The Internet Doesn't Make You Cheat, You're Just A Horrible Person

It's called RESPONSIBILITY ... Learn some..I despise the world more and more everyday as I see less and less people take responsibility for their actions. It couldn't possibly be my fault, something else made me do it.

I don't know what possesses someone to blame others for their cheating, or their significant other's cheating, but let's be clear right here and now. It's no one's fault but the cheater's.

I can't stand cheaters being portrayed as victims. Get this straight: Cheaters cheat because they're awful people. That might be a temporary condition (although unlikely), but that's what they are when they do it.

And I'm SICK of people blaming the Internet. The Internet might make it easier to find and contact people, but it doesn't make someone cheat; it's a tool. If someone cheats, it was already within them to be unfaithful. Blaming the Internet for cheating is like blaming the car for you being at a strip club. It's stupid. Facebook might try and suggest that you should friend your ex, but it's not forcing you to stalk and try and hook up with them. Myspace didn't make you respond to the creeper's message. If you have so little will power and self control, maybe you should just stay away from computers. Alcoholics shouldn't get a job at a liquor store.

If you want to know what makes someone cheat (hint: it's NOT the Internet), then here you go:

Cheaters are SELFISH. Whether that's displayed in their decision to sleep around, or in their decision to not end their relationship, it's selfish. They say that most people that cheat don't want to end the relationship they're in because they care for the other person. Well, if they truly cared for them, they wouldn't cheat on them. Period. They don't want to end the relationship because they're getting something they want from it, and don't want to stop getting whatever that may be. It's selfish.

Cheaters are DISHONEST. This may seem obvious, but I mean this on so many levels. I'm talking morals and ethics on top of the literal. They're dishonest with the person they're cheating on, probably the person they're cheating with, and more annoyingly, themselves. They find ways to justify what they did in their head, so that when you confront them it becomes this pointless battle. Nothing you say can penetrate through the crap they've convinced themselves of. They can't be reasoned with at this point. Even if you get a confession, they'll give you warped justifications and promise that it will never happen again. Or maybe you'll just get blown off because you 'don't understand'... Translation: "You're not believing that it's not my fault, and I don't want to talk unless you believe it."

Cheaters are DELUSIONAL. They turn themselves into the victim. Something else made them cheat. It was the lack of sex. It was the person they cheated with. It was something that you weren't giving them. It was the Internet. It's in our genes. Don't buy into this. Any decent human being would have brought any issues with the relationship up, and if it couldn't be resolved, the relationship would be dissolved, and therefore no one would have the opportunity to cheat. If the person believes that humans aren't meant to be monogamous, then they shouldn't be in an exclusive relationship.

Cheaters are IMMATURE. Anyone that can't be faithful, isn't ready to be in a relationship. Simple as that. As I stated before, a decent human being will end a relationship if they aren't satisfied. Relationships are built on trust, communication, and honesty. A cheater can't abide by those, and have no business pretending otherwise.

Okay, I'm going to go in a quick 180 here. To be fair we need to know what the definition of cheating is, and that definition is subjective to every individual. Is porn cheating? Is cyber-sex cheating? Is kissing cheating? Etc etc. These things all need to be addressed at the beginning of a relationship, because if Person A thinks something is cheating that Person B doesn't, then person A is going to feel betrayed and Person B isn't going to understand why. Person A doesn't really have a right to be truly angry at Person B if Person B didn't know that Person A felt that way to begin with. It's called communication. If you both know what is acceptable and unacceptable in the relationship, then you both are responsible for either abiding by that, or choosing to not be in that relationship.

Now let's say you both understand what's considered cheating in the relationship. If you're being cheated on, it's not your fault. No matter what BS the other person tries to pull, it's not your fault. If you've talked about issues you're having and have made an effort to fix it, and they still cheat, that's THEIR fault. Even if you haven't made the effort, that doesn't give them the right to cheat. That means they need to leave the relationship and find someone that fulfills their needs.

If you've been cheated on, and choose to stay in the relationship, and then cheat on them, you're just as awful of a person as they were, if not worse. You don't get a 'Get Out Of Jail Free' card just because they betrayed you. YOU chose to stay with them, and you're still subject to uphold your end of the relationship agreement. Otherwise you're just looking for a reason to justify your horrible actions, like a true cheater. If you make your choice, you get to live with it.

So quit crying about how Facebook ruined your marriage. Plenty of married people use the Internet and can manage to keep it in their pants. Quit blaming your significant other's ex, because most of us are perfectly capable of getting over our exes. And quit blaming your unfulfilled relationship. If you need something else, then leave and find it.

If you cheat, you're the one to blame. End of story.

“Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will – his personal responsibility.”
Albert Einstein




You're much more savvy than I've given you creds for ... ;) I wholeheartedly agree with every single word; in fact, it's almost as if you were right there with "us" the entire time. *grin*. I feel exonerated now ... And since it's also coming from a female, square that. No, cube it. Hehe.

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