I need some boyfriend advice

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Wed, 08/31/2011 - 4:17pm
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I need some boyfriend advice

I am very upset with my boyfriend. We met online a few months ago. Sounds stupid I know...but I fell in love with him. He was a heroin addict that claimed to be clean and sober the day we met.

However, now hes telling me that he has slipped a few times by shooting up pain killers. I have never used drugs so I do not understand just how addiction takes over a person. A lot of drama has played out since we met that wasn't my fault...but he is blaming me for it. I forgot to mention we live 150 miles apart so its been hard on our relationship also.

This past Monday he called to tell me that either I tell him it was me that started the drama or he needed time to think if he wanted me in his life. I told him that I'm not a liar and that I didn't start anything. I thought perhaps hes being paranoid because of the drugs or maybe he does this sort of thing online to get money or something?? He also has asked me how much money I make and how much I have on hand, which my sister says is a big red flag.

I appreciate your input on this.

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Sat, 09/03/2011 - 9:47pm
Anonymous Visitor
Re: I need some boyfriend advice
heroin addict? your sisters right, watch your back and keep your money close. hes bein an immature brat if hes tryin to put everythin on you. hes lied to you bout bein clean how do you knw he hasnt lied to you bout who he is? if its been like that since yall met I do not know why ya even try long distance. he isnt worth your time. if he wants you he can crawl his sorry ass back to you.
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Sun, 09/04/2011 - 3:16pm
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Jennymoore
Re: I need some boyfriend advice
WEll first of all, Don't Feel crazy for trying the Online Date thing, Anyways the Drug thing, should had been a Big warning Sign...
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Sun, 09/04/2011 - 4:54am
Anonymous Visitor
Re: I need some boyfriend advice
Uhh... this doesn't sound good.  The red flags are flapping so hard that you should be getting welts.  Pretend you are older and think how you would advise your little sister or a favorite niece if they were in this situation. The danger sign is that he's not just addicted to one thing.  See... classic addictions happen when someone's body develops a tolerance and an actual need/dependence to ONE thing.  Alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, opiate derivative. This person has a serious personality flaw is doing ANYTHING to get into an alternate place and then develops the addiction.  He is unlikely to change and you have no future there.  This type of personality will always be looking for drugs.  He will steal from anyone including family and friends.  He will make life miserable for you.  This type of person cannot hold a job and will often have run-ins with the law.  Have you checked the website of his local law enforcement for mug shots?He isn't boyfriend, husband, or father material.  There isn't a future here.  Cut it off unless you want to live in squalor and be on a first-name basis with the people at county lockup and rehab.  You don't have a lot invested besides a small piece of your heart.  Say goodbye, block his email and hope he doesn't know you or your parents' addresses.
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Tue, 09/20/2011 - 9:49pm
Anonymous protecter
Re: I need some boyfriend advice
he is using you to support his evil ways, you MUST leave him now. he will be mad and if he knows where you live, thats even worse. you should try to get a police man as a steady boyfriend to protect you in case that guy comes after you. he will never ever change, so dont think that just talking to him would help. FOR YOUR SAFETY AND THOSE OF WHOM YOU LOVE GET RID OF HIM May God be with you on your journey
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Tue, 09/20/2011 - 11:32pm
Anonymous Visitor
Re: I need some boyfriend advice
Why are you asking for relationship advice on a geek website? Stooopppiid.....
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Wed, 09/21/2011 - 4:49am
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Anonymous Visitor
Re: I need some boyfriend advice
This section is in the Help With Everything Else - "Wide Open Forum".  Posts regarding dud boyfriends are suitable for this sub forum.  If you were a man and you need advice about removing the eel that swam up your penis, that belongs in "Lifestyle: Beauty, Fitness, Fashion, and Health".  If your 12-year-old daughter is floating above her bed and the local priests are not helping, post that one in "Parents and Kids".
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Tue, 09/27/2011 - 4:40am
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Anonymous Visitor
Re: I need some boyfriend advice
Still though----the people on a geeky site like this aren't here interested in relationship issues.poster would be wiser to ask this on a relationship based forum or better yet----a heroin or drug forum-----but judging by the apparent stupidity of the sitch the poster is in one would not expect them to have the common sense to realize this. IOW---STTOOOOOPPPIIDDD.
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