Why do you check out the Ex on Myspace?

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Hot2na
Why do you check out the Ex on Myspace?

After reading a great/brief article this morning, "Confessions: I Cyber-Stalked His Ex," I couldn't help think of GuG and the many that are here to learn to do the same whether it be a social site profile or an online photo storing site. What is it that you wish to learn or gain? To be honest, I'm just flat out nosey. Not curious. Nosey. There are no great loves is my or his past, however I do enjoy checking out past colleagues, friends, old neighbors, and such just to see what they are up to these days - - without having to call or email them directly.

What has checking out the ex or past done for you? Has it ever inspired you to re acquaint with an old friend or flame?

   

LBL
Re: Confessions: Why do you check out the Ex?

 Yeah.. I did this to Hubby-to-be's ex.  She's now on my friends list now (not that I trust her or she's now my BFF), but I now realize that all that checking up I did... made everything worse for me.  It made me more insecure because I kept feeling that something was there and something was there, and that idea was STUCK in my mind...but in the end, I found there was nothing between them.  So I would basically torture myself looking for something that was only in my head.  Now of course, that doesn't apply to everything; that was just my situation.

Now, for everyone else, I'm like you 2na.  I'm just nosey.  I like checking up on poeple I used to know, but don't talk to... old neighbors and such.

 

 

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Green
Re: Confessions: Why do you check out the Ex?

 I have snooped at the husband's ex and the one and only reason I care what goes on under her roof is my step daugter....straight and to the point.

~ Proud supporter of Father's rights ~

downgirl2182
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Green good point! Thats one reason i snooped at my ex's new girlfriend.. I wonder what shes like, and if shes good enough to be near my son.

 

"If everybody is thinking alike then nobody is thinking"

Zoo Keeper
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Green...I so remember that! When my husband started dating this one girl while we were seperated I had the hardest time, not because of him, but because of my son. It killed me to know she was there with him. She was a nice person and still is I'm sure but there is just something about someone else tucking your kid in that kills you. I remember thinking that he was going to like her better than me and my best friend says to me "Of course he will because she has to be nice all the time and you have to be mommy! You don't need his approval to stay around, she does." I laughed and felt better.

As a recovering stalker, I used to check a lot on my daughter's stepmother but I am 42 days clean today....lol! I think I did it because of the same reasons but I realize I don't have to. If I don't read what she is saying then I don't get bothered. I used to be amused at these long paragraphs she would write on her friends comments about what she did each day or weekend. I mean, geez, who are you writing for? Just call her ass! Her stepmother ruined their relationship all by herself. I liked her in the beginning and still have no doubt about her love for my daughter but there are just certain things you shouldn't do especially when it involves a mother/daughter relationship. I feel bad for my daughter because now she feels like the adult who has to humor her stepmother when she sees them. She is not rude but just doesn't care to see them anymore. She says "I love her Mom, I just don't like her."

And on top of that I am just nosey like 2na! Thankfully my life is so easy going and predictable not mention a weeee bit spoiled, so it is entertaining to see others and the forum with which they use to act out their drama. I am always amused to see how people I went to high school/college with turned out. Is the cheerleader fat and ugly? The quarterback a drunk? I don't want to talk to them but it is always interesting to see how people turned out. People and their actions/emotions fascinate me!

 

Hot2na
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Zoo Keeper wrote:
And on top of that I am just nosey like 2na! Thankfully my life is so easy going and predictable not mention a weeee bit spoiled, so it is entertaining to see others and the forum with which they use to act out their drama. I am always amused to see how people I went to high school/college with turned out. Is the cheerleader fat and ugly? The quarterback a drunk? I don't want to talk to them but it is always interesting to see how people turned out. People and their actions/emotions fascinate me!

yes, precisely! dead on with the response Zoo Keeper. couldn't have worded it better myself. zero interest in bringing them back into my life or me theirs. just flat out nosey.

 

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AyBayBay
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Definately accurate! I am nosey to a fault. I check everything and everyone! I can't help it, my job requires me to be at computer and gets really boring at times so off nosing around I go.

snazzy
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Green wrote:

 I have snooped at the husband's ex and the one and only reason I care what goes on under her roof is my step daugter....straight and to the point.

~ Proud supporter of Father's rights ~

i can relate. tho the ex seems to dig the dramatics so there is usually some lame attempt at busting chops. its the same crap as always just on a different, cyber, level which means its come to be down right entertaining. i have a pretty good picture of what goes on under the roof after all that

PinkJammies
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I often wonder what happened to my ex's but that's about it. I never go digging up their info or trying to get in contact with them. They're in my past for a reason and I feel there is no second chances.

downgirl2182
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Alright miss noset 2na! :) .... I think the reason is because your pissed it didnt work with your ex so you check up on them to make sure it isnt working with them and someone else.. plain and simple...

"If everybody is thinking alike then nobody is thinking"

Hot2na
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downgirl2182 wrote:
Alright miss noset 2na! :) .... I think the reason is because your pissed it didnt work with your ex

lmSao right now. make no mistake, that suggestion is wrong on so many levels. it'll be a riot when coleybooop and bella22 read it. but i do appreciate your wicked sense of humor love! my ex is just that. its like that part of our lives never existed. clean amicable and no cross fires. my nosiness lies primarily with women in my past that used to attempt to make my life miserable. when i'm bored or have way too much time on my hands, i like to pop in unexpected.

 

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