Spying on My Kid...... HELP!!!!!!!

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lilone_2323
Spying on My Kid...... HELP!!!!!!!

i wanted to know if there was a free program that lets me know every single thing my kid is typing on line and its not going to give me a virus and send my personal info out.... can you email me if you know.......... thank you!

   

jewels
Re: Spying on My Kid...... HELP!!!!!!!

One of the other members "whisprsnthdark" was testing a program called Win-Spy. It looked pretty comprehensive, had a free trial, and the purchase price was only 19.99. Maybe you could email him through the contact form and see how it turned out.

jewels
Re: Spying on My Kid...... HELP!!!!!!!

, I'm a little curious about something if you don't mind. How do you handle it if you do find something unacceptable without alerting them to the software being on the computer? I've always wondered about that...LOL Guess cause I don't have kids yet...and at my age, it ain't lookin good....LOL

mizwingzz
Re: Spying on My Kid...... HELP!!!!!!!

Personally, I think a parent should let their kids know what programs are on the computer. They will whine and say things like, "Mawwwwm!!! Don't you trust me?!?" to which you could say, "Of course I trust you. I just don't trust what other people online might be doing. I love you and ... blahdee blahdee blah." The fact that you're paying attention may make them more hesitant to take risks. And I think kids feel safer when they know we're paying attention. On the other hand, there are some very competent teenagers who can get around those kinds of things but those are generally up to no good anyway and have little to no supervision. Case in point, Chris007! And I think telling your kid you found something you don't like is just honesty and making them own up to it. This lets you make sure they understand what's acceptable in YOUR house and what isn't. You understand they're curious, more blahdee blah, but "we don't do that sort of thing in our family." Won't fly exactly smooth, but it's a good starting place.

Been around the block or two, I have!

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LynnH
Re: Spying on My Kid...... HELP!!!!!!!

This reminds me, I have a 23 year old daughter and a 19 year old son. I asked them if they had ever heard of myspace (I just asked my son about a month ago) and they both told me when I asked them about it, that myspace was not a good place to go to, that they had heard bad things about what goes on there. My daughter has her own family now and her S.O.'s little brother apparently has a myspace and she's not happy about it and trying to get him to not be on there. (That was good to hear).

My son however, is an extreme online gamer with his friends. I keep tabs on what my son does online and he has no idea, and I knew he didn't have a myspace, (through our home computers), but had to ask because it is possible he could have one that he accessed through one of his friends computers. But no, I pretty much got a lecture from him that I should stay away from it.

Get typeagent. It will be worth it to know what is going on.

 

 

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a12f34t56y
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Well so far (knock on wood) I haven't had a problem yet.  Not sure I guess I would find a way talking about the web site and give the chance to tell me first with out having to confront them.  My kids are pretty open to me and my husband.  I worry more about them getting caught up in something that they don't know is bad or questionable.  If they went on a sight I didn't like I would probably say something like "Hey ---- have you ever heard of xxxx.com I heard of some really scary things about them"

Yeah because if they go to www.analhoes.com, you can just say "hey, have you heard of analhoes.com??? I heard bad things about that website!", without them figuring out that you were tracking their online activities.

Some of you guys make me sick. Like the mom (Lynn) talking about how she spies on her 19 year old son.

LynnH wrote:
My son however, is an extreme online gamer with his friends. I keep tabs on what my son does online and he has no idea, and I knew he didn't have a myspace, (through our home computers), but had to ask because it is possible he could have one that he accessed through one of his friends computers. But no, I pretty much got a lecture from him that I should stay away from it.

Ok, understand that what you're doing is illegal because he's 19. If you have a program on his computer that tracks his online activities, and his keystrokes, you're definitely breaking the law (the fact that you're his mom has no bearing on this situation, because he's 19, and legally an adult). Your mommy days are over, if he wants to do something online that you don't approve of, then too freakin bad for you. Do you realize that he could sue you for invasion of privacy, and win? Not to mention, what you're doing is a GREAT way to create mistrust in your family. How can one expect him to love his mom when she spies on his activities without his knowledge, especially when he's at that ripe ole' age of 19. I can tell you if my mom did this to me, I'd never talk to her again. But then again, she wouldn't do that because she realizes that she can't baby me for the rest of her life. Lynn, your son is 19 now, he's not a kid, and what you're doing is, and will continue to be, extremely illegal. I hope he finds out and you have to deal with the fact that your own son can no longer trust you, as well as deal with the legal ramifications of it all.

Threads like these are absolutely pathetic. Infact, this thread was so pathetic that I was compelled to register and inform you of how pathetic all of you are.

How about this... try TALKING to your kids instead of going behind their backs all the time. I understand that you're concerned, but this is akin to not letting your kids go outside because you're worried that they might meet with some adversive situations. You're all terrible parents, shame on all of you.

CM
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Uh oh.  Can’t we all just get along???  ‘Mom, before a flame war starts, just be the bigger person and let it go.  Ain’t worth it.  Don’t go there and get banned.  I'd hate to see that.

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