyone but just to share my opinion on what i've been reading so far on this forum and hope it will help anyone feeling concerned by this topic.

first off i'd like to comment on the overall very rash nature of a majority of the statements and the way that people tackle this issue in a very biased way, i don't believe that there is one true answer to whether or not parents should monitor their children secretly. As many of the responses show parental supervision is not only a "red button" issue it is also and mostly very case sensitive/dependent. i think that the true question is not "how" to intrude into the privacy of a child but "when" *and only after a thorough analysis of the motives(the "why")*.If rational, unbiased answers came out of such a conversation then i bet that we'd really be going somewhere then.

secondly there is nothing wrong in arguing a case (for or against)and backing it up with and example to prove your point. However examples should not be basis of any arguments. In other words from what i've read in this very forum a lot of users tend to assume that there particular case is a generality, which makes it hard to give way to a sound conversation when you are not open to even listen to what others have to say: it's called a one-sided argument, and it's not constructive since it doesn't confront both point of views. Typical outcomes of such conversation are trivial insults, such as calling a user a child or an overprotective parent, which itself triggers just as trivial replies from an offended counter-part.
i will now make a point using my personal experience; i don't think that parents spying on their children is generally a good idea (whether it be parents just trying to be on the safe side or parents whose relationship with their children make them feel like they don't have any other choice) but i do an upside to it no matter how paradoxic it may sound;
in my case my parents did warn me about some of the dangers of such social online websites as facebook or myspace, nevertheless they put me under secret surveillance. At that point in time i hadn't picked up my passion for computers and was just a regular user amongst others. Seeing nothing to worry about they later (a few months or so) decide to tell me they were monitoring me and that they were proud etc... but that they still want to apply a regular parental control and fixed hours during which the computer was locked. this last point is capital and to this i still haven't figured out if this was the worst move on their part or a brilliant one.
Proceeding with the anecdote, their post-straightforwardness made me realize that if my own family can't even trust me (and by association i can't trust them to trust me) then what about the world out there on the Internet! That is when i started getting really interested in computers etc. As many people have pointed out on this forum children are very smart (not that they weren't before the cyber generation) in the way that they adapt themselves to what is presented to them (just like learning a new language takes less effort when you are young). The point is that in my experience i found that secrecy begets greater secrecy. At first i wasn't too good at breaching the safety net my parents had raised against me and my attempts to circumvent it was almost manual (like recoding with my phone's camera my parents typing there password and deleting the history), actually it was so obvious that my parents started to get suspicious and reinstall a secret supervision. but as i have stated above kids are smart (naive perhaps) but often very persistent, we always find the means to our end especially when it comes down to internet.

furthermore i'd like to say that i don't recall doing anything dangerous on the internet (as the first few month trial proved)it was all about the secrecy, when i found out about the so-called secret supervision i didn't get mad at my parents because it would only incriminate myself and prove them right. when a kid gets suspicious about his parents being suspicious about his social internet life his best solution is to make believe that the parents are in control and at the same time reassuring them by letting through things that he considers private, but is willing to sacrifice in order not to get busted. Or at least that's the way i saw things back's truly a vicious circle of control-freak attitude, being able to control what the other knows and knowing you are able to go behind their backs if you need/want to.

Now what about the upside i mentioned earlier you will ask? well believe it or not my relationship with my parents is as healthy as one could be! In fact by gradually releasing what i consider private information and at the same time continually being oversuspicious of the world around me. i now have no trouble sharing with my parents about my life (because i didn't have anything to hide in the first place) and because i know how to protect myself (and information) i really feel safer about my social life on the internet(no matter how much paranoia goes with the safety).
As a final word of advice, if you think my experience allows me to says so, i'd like to warn parents (not about the dangers of internet)that your kids will most likely outsmart you regarding the so-called security net you wish you had, but that it can be a good thing for them to feel that their intimacy can be threatened. So if you are going to keep tabs on them give them a hint you're doing so, i think good parenting resides in the ability to prepare children to face the challenges of life (on the web or not), as other users of this forum said, knowing your child's password will not help you help them when a crisis emerges, but teaching them(or as in my case letting them learn on their own, if you don't master internet)how to defend themselves seems like a step towards greater safety.
If you believe in a more free parenting where your child's privacy is his own and that your relation with them is not too open, then maybe confronting them head-on with a problem like telling them that you will limit their access and seriously increase the security boundaries might provoke them to gather information by themselves on how to bypass all security (and thus allow them to question their own security).
in the end i found that knowing how frail my security was, was the trigger that pushed me towards a hunger for knowledge and boosted my determination to overcome.

Thank you and congratulations to anyone who actually went through the entire post! i hope this will prove to be useful and help the debate progress.

I can understand why parents want to monitor their kid's Facebook page. These people need to understand however that there are much more than Facebook and Myspace. You have MSN, BBM, AIM, Yahoo Messenger, Google Talk, Bebo, SMS and E-mail to name just a few, and if you have a smartphone you can have it all without going near a PC. Looking through your kid's Facebook is not going to give you all the info you want. The only way to make sure your kid is not doing anything wrong is to have them sit in their bedroom with no phone for the rest of their childhood! It's never going to happen.

So just accept that times have moved on, and have more faith in your kids!

Tom, 24 from Scotland. 1 child.

Reading the teenager responses are amazing! But, until all of the teenagers here grown up and become parents of your own, THEN YOU REALLY KNOW NOTHING ABOUT BEING A PARENT.

Not only that but if they were to get in trouble it is the parents responsibility.

Legally, until a child is 18 in most states, they have no rights but what the parent gives them. Legally, until a child is 18 in most states, all their property belongs to their parents. legally, in most states, a child belongs to the parent, as well as all the child's belongings, the child's time and all the decisions about the child. If a parent wants to 'give' their child some privacy, I'd hope a child earned it, and wasn't just demanding it as if they had legal rights to it.

This is starting to be illegal. You can't spy on your children, it's rude and shows that you don't trust them. Online is a way to escape the problems in real life. You can't intrupt that. If you raised a child right, then you should trust them. If you hack and look at their online community, tht shows that you don't trust them. Maybe you should raise them better then! Might as well put a camera in their bedroom.


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